Xandle
April 20th, 2014, 12:02 PM
Hey, so I really hope this won't be moany, I've just gotta get this out.
So, I'm an 18 year old straight guy. I'm probably around average looking - I certainly wouldn't call myself ugly but I'm hardly 'hot'. I'm generally fairly outgoing, although can be a little held back with people I don't know too well. For all intensive purposes, I'm a fairly normal teenager, even if not typically 'cool'. So my issue is simple; I have absolutely no love life. Never have. I've never had a proper girlfriend, I've never 'done anything' with anyone, meaningful or not. I've never even hugged someone in a way that could be conceived as a potential advance from either party (minus a pretty timid game of spin the bottle).
I just... I despair. I've wanted a girlfriend since I could remember, and it always felt frustrating seeing people around find people to be with, but I was younger, and not everyone had found someone else, but now I'm older and the vast, vast majority of my friends have had some sort of sexual experience. I'm getting worried that I'm going to be left behind. That I'll be in my 20s having not even had a first kiss, and then I'll just be laughed at if I ever find someone. I'm almost at the end of the time where it's maybe reasonable to have never been with anyone. I have friends who think it's odd that some people are still virgins let alone whatever I am. I hear people talking about how they have no love life, when I know they got out of a year and a half long relationship about a year ago. I know to them it feels like they're a bit lonely but it makes me feel as if I'm stranded on an island. It's embarrassing to have never been with someone, and I feel I'm craving that human affection. I just don't know what to do, I feel like my parents are starting to wonder when they're going to meet a girlfriend and I just feel really embarrassed and annoyed whenever they make a 'subtle' hint. I have plenty of friends, many of which are girls, and keep relationships well. Admittedly, I have no idea how to make a move, it usually just goes the same as when I try to make friends, but I think that's partly now because I feel so self-conscience about it. I just feel like no-one wants me in that way. Everyone says it'll work out, but does it have to? I know you'll say I'm only 18, but that's still fairly old to have never had any experience. I'm just starting to really worry about it, and feeling quite down and lonely when thinking about it. Going to parties and seeing all these couples/people hooking up just isn't helping at all either. I don't even know what I'm looking for by posting this. I just had to get it all out. So thanks for listening and any help you may be able to give :)
So, I'm an 18 year old straight guy. I'm probably around average looking - I certainly wouldn't call myself ugly but I'm hardly 'hot'. I'm generally fairly outgoing, although can be a little held back with people I don't know too well. For all intensive purposes, I'm a fairly normal teenager, even if not typically 'cool'. So my issue is simple; I have absolutely no love life. Never have. I've never had a proper girlfriend, I've never 'done anything' with anyone, meaningful or not. I've never even hugged someone in a way that could be conceived as a potential advance from either party (minus a pretty timid game of spin the bottle).
I just... I despair. I've wanted a girlfriend since I could remember, and it always felt frustrating seeing people around find people to be with, but I was younger, and not everyone had found someone else, but now I'm older and the vast, vast majority of my friends have had some sort of sexual experience. I'm getting worried that I'm going to be left behind. That I'll be in my 20s having not even had a first kiss, and then I'll just be laughed at if I ever find someone. I'm almost at the end of the time where it's maybe reasonable to have never been with anyone. I have friends who think it's odd that some people are still virgins let alone whatever I am. I hear people talking about how they have no love life, when I know they got out of a year and a half long relationship about a year ago. I know to them it feels like they're a bit lonely but it makes me feel as if I'm stranded on an island. It's embarrassing to have never been with someone, and I feel I'm craving that human affection. I just don't know what to do, I feel like my parents are starting to wonder when they're going to meet a girlfriend and I just feel really embarrassed and annoyed whenever they make a 'subtle' hint. I have plenty of friends, many of which are girls, and keep relationships well. Admittedly, I have no idea how to make a move, it usually just goes the same as when I try to make friends, but I think that's partly now because I feel so self-conscience about it. I just feel like no-one wants me in that way. Everyone says it'll work out, but does it have to? I know you'll say I'm only 18, but that's still fairly old to have never had any experience. I'm just starting to really worry about it, and feeling quite down and lonely when thinking about it. Going to parties and seeing all these couples/people hooking up just isn't helping at all either. I don't even know what I'm looking for by posting this. I just had to get it all out. So thanks for listening and any help you may be able to give :)