I seriously need help..

[southern_boy]

Hey guys. Right now, I'm struggling...big time. I'm at a point in my life where I'm not sure of who I am. I grew up liking girls, had two girlfriends, both for significant amounts of time. But at my school, guys tease with me and joke around all the time! When they do, I actually don't shy away or crinkle my nose up to it. I actually welcome it. None of the other guys know this tho. But there is this one guy, and my mind just, I don't know, is so attracted to him. This sounds weird, but I've had dreams about this guy. Yes, those kind of dreams, and like 2 or 3 of them. Is this bad? Is it good? As you can tell, I am, again, struggling big time. I know he's straight, well mostly. He does have this friendship with this other guy and they're pretty close, but not too close. But, yeah, I'm almost positive he's straight. The thing is, I don't know if I am. And I'm scared; I'm afraid; I do not have one single clue as to what I'm feeling. And this isn't with just him either. The dreams, yes, but the attractions? No, I have attractions to some others. I need somebody to help me in this because, like I said, I am so clueless and afraid as to what I'm feeling. Please, just help. :(

[plebble]

Don't worry about it. You will eventually figure yourself out but maybe not just yet and that's fine. You don't have to make any huge life decisions yet.

Take some time to understand what's going on. If you're gay, you're gay. If you're straight, you're straight. If you're bi, you're bi. It doesn't matter.

If you still like girls and are attracted to them, then you may be bisexual or just curious, but I don't know what you think about... only you can answer that. :)

[Living For Love]

I wouldn't worry too much about the teasing, I guess that's just normal between guys. And it's not like anyone would be insulting you if you were called gay. About that particular boy, it's probably just a crush, you will forget about it eventually. I don't think that's enough evidence to determinate whether you're gay, bi or straight. The same with dreams, we dream about so many stuff, that's just not enough to prove your sexuality. I understand when people tell you like: "Don't worry about labelling yourself, you will found out, you're too young, etc...", and they're right because it's in fact true, there's no need to label yourself right now, but I also understand that you want to know exactly where you stand, and as you've liked girls before, and even had relationships, I'd say your at least straight curious. That can change in the mean time, but it's up to you to find out what you really are, and whatever it is, you don't need to worry, because it's normal.

[southern_boy]

It's still puzzling me though. And, I am listening to what you have to say. It's actually funny too, because, some kind of science statistics show that the average human forgets what they dream about in like 5 mins of waking up. I remember all the dreams I have of him, and others of somebody else. I'm just, I don't know how to describe my feeling towards this. I wanna say scared but I'm not really scared? I guess it's just major confusion... :/

[Living For Love]

It's still puzzling me though. And, I am listening to what you have to say. It's actually funny too, because, some kind of science statistics show that the average human forgets what they dream about in like 5 mins of waking up. I remember all the dreams I have of him, and others of somebody else. I'm just, I don't know how to describe my feeling towards this. I wanna say scared but I'm not really scared? I guess it's just major confusion... :/

You feel kinda "scared" because you're probably experiencing this for the first time, and perhaps you're not ready for it yet. In my case, for instance, I have fear of rejection, mostly because of my religion. How can someone be gay and Christian at the same time? It's just incompatible, and my religion is part of who I am, but on the other hand, I just can't deny my sexuality, and I often wonder: why am I like this? Why can't I be ""normal"" like other people? Unlike me, you've already had stable relationships with girls, I've just never felt attracted to them, all this years I've been pretending I was straight or something, so if you already had feelings for girls, it's unlikely that will change now. Again, I still think it's only a crush. You can try to befriend him, keep him close, see if that's gonna change something.

[southern_boy]

See that's the same with me too. I'm a New-Born Christian. And I know that homosexuality is an abomination. Which also scares me. But I see it as this: God loves all His children. It's your choice to be saved or not to be. When we decide to be saved, do we stop sinning? No! Do we sin on purpose? No, we don't try to at least. That's how I see it.

[nino51300]

See, I am being raised Catholic but I don't believe in most of it, so my opinion may not be the best for you. I tend to look at the more scientific side if things, so things like the week of creation and Adam and Eve I don't believe in.

In our bible, Jesus never says anything about being anti-homosexual. It is stated marriage is an act between a man and a woman. So, technically speaking, if you are gay they are okay, it's the marriage they don't like.

I wouldn't sweat it. I cannot change what you believe in, but in my opinion god set you up on a path. If that path includes being bisexual or gay, you won't go to hell for being homosexual or having homosexual thoughts. Humans do have concupiscence(the tendency to sin), so nobody is perfect. In my mind, as long as you are happy and in love with your partner, it shouldn't matter if that is a man or a woman. I really don't think that would affect getting into Heaven if that is what you are worried about. If you killed someone, thats different, but being bi/gay shouldn't matter.

That is my two sense. Good luck and feel free to contact me if you need anything!

[Emerald Dream]

The OP is banned. :locked2: