Clueless and it's making me depressed

[Tity boi]

So I'm 17 and for some reason I feel lost when it comes to "getting" girls or taking it further.

Some background I am fairly normal, social, I think I look at least average, there's nothing physically wrong with me, and I can make girls laugh and have have normal conversations.

I just don't get it though. I can flirt with girls but I can never tell what they really think and how I'm coming off to them. Like at parties some kids just "get it". I am confused I just don't understand the basic strategy when it comes to making girls like you. I know this is a weird question but I have no one else to ask. This question makes me sound socially awkward but that's not the case. I just don't understand the way to engage girls to where they like you. If anyone has any advice please. I'm not looking for things to say tho.

[highschool]

are you saying that you're not picking up on the signals that girls are giving you? If a girl is flirting back watch for her eyes(how she looks at you), how attentive she is, if she's touchy, etc. Honestly, just be yourself, and take more chances

[DiamondsGirl]

Just because you flirt with a girl, no matter how good you are at it, doesn't mean she'd instantly fall in love with you. Don't start it that way. Why not ask friendly questions and have a friendly conversation rather than a flirty one? Build your friendship and take it from there.

^^^ Asian advice. I don't know how it works over there but here, this is definitely the way.

[Rallo]

Just because you flirt with a girl, no matter how good you are at it, doesn't mean she'd instantly fall in love with you. Don't start it that way. Why not ask friendly questions and have a friendly conversation rather than a flirty one? Build your friendship and take it from there.

^^^ Asian advice. I don't know how it works over there but here, this is definitely the way.


Works the same over here in Australia.
I quite often see guys making the mistake of going up to a girl and introducing themselves by saying something flirty, usually a cringey sort of joke. It's rare to actually get a girl this way; best case situation you'll make her day, she'll give you her number and you'll get to talk in the future. Keep in mind though, even in that situation it's rare that they'll see you as anything more than a flirt if you're starting with something flirty.

Try something less flirty to start with then move into the more flirty stuff as you get to know them more. Where I live, if you introduce yourself in a flirty manner, you'll be seen as just a flirt. Sure some girls will like that, but if you want something more serious you'll need to introduce yourself in a different way and move into flirting, etc at a later date.

[Synyster Shadows]

Just because you flirt with a girl, no matter how good you are at it, doesn't mean she'd instantly fall in love with you. Don't start it that way. Why not ask friendly questions and have a friendly conversation rather than a flirty one? Build your friendship and take it from there.

^^^ Asian advice. I don't know how it works over there but here, this is definitely the way.

This is good advice in general. Start slow