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Alex_3869
April 23rd, 2014, 02:54 AM
Hey guys, I haven't really posted in relationships and dating, so if this would better suit teen sexuality mods, move it there :D

Anyways. This is a long and complicated story, but the basic question I'm asking is, should I keep going after him or just give up?

So this guy, we are going to call him E. Transferred into my science class when the semester started in January. He is really good looking funny etc. etc. all that stuff I look for in someone. The thing was I didn't know if he was gay or not, so being the nosy little mfer that I am I searched for him on instagram. And in his bio it said he was bi. So good sign.

He is really popular in my science class. We're mostly all misfits except for about 10. So all of us generally group up and talk, but I'm so misfired I guess that I don't really fit into that huge group, that or they just ignore me. Then in the class one of my best friends, we'll call her R. She is the only one I'm "really" out to. But that's a different story, different thread. And she knows I really like this guy.

Early in the semester I walked into the bathroom and saw him smoking an e cig. Don't know if that part is really relevant, but I felt like including it. I have always felt like he doesn't really like me as a person, which I'm beginning to think is true. He doesn't like talk to me unless I ask him a question or something. And I'm the only one in the class who doesn't have another class's with him. (yay me)

A couple of weeks ago he unfollowed me on instagram. And I may or may not have liked one of his ask.fms and now I can't really unlike it. And I went to the extent to take my account down, but my name is still attached to the like. So... Yeah that's going to be interesting. But it isn't like he will say anything to me about it because he doesn't either way. So that situation is going to be really awkward. Plus it happened at 3:00 am. I probably seem like the creepiest person to him.

He might be dating a girl now... I don't really know. But all of his previous relationships lasted less than a month.

So yeah tldr I feel like a stalker, and I think I should give up on this whole situation. The year is almost over, and it's not extremely likely I'll be in any classes with him next year. Should I just stop trying all together?

DiamondsGirl
April 23rd, 2014, 07:19 AM
I wouldn't worry about the whole ask.fm scheme. All you did is put up a like. You didn't follow him home or text him every hour. Relax, you're not a stalker.

If you already believe you should give up, then do it. From what you're describing it really does sound like the chase of a wild goose. It's alright you'll meet someone new.

NeuroTiger
April 23rd, 2014, 07:22 AM
Probably he isn't your type finally...;)
If you think giving up in such a situation is the best alternative, just do it dude.

ChrisTJ
April 23rd, 2014, 07:42 AM
Yeah the decision is yours at the end of the day but there's nothing in that post that suggests he is into you. Also unfollowing you on Instagram is really negative. I'm afraid I don't have a good feeling about this.

Alex_3869
April 24th, 2014, 03:11 AM
I wouldn't worry about the whole ask.fm scheme. All you did is put up a like. You didn't follow him home or text him every hour. Relax, you're not a stalker.

If you already believe you should give up, then do it. From what you're describing it really does sound like the chase of a wild goose. It's alright you'll meet someone new.

Yeah. After a few hours I realized that the ask fm thing was stupid. I don't even have his number so I can't really text him at all. :(. That's fun. We had bio today so I saw him, but nothing happened. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing...

DiamondsGirl
April 24th, 2014, 05:44 AM
Yeah I don't want to sound like a creepy fortune teller but you're gonna feel like that for a little while. It does go away eventually. One day you'll look back and shake your head with a grin on your face.

Alex_3869
April 24th, 2014, 08:15 PM
Yeah I don't want to sound like a creepy fortune teller but you're gonna feel like that for a little while. It does go away eventually. One day you'll look back and shake your head with a grin on your face.

Yeah, I know what your saying. I am kind of at a major crossroads here. But I'll see him again tomorrow, and I (hope) that I will get a better picture of what's going on. I see him in the hallways and he doesn't really look at me. I'll kind of idk observe body language tomorrow. I noticed some odd stuff yesterday, so idk. I'm not going to get my hopes up or anything.

Cloud_Strife
April 25th, 2014, 06:33 AM
Anyways. This is a long and complicated story, but the basic question I'm asking is, should I keep going after him or just give up?

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So yeah tldr I feel like a stalker, and I think I should give up on this whole situation. The year is almost over, and it's not extremely likely I'll be in any classes with him next year. Should I just stop trying all together?

At the end of the day, whether in relation to relationships or other things in life; if you think something is worth pursuing, then that is what should be done. It is far better to have failed in the pursuit of such, then to not have tried at all. To do the latter, risks having you wonder in the times to come, what would have happened otherwise.

All the best. Keep us updated?