Urgent in need of help, thanks!

[arthur1]

Hi everyone, I have a serious problem.

I have recently started developing feelings for one of my closest friends. The problem is, she already has a boyfriend, and even if she didn't, she and I are so close as friends, 'buddies' I guess you could call us (we speak every day, never keep secrets etc) so I wouldn't want to spoil the very special bond we already have. The problem is, these feelings are so remarkably strong that I don't know what to do. How do I get over such a wonderful human being with such a kind heart, bubbly personality, every talent you could name and killer good looks - all of which make my heart burn for her. I think myself lucky to be near her, but I need to get over her as soon as possible because it's just getting awkward now. Can anyone give advice, please? I would really appreciate it. Thanks. xx

[NeuroTiger]

Tell her what you feel for her...choose your moment really wisely.
Good luck! ;)

[drew6]

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[DiamondsGirl]

WTF I can't believe this. It is international common courtesy to stay away from people who already has a partner. What would you gain by confessing to her now? Do you want her to cheat her boyfriend? Do you really want to put her in that awkward situation? Do you really need her to put a stamp and signature on top of your feelings to legalize the fact that you can't be together?

Dude, stop being so fixated and emotional. Like, how old are you?? It's not like this is going to be the last girl you'd ever love in your life. You got your answer; it's not gonna happen. Move on. Is it sad? Yes it is. Can you get over this? Hell yes you can.

[arthur1]

I know that. What I was asking is HOW do I move on?

[DiamondsGirl]

I know that. What I was asking is HOW do I move on?

keep yourself busy and don't listen to those two guys above =| sorry, people. You're just too idealistic.

EDIT actually there's somebody else on the same boat right this moment. Check out his thread.

[highschool]

I would wait since she's in a relationship, even if she does have feelings for you, she won't appreciate you coming in between her relationship. But if(and when) they break up you need to let her know how you feel.

[Maxv]

Get her alone one day, perhaps on the weekend or after school maybe even in school.
Ask her if she will answer a question that you dont want her to worry about and then tell her!!:)

How well is her relationship going??

[jotapoliveira]

Get her alone one day, perhaps on the weekend or after school maybe even in school.
Ask her if she will answer a question that you dont want her to worry about and then tell her!!:)

I agree, but be careful not to get slapped

[ChrisTJ]

It can be very hard to maintain a friendship with someone who you have feelinhs a strong as that for. You obviously have to respect their relationship but being a close friend to her could really hurt you long term. If you want over her, you need to take a nice big step back from her and find others to be close to.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I think you just have to know she is a great friend and you want that to continue - not telling here how you feel is the right thing to do. atm