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beautifulcreature45
April 23rd, 2014, 06:40 PM
Ok, letting it out so it won't cause any confusion. My mother is gay. My supposivly 'step mom' is her girlfriend. I'm not shamed at all for this and it never bothered me one bit.

Anyway the step mother has been in my life since I was 15. I am now 17 turning 18. She came off as a nice sweet understanding person. After a few months she decided to show her ugly ways. She acts if she's extremely bipolar, which I believe she's just moody as hell. She'll actually sit there and argue with you about anything!!!! Ex: if she believed the sky was purple it was purple. Complete know it all.

One time when we use to live in her house, my mom and I, she came into my room and swear to Jesus that I was reading in the dark just because I had papers spread on my bed. When I in the middle of explaining myself she RUDELY slammed the door in my face.

Another event that happened was that around in November 2012. I live in Louisiana where the climate is on it's period. It was warm but breezy. Yes. It happened like that out in the south. She use to drop me and her 8 year old daughter to school each morning. I didn't take a bath that night so I showered and washed my hair. When she saw me she completely caught an attitude telling me that it's too cold to be wearing my hair in the cold. I POLITELY pointed out to her that it was not that cold and how she did the same thing. She yelled at me saying I was disrespectful and that I don't listen worth shit. I texted my mom and told her the situation(she was already at work). She told her girlfriend and she once again yelled at me for being messy. What a horrible morning.

Ok so this next one is crazy. My boyfriend, that I'm still with today, loans out money to help people out. She borrowed $600 from him because she splurged all her money on God know what for TWO MONTHS instead of paying the rent. This was from the summer of 2013 and she still hasn't paid him his money back. Now I'll let you know that my boyfriend is very respectly and doesn't get out of line with people. He's very humble and a Christian Boy. He was calling her phone amd texting her, asking if she could just pay little by little instead of $200 a month. She got the nerves to block his number and lie saying he's disrespectful and called her out her name and blah blah blah. Already knew she was lying. He doesn't even say damn if he stubbed his pinky toe. Ugh I hate liars with a passion.

Did I forget to say that she lets her 13 year old and 10 year old run her over like dogs but tries to control me? Yup. It's like that.

Anywho, my mother now owns my grandmother's house because she passed away in February. God bless her soul. We all live in it including my uncle, oldest cousin and his girlfriend. Don't ask. Anyway the step mom hates my cousin because he got her old car towed into the police pound. She claims how she hates living here soooooo much. I got tired of the bitching one day and told her to leave if she hates it here. She looked at my momma saying, "Well say something!!!" And my mom directly told her "don't put me in your battles." And an argument broke out.

She's so rude that when my boyfriend comes over and speaks to her she just ignores uim so I do the same to her. If you ask me that's being rude and disrespectful. I'm four months pregnant and about to graduate in a month. I don't have time for the bullshit anymore. Once I graduate I'm moving out with my boyfriend. And to put the icing on the cake she tried to demand me not to move in with him because I won't make a living with him. He works two jobs that aren't fast food, he lives in a quiet and nice neighborhood and he pays all his bills on time unlike her.

Im just trying not to stress out anymore. My hair is thinning because of her. Any advice?

parzzival
April 23rd, 2014, 07:28 PM
Just try to deal with her as much as possible. If you truly can't stand her any longer move out as fast as possible. if you have a really good friend move in with her/him. If you can afford to rent your own place then do that.

DiamondsGirl
April 23rd, 2014, 09:12 PM
Whoa that sounds like a cross between my mom and Satan himself. I don't think you need advice right now really because you're already halfway out the door and you're of legal adult age. Just grit your teeth and wait until the time comes for you to move out.

Meanwhile, do accept that no matter what she is your family now. Listening to her bullshits is annoying, but arguments are stressful. The best wars are the ones you managed to avoid. Do realize that you are younger than her, and it is common courtesy for you to respect her. If she thinks you're being disrespectful, apologize. Ask her HOW should you act instead. As you already know, it is impossible to win a fight against this kind of person. As the more mature, rational side in this "battle", it is wise for you to step back and compromise.

Dalcourt
April 24th, 2014, 04:22 AM
Well, as it sounds that it's just a matter of time till you'll be leaving anyway just ignore her. I mean you can't change her attitude so just stay away from her as much as possible and don't let her stress you out. It's really not worth it...take care of yourself and your baby that's more important than listening to her now, if she's bitching just leave and let her talk to herself.

I wish you all the best :)

laurakitty
April 24th, 2014, 04:39 AM
There's a meditation app called take a break I recommend the 7 minute one it could really help with the stress I think cos you don't wanna loose hair just because of her it's free too!

Babiole
May 4th, 2014, 08:12 PM
Stepmothers can be very cruel. I know a few people with very bitchy stepmothers. (My own mom is a stepmother to my half-siblings, but at least she isn't like that.)