Confused

[fastcar]

I am confused because I'd like to believe I am straight. With that being said, I jerk off and fantasize about other guys. I have determined that I only have "lustful" feelings, no romantic or emotional attraction to them. If i do watch porn, its gay porn, and then afterwards I go into a denial state. I have been this way for a long time and find it hard to keep my boner when I fool around with my girlfriend... It might just be in my head because I get a boner and then start thinking about how I'm not gay and then my mind wonders and I have conflicting thoughts and so on until my bone is no more.
I know that this probably doesn't make much sense because I'm tired and brain dead, but I just needed to put my thoughts into words.. Is there anyone else out there like me? Or have any advice?

[openminded-sama]

Watching gay porn doesn't make you gay. Also this may just be a phase that will eventually end like it happened to me

[NeuroTiger]

Watching gay porn doesn't make you gay. Also this may just be a phase that will eventually end like it happened to me

Exactly ;)

[Elysium]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality
openminded-sama is totally right, but I'd also like to pitch in that you're probably thinking about it too much. If you learn to relax and not worry so much about it, the rest will come naturally. :)

[Alex_3869]

I agree with Elysium. Just do what feels right and don't over think it. You don't need to figure everything out instantaneously. Just let it happen

[Chase_57]

I am the exact same way, it freaked me out and confused me for a while but I have very supportive friends (about half are gay or pansexual) I decided that there is nothing wrong with having sexual feelings for guys. I know I won't date a guy, but I would date a girl. It's a matter of figuring out who you are and accepting it, otherwise you'll spend your whole life stressing about it. And who knows, it could be a phase. Just learn to be comfortable with who you are and you'll be ok.

P.S I know that sexuality tests like the Kinsey scale test and the Klien sexual orientation grid helped me at least get a foothold on where my sexuality may fall. But make sure you don't let the test result define you.

If you need to talk to someone who was in the same boat feel free to message me.

[Aidoon123]

Other people have been making great points, but also, the idea of it as just sex would turn any guy on, sex just does that, so I would never determine my sexuality through porn alone, give it some time and you will know :)