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charcoalbutterfly
April 19th, 2014, 02:49 PM
So , I've been really confused and I don't have anyone to talk to about this , so i thought why not post at a teen's forum ?

I met this guy B , five years ago . We dated for a quite awhile about two years plus , it was an on and off relationship . After we broke up , we still remain as very close friends . After that, we were both with someone else at that time , but then we cheated on our respective-partners at that time with each other . It was wrong but it felt so right ? After that we stopped our weird relationship , as both of us were actively seeing someone ( new people ) for quite a long time .

He broke up with his girlfriend before my ex broke up with me. He was always there for me when I was depressed and he texted me long and sweet messages. He accompanied me through those slow and painful nights when I was getting through over a bad heart-break .

We usually chat with each other and I know that our social network password / phone password is the same. I get jealous easily when I see him chatting with other girls, as he gets jealous when he sees me chatting with other girls. Well we do talk a lot of dirty stuff and sometimes even sexting.

He really turns me on and he claims that I'm his turn-on too . He's like an addiction I can't quit or just a sexual release for both of us . So should I stop this relationship before it goes to the point of no return or should I not ?

ChrisTJ
April 19th, 2014, 03:03 PM
It's a tough one, I mean if he makes you happy then you can keep him in your life. Only thing is, if you are not going to get back with hin the you need to know you can't move on while you still have this relationship going.

DiamondsGirl
April 20th, 2014, 02:28 AM
I really don't see why you need to leave him. Except there's another issue that you haven't shared? I mean, there must be a reason why you feel like this relationship should be stopped. So far, I can only see two people that really should be together rather than just FWBs.

Danagal
April 20th, 2014, 04:36 AM
If its that important then talk with him and see what you both want and willing to live with.

Saint
April 20th, 2014, 07:02 AM
Being friends with benefits usually ends up in one person liking the other,or both of you getting feelings for each other. If you two aren't into the idea of being together even despite that,I'd say just stop being FWBs and don't allow the relationship to grow.

Lisa R
April 20th, 2014, 07:26 AM
I really don't see why you need to leave him. Except there's another issue that you haven't shared? I mean, there must be a reason why you feel like this relationship should be stopped. So far, I can only see two people that really should be together rather than just FWBs.

I feel the same way as diamondgirl. I couldn't have said it any better.

charcoalbutterfly
April 20th, 2014, 08:45 AM
I really don't see why you need to leave him. Except there's another issue that you haven't shared? I mean, there must be a reason why you feel like this relationship should be stopped. So far, I can only see two people that really should be together rather than just FWBs.

If its that important then talk with him and see what you both want and willing to live with.

Being friends with benefits usually ends up in one person liking the other,or both of you getting feelings for each other. If you two aren't into the idea of being together even despite that,I'd say just stop being FWBs and don't allow the relationship to grow.

I feel the same way as diamondgirl. I couldn't have said it any better.

I am curious yet scared at the same time to know the truth, but I guess it's time to ask , it's been almost four years and I can't stall it longer , I'm going to graduate soon and go to college so this might be the right time to figure things out. and yes , I do have feelings for him no matter how many times he broke my heart . wish me luck eh ? 😏

It's a tough one, I mean if he makes you happy then you can keep him in your life. Only thing is, if you are not going to get back with hin the you need to know you can't move on while you still have this relationship going.

I will try to ! thanks !


P.S : thanks guys , wish me luck & I'll update soon !