Having someone just out of Reach

[The_Alpha]

Hey guys,
Over the past 6 months there's just been this one girl who has been absolutely amazing. At one point we were just an inch away from becoming something special.
Problem presents itself in two ways. Firstly as she and a friend had been through a bit together they promised eachother that they'd stay away from boyfriends until year 11. That is a year away. The second problem is though her mother is fine with her getting a boyfriend she won't even let her be alone with one. It took us a group of 5 for us to meet the first time (we met through friends via the web). Then a couple of months ago things got complicated when I made a mistake etc. etc.
Anyway she forgave me and we're back to being close friends. How ever the problem is still there. I doubt we'd be able to go to the same college (senior secondary school for 11 and 12) seeing as she has to look after our other friend with anxiety and two Autistic brothers.

I plan on keeping single until next year like her but without the contact I doubt we'd be able to get together any time soon. I will ask if she might come to my college but I doubt she will with our friend so vulnerable.

Judging from that what would you do?
Thanks for reading.

[DiamondsGirl]

The first reason you don't need to worry about IMO. People make promises all the time. But that kind of promise won't harm anyone if broken so yeah ignore that. The second reason though...

You can still talk to her parents and convince them you really do love her (not just her body) but the distance is worrying me. Some people might already know by now but I'm very, very skeptical about LDRs. If she's going to move elsewhere next year, you might want to forget this whole thing. Besides that, I don't see why you don't need to charge forward.

[The_Alpha]

The first reason you don't need to worry about IMO. People make promises all the time. But that kind of promise won't harm anyone if broken so yeah ignore that. The second reason though...

You can still talk to her parents and convince them you really do love her (not just her body) but the distance is worrying me. Some people might already know by now but I'm very, very skeptical about LDRs. If she's going to move elsewhere next year, you might want to forget this whole thing. Besides that, I don't see why you don't need to charge forward.

Well she doesn't want to break the promise, it doesn't sit well with her morals. Secondly, parent. She lives with her mother and brother, separate from her father. I have no way of convincing her mother, I live on the opposite side of the river from her and we don't go to the same school. Her mother doesn't even know of me and I doubt "friend of a friend who I like I met on the internet" will sit well.

[DiamondsGirl]

I *still* think this is doable. Depends on how far you're willing to go to chase her. How long have you known her? Maybe give it a little more time so her mom would get to know you. But if you don't think she's worth the hassle, it's alright. Just walk on.

[The_Alpha]

I *still* think this is doable. Depends on how far you're willing to go to chase her. How long have you known her? Maybe give it a little more time so her mom would get to know you. But if you don't think she's worth the hassle, it's alright. Just walk on.

She's worth it. Her Mum though. I'm not even allowed to hang with her at her place let alone ask her to mine.