Have you ever been in love?

[Cognizant]

It's your take on the definition.
Despite being in three "relationships", I don't think i've ever been in love yet =\

[DiamondsGirl]

Yes I have. Only once, with a childish A-hole :) you know you're in love when you feel like your hearts are conjoined. When they're sad, you're sad. When they're happy, you're happy.

[ksdnfkfr]

I guess I'm in love. But I don't really know how to define it.

[ninja789]

yes...

[Karkat]

I've been in love three separate times, by three separate definitions. So fucking weird.

The first: We were BARELY together, and we were always fighting, so this is the one I go back and forth on the most, (plus I was pretty young) but in the end, I usually consider this my 'first love'.

-He wanted to marry me (it's impossible to know how serious he was...)
-I sacrificed for him. I also let myself be vulnerable for the first time after being raped- both emotionally and kind of physically (it was over the internet so no touching).
-It fucking messed me up, and I had a miniature crisis over him the entire week of my sister's wedding stuff (bridal shower, family dinner, rehearsal dinner, actual wedding, etc.)

By the loosest terms, he was my first love, and the first one to break my heart.

The second: My first REAL love. And oh boy, was I in love. So much so that being separated from him for six months lead me to drink more than I ever had in my life. I literally became an alcoholic because I loved him. (Wow, spur of the moment uncomfortable personal revelation there.) But he was yet another LDR, and also became very prudish partway through the relationship (we ended up getting back together- over my drinking, actually. I drunkenly contacted him one night.), and there were some other minor problems. We got engaged, but it was too much too soon, and THAT I think more than anything ruined us. I have absolutely no regrets though, and we're still buddies. In fact, we were best friends before we were a 'thing'.

We were one of THOSE couples. You know the ones. Constant heart emoticons, countless Facebook statuses over EVERY FREAKING THING, always talking about being engaged, way too excited, way too mushy, newlywed phase, yadda yadda.

My current relationship and love: Oy <3 Ok, so this relationship is fairly groundbreaking for me for a few reasons.

-First sexual relationship
-First relationship that is not LDR in like 5 fucking years (yes, you heard that right.)
-Just...On a higher plane of love, affection, and devotion.

I mean, sex can totally heighten romantic feelings in relationships, and everything (I'll not go into depth), but it's even way more than that. I just, well, for one thing, I've gone from cold facts to trying to explain warm feelings. HA! Difficult.

I don't think I'm eloquent or neurotypical enough to even explain how I feel about him. I mean, for one thing, it's hard not to get attached to someone when you've watched them sleep (wow that sounds creepy wait no hear me out), you've fallen asleep and woken up in their arms, you've heard little pieces of their life story, watched them talk about things they're passionate about...And hear their passion for you. It's just a weird thing that hits me sometimes. Like, this is my person. My owwwwwn special person, and I am his. His feelings for me are exclusive, my feelings for him are exclusive, we're the only members of a secret club that is literally entirely based off of enjoying each other, and life- how great is that? I mean, "The little things matter the most" is such a cliche...But that's probably because of how accurate it is. Sure, you fall in love with a person when they propose to you, or when they do some grand romantic gesture, but you just as easily fall in love with a person when you hear the cute way they laugh, or the way they play with your dog (or the fact that they play with your dog voluntarily to begin with), or the way their face lights up when they eat their favourite food.

I mean, really, this post so far does not do me or my relationships justice- my most recent ex and my current squeeze have affected my life SO MUCH. Heck, I don't think I'd be alive without them. There have been soooo many bad times (not fights per se, just life shit) and neither of these men abandoned me once, or hesitated to try their best to come to my rescue. I'm not going to go super into detail- though I probably have on some things in other places on here, but both of these guys? They're lifesavers. Fucking men made of gold. (How I found two of them in 17 short years is a mystery to me irdk. More than that really- I've only DATED two in 17 short years. But how I found even two is fucking astounding in this day and age)

A-N-Y-W-A-Y-S

I know that this was almost definitely longer than you wanted/needed/expected/have the patience for/please don't hate me but uh, this would be the short form of my answer. ^,^"

Edit/PS/footnote thingy: Your daily deepgram (derpgram?) brought to you by Ren. I hate attempting to be "deep". I sound so stupid, bleh.

[Body odah Man]

Not sure. Really really really liked a chick, but from what I've read it mite not ahve been love per se, more like deep genuine affection.
@Jane
Your post made me cry :( :( :(

[laurakitty]

I have and as much as I domt wanna admit I agree with Jane (only read like a bit of her post cos it's too long) there r many types of love

[mai-rin]

I guess I am currently ,but it's hard to open up after the stuff I went through .I'm not sure how long we'll last either because he finds it hard to deal with my self harming and suicidal thoughts .It's a long distance thing ,but i'm flying to the u.s this summer with my family to see him.We've both made our mistakes and we both have complicated pasts so we are trying to help each other heal.I constantly feel guilty about the fact I have my real parents and his mum didnt give a shit about him ,so he was adopted.One thing we share though is the fact we are both fighters in many senses .Even his adopted parents are there for me when I need them (which is a lot more often lately) I'm worried that my ptsd will get in the way ,its already caused some issues and I hate the fact its making him worry about me.People have different definitions of what love is ,now I may not be cheesily romantic like he is ,but I do care .I just cant express it like he can ,which leaves me blushing constantly .He's the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last before I sleep,I worry constantly about him - when he's sad I am too and when he is happy I am.We share something special ,he comforts me when im down and he's wiped tears off my face more times than anyone in my own country has.Its nice to know he cares although its annoying when he talks to my mum more than me some days ,she lets him know how I am .Our families have become close ,too close it feels at times.It'd be nice if it were just me ad him ,but then again the family comes with the package XD I don't know what i'd do without him ,even if we wind each other up at times.So yes i'm in love.

[DiamondsGirl]

I've been in love three separate times, by three separate definitions. So fucking weird.

The first: We were BARELY together, and we were always fighting, so this is the one I go back and forth on the most, (plus I was pretty young) but in the end, I usually consider this my 'first love'.

-He wanted to marry me (it's impossible to know how serious he was...)
-I sacrificed for him. I also let myself be vulnerable for the first time after being raped- both emotionally and kind of physically (it was over the internet so no touching).
-It fucking messed me up, and I had a miniature crisis over him the entire week of my sister's wedding stuff (bridal shower, family dinner, rehearsal dinner, actual wedding, etc.)

By the loosest terms, he was my first love, and the first one to break my heart.

The second: My first REAL love. And oh boy, was I in love. So much so that being separated from him for six months lead me to drink more than I ever had in my life. I literally became an alcoholic because I loved him. (Wow, spur of the moment uncomfortable personal revelation there.) But he was yet another LDR, and also became very prudish partway through the relationship (we ended up getting back together- over my drinking, actually. I drunkenly contacted him one night.), and there were some other minor problems. We got engaged, but it was too much too soon, and THAT I think more than anything ruined us. I have absolutely no regrets though, and we're still buddies. In fact, we were best friends before we were a 'thing'.

We were one of THOSE couples. You know the ones. Constant heart emoticons, countless Facebook statuses over EVERY FREAKING THING, always talking about being engaged, way too excited, way too mushy, newlywed phase, yadda yadda.

My current relationship and love: Oy <3 Ok, so this relationship is fairly groundbreaking for me for a few reasons.

-First sexual relationship
-First relationship that is not LDR in like 5 fucking years (yes, you heard that right.)
-Just...On a higher plane of love, affection, and devotion.

I mean, sex can totally heighten romantic feelings in relationships, and everything (I'll not go into depth), but it's even way more than that. I just, well, for one thing, I've gone from cold facts to trying to explain warm feelings. HA! Difficult.

I don't think I'm eloquent or neurotypical enough to even explain how I feel about him. I mean, for one thing, it's hard not to get attached to someone when you've watched them sleep (wow that sounds creepy wait no hear me out), you've fallen asleep and woken up in their arms, you've heard little pieces of their life story, watched them talk about things they're passionate about...And hear their passion for you. It's just a weird thing that hits me sometimes. Like, this is my person. My owwwwwn special person, and I am his. His feelings for me are exclusive, my feelings for him are exclusive, we're the only members of a secret club that is literally entirely based off of enjoying each other, and life- how great is that? I mean, "The little things matter the most" is such a cliche...But that's probably because of how accurate it is. Sure, you fall in love with a person when they propose to you, or when they do some grand romantic gesture, but you just as easily fall in love with a person when you hear the cute way they laugh, or the way they play with your dog (or the fact that they play with your dog voluntarily to begin with), or the way their face lights up when they eat their favourite food.

I mean, really, this post so far does not do me or my relationships justice- my most recent ex and my current squeeze have affected my life SO MUCH. Heck, I don't think I'd be alive without them. There have been soooo many bad times (not fights per se, just life shit) and neither of these men abandoned me once, or hesitated to try their best to come to my rescue. I'm not going to go super into detail- though I probably have on some things in other places on here, but both of these guys? They're lifesavers. Fucking men made of gold. (How I found two of them in 17 short years is a mystery to me irdk. More than that really- I've only DATED two in 17 short years. But how I found even two is fucking astounding in this day and age)

A-N-Y-W-A-Y-S

I know that this was almost definitely longer than you wanted/needed/expected/have the patience for/please don't hate me but uh, this would be the short form of my answer. ^,^"

Edit/PS/footnote thingy: Your daily deepgram (derpgram?) brought to you by Ren. I hate attempting to be "deep". I sound so stupid, bleh.

:) that's beautiful, Ren. I hope I'd find people like that in my life soon. Thank you for sharing a portion of your story. After sent crashing down in my first real love, I went through this phase where I believe I would stay single to death. I'm starting to believe love is exclusive, they're only made for people who are beautiful. But I guess there really is a lot of forms of love, and who knows I might be lucky enough to get one in my future :)

[Nihilus]

I have never been in a relationship, and have never been in love. There is no rush for it because I am currently focusing on building myself and my life.

[Hollywood]

No, definitely not. I've been in situations where I've thought that I might be in love, but in hindsight I wasn't.

[Cygnus]

There's two different people that I I've felt something towards, however as such a person who has mostly reached indifference I am 100% sure that I have not felt love.

[tmack1908]

It's your take on the definition.
Despite being in three "relationships", I don't think i've ever been in love yet =\

I think with a lot of people in relationships, lust gets mistaken for love. With love, at least some remnants of your feelings for someone will stay for a very long time even after you breakup. On the other hand with lust, your feelings for someone fade much quicker.

[Elysium]

No, I've never been in love. I've never even been in any real relationship.

[Croconaw]

I don't think I've been in love before, but I do have a slight crush on a girl. I go out of my way to see her sometimes, but I can't help it. I managed to go to two dances with her and I hugged her once. I can't explain it, but I felt like I was melting inside. I only have thirty days left because she is a senior. She's going to college and I might never see her again. Although, I have her phone number.

[everlong]

I'm currently in a relationship that I've been in since March 30th (19 days to be exact), and I feel that I am in love.

[Karkat]

:) that's beautiful, Ren. I hope I'd find people like that in my life soon. Thank you for sharing a portion of your story. After sent crashing down in my first real love, I went through this phase where I believe I would stay single to death. I'm starting to believe love is exclusive, they're only made for people who are beautiful. But I guess there really is a lot of forms of love, and who knows I might be lucky enough to get one in my future :)

Hah, believe me, love isn't only for the 'beautiful'. I mean, physical attractiveness is debatable enough, but even being beautiful inside... I'm most certainly not. I wouldn't say I'm all 'ugly' either, but I'm certainly not an easy person to love. And even in regards to the first guy I fell in love with- I don't consider him some shimmering jewel. He's fairly sleazy, has serious temper issues and a bad attitude, and just is unbearably cynical and pessimistic. He even tried to get me to cheat on my ex while I was with him. I mean, once again, I did love him- so clearly I saw something in him, and he's not all 'ugly' inside either, but he's certainly in need of a 'makeover' imo ;)

None of us are entirely 'ugly' or 'beautiful' in either aspect. We all have our flaws, and that's what makes us human. Love is for those who are willing to let themselves be naked emotionally to someone else. For those who are willing to love in return. You could be the ugliest person out there, and you'd find someone just as ugly who would love you for being you. That's the thing about love. ;)

Best of luck :) Thank you for sharing as well.

[Ocelot]

Yeah, I've been thinking about what "in love" means for over a year at least, and I have pretty much come to the conclusion that yes, I am in love, which kind of really sucks, because they've already confirmed that nothing's going to come of it. The bright side though, is that we're still best friends, which is enough for me, and I don't know what I'd do if not for that.

[clairey]

No, kinda sad but I don't think I have, not in a romantic kind of way at least.

[conniption]

There was this guy that I hardcore crushed on for like 5 years, but I don't think what I felt for him was anywhere near love, especially because he avoided me like the plague, so I never actually got to know him very well.

[Karkat]

Not sure. Really really really liked a chick, but from what I've read it mite not ahve been love per se, more like deep genuine affection.
@Jane
Your post made me cry :( :( :(

(I didn't see this nor did I know it was addressed to me until just now, sorry :P)

D'aww, I hope that's in a good way, not a bad way ;w;

[grossgod11]

It's something that people come to realize after an extended amount of time, there is the rare love at first sight though. Love comes in all different ways, shapes, sizes and feeling, you know it when you have it, cause you never wanna lose it. And being in love doesn't mean you have be in a relationship with them, i love my best friend who's a girl with all my heart and i can easily say id protect her with my life, and do literally anything for her. People find love differently and when its found you gotta hold on and try to make it work, just dont get to caught up in it. Some day you'll find it we all eventually do.

[Body odah Man]

(I didn't see this nor did I know it was addressed to me until just now, sorry :P)

D'aww, I hope that's in a good way, not a bad way ;w;

Bad way sadly. I don't like abuse stories-they make me sick and depressed. some ppl= messed up

[Lisa R]

Yea i was at one time. I ask if we could go a little farther in our relationship. His reply to me no he cares more for his bf and lover than he has ever cared for me.. It came out of no where and never seen it coming untill it hit me hard like train. I was so hurt and confused and seemed so lost for the longest time. But i have found myself and survived and went on with my life.

[highschool]

I think I am now? it's a bit confusing because my heart says I am, but then my brain says i'm too young to be

[Karkat]

Bad way sadly. I don't like abuse stories-they make me sick and depressed. some ppl= messed up

Ah. Yeah, I've had to learn that the hard way. More than once, actually.

[trackstar15]

No not yet, but i will one day

[LifeOfLove]

Oh yeah I have/am now. My boyfriend is amazing. I'm young to say it, but after dating him for about 4 years, I can see myself marrying him for sure!

[Karkat]

Oh yeah I have/am now. My boyfriend is amazing. I'm young to say it, but after dating him for about 4 years, I can see myself marrying him for sure!

I'd say dating someone for four years puts you ahead of most teenagers for knowing what love is, young or not ;)

[NeuroTiger]

Yeah... A few times! ;)
But I prefer real love; a love that will last forever. :D

[Synyster Shadows]

I'm deeply, hopelessly in love with the most perfect girl I've ever met yet we may not speak again for years, if ever :/

[Melodic]

I've been in love, I still am actually.

[Pulp501]

Yeah, it didn't end well. :(

[Cece14]

Haha, nope

[Vocabulous]

I got very close once

[Ozymandiaz]

Ah, love. I'm not entirely sure I've ever been in love. I think I'm in love now, but I'm not sure. I know people out there will say that if you don't that it's love, then it isn't really love. I acknowledge what your'e saying, but I'm going to have to argue with you. I know this girl. We've been friends for as long as I can remember and just recently I've been trying to elevate our status to above that of friendship. And hell, it almost worked.
Before going forward in this story, I think some light needs to be shed on the situation. At the time in which I presented my feelings to her, the conditions weren't really ideal. She had been going through some health problems, not incredibly severe but severe enough to warrant her absenteeism from an entire term of school. Every day I would call or message her and we'd end up talking for hours. One day I brought up the topic of 'us'. I told her how I felt, and asked if she felt the same. She said she did, but in hindsight she didn't sound all that enthusiastic. Regardless, I was ecstatic. To this day, I don't think I've felt happier. But problems arose from her health condition that forced her into hospital over what would have been our first date. Sadly, the relationship had died before it had a chance to rekindle itself. I think my biggest mistake was allowing her to lose interest. We never did have that date.
Fast forward a little bit. Her health had improved and it was her first day back at school. I thought this the perfect time to approach her and try and rekindle the flame.
She had moved on. On the FIRST day of term she had found someone else, in the form of my best friend. They both knew how I felt about her, and they disregarded my feelings entirely. I put on a happy face and pretended to move on. Their relationship didn't last long and I'd made amends with them both, but I still felt betrayed. Hell, I still feel betrayed.

Wow. That was a major deviation. The point is,although she tossed me aside without a care for my feelings, I still love her, or rather I still feel the same way about her. Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds.

[Seemyheart]

I have certainly thought I was. But then I met this one guy, and he completely blew me away. I was in love with him. I know that. But I am not in love now. Just taking a break from it all.

[CharlieHorse]

Yeah
It sucked

[marasms]

yea i think i still am :( sucks after you get rejected

[Bmble_B]

Nope never in my life :P

[Emerald Dream]

absolutely, but it didn't end well at all

[Horatio Nelson]

I thought so, but it all just dissipated.

[backjruton]

I'll update you all on this when I finally gather the courage to say those 3 words to someone I've actually spoken to in the past few days. I saw an old friend from school not so long ago, her words were "I love you Jack" and I said "I love you too" before leaving embarrassed (this was in subway), but I'v only ever felt close friendships and never love, not even with family... just my cats :whoops:

[Gumleaf]

I've been in 3 proper relationships, but I was only in love with one girl. She was my best friend and then became my girlfriend a year or so later. We were in love and I would do anything for her. She was there for me and went through hell at the worst of my depression. I also remember Joanne calling me at 3am telling me she was sick and wanting me to be with her. I remember without giving it a second thought, to sneak out of the house in the freezing air outside and walk to her house and cuddle her while she was sick and had a nasty fever. That is what being in love is. Sex and intimacy are important things, but you know you're in love when you'll do anything for the happiness and well being of your partner. I'm longing to have that type of relationship again with someone special, because there is nothing like it.

[Chaotic Trickster]

No it has never happened.

[jamiecl24]

Yeah i was :( it actually just ended today how ironic