Wanna quit watching porn...

[skiman]

Okay... I just thought I'd come out and say this.

I wanna quit watching porn. I'm not gonna stop jacking off, but I want to quit watching porn, and it's hard to quit. I will go a couple weeks without watching, and then might get super horny on a friday when nobody's home, and suddenly I have to start all over again. I just want to stop and be done with it forever and everytime I get close, I end up going back eventually. I'm a straight guy, and nobody knows I watch it and my parents would butcher me if they found out. Probably slice me up into little peices and throw some salt, pepper, lemon, and garlic on the me slices and throw me on the grill.

Help?

[Everyusernameistaken]

On most phones and pcs you can set up your own content filter just google it it's what I did so literally I could not watch it Haha!

[roadwarrior]

I play pc games so I forgot now to watch porn.. I felt that watching porn screws my life..

[Spookysnail]

Just Hold tight, once you have climbed the mountain you will be over it. I have not stopped though. :/
Good Luck...

[Hermes]

I think you just need to make up your mind to do it and go "cold turkey", i.e. pick a date and then just stop watching it. It is not like a substance addiction where there are phyiscal withdrawal symptoms. It is more a case of it being a habbit, a conditioned reflex - get horny -> watch porn.

You can always try to help yourself by removing the temptation by jacking in a room where there is privacy but no PCs or other devices such as phones or tablets that could be used to view porn but in the end you have to make up your mind that you are going to jack and cum just from using your imagination (and your hand).

[skiman]

Okay thanks guys. The problem for me is I just keep finding a way around content filters and my parents censor the Wi Fi and everything and I keep finding a way around it. Does anyone else intend to stop, and, does the fact that you can get ED from watching it a lot bother you?

[backjruton]

Haha I don't know but our new internet came with parental controls and I disabled them just for porn but I don't think they intended to set them anyway as they haven't put them back.

If by ED you mean Eating Disorder for some strange reason I think if I do have one which I'm still not sure of it was caused by stress and not by seeing other people.

I won't try to stop watching porn because it's one of the only things that can calm me down sometimes, you could try watching less and less of it until you suddenly stop or just tell your parents so they take your computer away and leave you with nothing ;) my parents luckily know I need it though. In fact they were quite happy when I told them I've only ever watched gay porn whch sounds kinda weird... As has been said, try to use your imagination; I've been quite aroused within seconds thinking of certain things but it wouldn't be enough to jack off to but I don't know about other people.

[Jaseblader]

Ughh I would say when your parents leave, find other stuff to do, or just go to sleep when your horny

[Pulp501]

Some people will say there is nothing wrong with watching porn, and tell you it's okay so don't worry, but I totally get not wanting to watch it. Just use some self control man.

Okay thanks guys. The problem for me is I just keep finding a way around content filters and my parents censor the Wi Fi and everything and I keep finding a way around it. Does anyone else intend to stop, and, does the fact that you can get ED from watching it a lot bother you?
I don't think you can get ED from watching porn...

[openminded-sama]

Try 'new' ways to masturbate. New things can be really exciting at their own and this way you may not need to watch porn to get aroused.

[Hermes]

If by ED you mean Eating Disorder for some strange reason I think if I do have one which I'm still not sure of it was caused by stress and not by seeing other people.

I would have thought "erectile dysfunction".

And it seems to be a case of conditioned reflex. Look up Pavlov's dogs. In this case it is a case of if you always use porn to masturbate you may find that without the porn you cease to be turned on. I would expect that this would be a temporary situation and the longer you go without watching porn the easier it will become to get aroused without it.

I have nothing against watching port but it does seem to me that it is worth including a bit of variety in your routine so you don't always use porn but sometimes use your imagination.

Okay thanks guys. The problem for me is I just keep finding a way around content filters and my parents censor the Wi Fi and everything and I keep finding a way around it. Does anyone else intend to stop, and, does the fact that you can get ED from watching it a lot bother you?

I think this is definitely a case of you think you should give up porn but you don't actually want to. You are concerned by what you have heard about ED but actually you enjoy the porn.

It is a bit like the person who knows all about lung cancer but likes smoking. He knows he should quit for the sake of his long term health but in the present he goes for the instant gratification of another cancer stick.

You have to make a decision. If you really want to give up porn you would not be defeating Internet filters you would be concentrating on masturbating without the aid of anything with an Internet connection. If it is not that important to you then stop worrying about it.

[backjruton]

I would have thought "erectile dysfunction".

And it seems to be a case of conditioned reflex. Look up Pavlov's dogs. In this case it is a case of if you always use porn to masturbate you may find that without the porn you cease to be turned on. I would expect that this would be a temporary situation and the longer you go without watching porn the easier it will become to get aroused without it.

I have nothing against watching port but it does seem to me that it is worth including a bit of variety in your routine so you don't always use porn but sometimes use your imagination.

Haha OK, that seems more likely and I feel slightly stupid now :metal:
An eating disorder would be "an ED" and I thought of that because wanting to be like the people you watch... I really want to be like the guys I watch but I know I can't without causing myself pain I know I won't be able to handle :D

I think I may at least have a small case of ED anyway because it's just hard to keep it up when it's there and for some strange reason being walked in on, playing loud music in my headphones and watching porn with girls in make it go down extremely quickly. I can't watch any videos with music in when I'm at it because it can make me take 10-15 minutes longer than I'd like to. I guess the imagination sometimes gets me started and then this helps keep me going... I feel so disgusting saying this, I never would to anyone in college and I've said some quite bad things there :lol:



I guess watching it can be bad because it could possibly cause jealousy; because they're getting it off with someone and you're just resorting to watching them get off with each other. I very rarely watch the videos with more than 1 guy in because I love the thought of that but don't like the thought of sex. There are a lot of reasons why watching it can be bad and I know that but I don't really think it's right for my mum to say her grandad did bad things to her because he watched porn - maybe he was just that kind of psycho... In this sense it's like video games causing violence, the problem is the person and not their habits most of the time I think so this is just the easy alternative to blame what they do rather than to try and get some checking to see if they are the actual problem...

Try 'new' ways to masturbate. New things can be really exciting at their own and this way you may not need to watch porn to get aroused.

Tried it to music before and I don't think it worked... You could suggest listening to songs about sex/masturbation because I know there are a LOT out there and P!NK did one of them but I can't quite remember the name. Other than that and imagination, thinking of people you like and blah blah I can't really think of anything else I would suggest but surely there are a lot of alternatives as there are 7 billion or-so people on this lame little sphere and not everyone likes the same things. ;)

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I think this is definitely a case of you think you should give up porn but you don't actually want to. You are concerned by what you have heard about ED but actually you enjoy the porn.

It is a bit like the person who knows all about lung cancer but likes smoking. He knows he should quit for the sake of his long term health but in the present he goes for the instant gratification of another cancer stick.

You have to make a decision. If you really want to give up porn you would not be defeating Internet filters you would be concentrating on masturbating without the aid of anything with an Internet connection. If it is not that important to you then stop worrying about it.

Well... One thing that could be done is to open up the video on your computer and start off by trying to get off to the sounds alone and if that doesn't work, just end up watching the video and keep trying this until you get somewhere. I can only imagine erectile dysfunction being caused by doing it way too much and by not actually watching porn, that's what he said which sounded weird. It could possibly be an addiction or something and a lot of the time they are really hard to stop - but I soon stopped my RuneScape addiction when I got a new phone on Monday and I haven't been on there for 2 days... :P

And with the internet filters...
Okay thanks guys. The problem for me is I just keep finding a way around content filters and my parents censor the Wi Fi and everything and I keep finding a way around it. Does anyone else intend to stop, and, does the fact that you can get ED from watching it a lot bother you?
Have you actually asked your parents to censor it or do they just do it anyway because they don't want you to be watching anything bad? Surely there's parental controls on your internet box settings, I know they can be harder to disable if they put a passcode that is completely unrelated to anything you know of. And for when you're not at home... If you're in the UK or anywhere else if they have this in other countries (Planet Earth doesn't really explain much) get a giffgaff sim card. I know how annoying it is because I tried to get on these websites before and you need a drivers license to be able to access adult rated websites on your phone then... There are many ways you can put a stop to it but you have to be EXTREMELY willing to, and if you're not EXTREMELY willing to then maybe you shouldn't have started to try stopping in the first place.

[everlong]

Porn can always be a difficult thing to stop looking at. It's true that porn is more negative than positive for yourself, so no longer looking at it is a good idea, at least I would say. You can try to put a filter on what websites you can go on. That way if you ever end up visiting a porn website, it'll block it for you.

If you don't want to do that, just take your mind off it. Find some hobbies. Sports, drawing, writing, and even lazy things like TV and video games work just fine.

[Hermes]

I think I may at least have a small case of ED anyway because it's just hard to keep it up when it's there and for some strange reason being walked in on, playing loud music in my headphones and watching porn with girls in make it go down extremely quickly. I can't watch any videos with music in when I'm at it because it can make me take 10-15 minutes longer than I'd like to.

Nervousness can certainly make it go down and stress generally works to surpress the libido. Some have suggested this is a natural mechanism so people breed when times are good and their chances of survival are good and refrain from breeding when times are hard.

Interestingly I find the same with music, i.e. I can't listen to music and masturbate at the same time. I don't know how widespread it is and did wonder if it has anything to do with being a singer. I wonder if people who play intruments have the same experience or whether it is more general than that. I can only assume music and sex, at least in some people, use some of the same areas of the brain that can't do both at the same time.

...but I don't really think it's right for my mum to say her grandad did bad things to her because he watched porn - maybe he was just that kind of psycho... In this sense it's like video games causing violence, the problem is the person and not their habits most of the time I think so this is just the easy alternative to blame what they do rather than to try and get some checking to see if they are the actual problem...

I agree with you there. When it comes to violence, sexual aggression or sexual predation I think the standards people are expected to keep are well known and it is no good looking for excuses for not living up to those standards.

...I can only imagine erectile dysfunction being caused by doing it way too much and by not actually watching porn, that's what he said which sounded weird. It could possibly be an addiction or something and a lot of the time they are really hard to stop - but I soon stopped my RuneScape addiction when I got a new phone on Monday and I haven't been on there for 2 days... :P

I don't think anyone has suggested that if you watch too much porn you will eventually be unable to get it up even when the porn is available. It is more a case of if you use porn every single time you masturbate there is a risk (not a certainty) that you may come to depend on it and would have trouble getting it up when you couldn't watch porn.

Certainly I have never had that problem but then I don't watch porn every time I masturbate and in the absense of any data one way or another I was advocating changing things up a bit to make sure you have a variety of ways of getting aroused.

Ultimately, of course, the main thing is that when you do start having sex you are able to get aroused for that. Perhaps there is little danger there as, while a real life partner may not live up to a pornstar for many people, there is also tounch and smell which can certainly increase arousal. In fact many people have the opposite problem of how to avoid cumming too soon.

It does seem to me, though, that one should also consider, for example, what would happen if you went hiking in the mountains and slept in a tent far away from an Internet connection of any sort and without any old-style paper-based porn. Would you still be able to enjoy masturbating? If so then great. If not then it is probably time to reduce reliance on porn and, if you find that problematic, that in itself proves a certain dependence.

[ComfortableInChaos]

There are a lot of posts here so I don't wanna read all of it so if this has been said before, don't kill me please lol

I have two methods that I think you should try and use. If the first one doesn't work for you (guys are different with how long it takes them to jerk and cum, so it may not work for you) but the second would should work, too.

If I were you, I would watch it, but gradually stop. I don't know how long it takes you to cum when you watch porn/jerk off, but you can set your own time limits instead of the ones I'm about to give you. Limit yourself to maybe a 10 minute watching limit, then the next time, watch it for maybe 8-9 minutes. After that, try to watch it for 5-6 minutes, then after that, watch it for about 2 minutes, and then after that, stop.

That is the first method. The second one is this.

Watch maybe a video for a couple days, but use the same video. Eventually, I don't think the video will turn you on as much. After that, find a picture you can jack off to. After a while, this will get old, too, forcing you to not use anything but your imagination.

Bonus idea.

You could turn all of your electronics off, computer and phone/tablet if it makes you wanna jerk off to porn, and you can just close your eyes and your your chest/stomach/legs and imagine someone else touching you as you jerk. It may help, it might not. Just give these ideas a chance and they could help you out, dude haha

Message me if you need to talk about anything else.