My teacher keeps giving me a hard time for having a crush on a girl.

[Croconaw]

There is this girl who is senior and she's beautiful. I'm friends with her, and I've developed a crush on her. My teacher keeps giving me a hard time about having a crush on her. My teacher asked me if I liked her, and I said no. The teacher told me I was blushing, so I just couldn't hide it. So I've been going out of my way to see her, like, once a week. For example, I know she's always in the cafeteria fifth period, so I come to see her before I go to English class. Yesterday, my teacher saw me high five her when we were walking in opposite directions in the hallway. The teacher says I'm stalking this girl and she is bringing it up with the principal. I hate this teacher because she always waits for me at random places. She waits for me in gym class, the cafeteria, and sometimes study hall. I think it's kind of annoying. If anything, this teacher is stalking me. I just really like this girl, but I value our friendship. My teacher thinks I want it to turn into something more, but I respect that she is straight. I think the teacher is anti-gay because her phone background is the word gay crossed out. She has been giving me shit ever since she found out I was gay. I know she is going to college and I might never see her again after high school. I just want to be friends with her until she leaves in less than thirty days.

[Alex_3869]

So what exactly are you asking?
I think that the teachers behavior is totally inappropriate. She has not right to involve herself in that, and if she is treating you differently then i am sure you could go to your guidance department or the principal.

[conniption]

This teacher is seriously crossing some boundaries. What's it any of her business who you're interested in? You should talk to an adult about it because what she's doing is in no way okay.

[Thatcarguy]

tell youre teacher shes a virgin then she will get mad

[Croconaw]

So what exactly are you asking?
I think that the teachers behavior is totally inappropriate. She has not right to involve herself in that, and if she is treating you differently then i am sure you could go to your guidance department or the principal.Sorry, I should have been more specific. I was asking if she is correct to tell the principal and if you had any advice on what I should do. I skipped school today just so I didn't have to talk to her the day before break started.

[PinkFloyd]

Confront her. Tell her that you feel you're being harassed and that her personal views need to stay out of her profession.

[Croconaw]

Thanks for the replies! I do feel harassed by her. The teacher threatened to write me up as well. I asked her what I did, and she said I was harassing the girl and stalking her. I was so confused. D:

[DiamondsGirl]

I'd come see the principal before she does =\ not to discuss about your crush or her anti-gay views, but simply because of the fact that she is stalking you.

[Croconaw]

I'd come see the principal before she does =\ not to discuss about your crush or her anti-gay views, but simply because of the fact that she is stalking you.

Yeah, but she says she has authority to do that. I don't think being a therapist gives her the right to do that though. She's literally been pissing me off all year, but she has crossed the line with this incident.

[DiamondsGirl]

She's a THERAPIST?? WTF sorry for the caps but why would your school employ that kind of therapist?? I won't care whether it's within her authority or not. Somebody needs to know about this. You can't let her bug you no more =\

[Croconaw]

She's a THERAPIST?? WTF sorry for the caps but why would your school employ that kind of therapist?? I won't care whether it's within her authority or not. Somebody needs to know about this. You can't let her bug you no more =\
I know, right? I wonder why she got that title to begin with. I'm definitely letting someone know on Tuesday when I go back to school.

[DiamondsGirl]

that's the spirit :)

[Karkat]

Ugh, hope things turn out well. If nothing else, you might see if you can file a restraining order, because this woman is actively stalking you, and that's not only creepy- it's an invasion of your life! You shouldn't have to deal with that.

[laurakitty]

Omg babes I feel so sorry for you you're being treated like you're the one in the wrong when actually it's perfectly normal to have crushes and want to see them.
You should put your story across to the principal if she's doing that
Hugs im sorry

[centropede]

She is therapist? Really? And she is anti-gay, and harrasing you?
You should talk to principal and if it doesnt help, tell your parents, like, right now!
Faster=better :)

[Body odah Man]

There is this girl who is senior and she's beautiful. I'm friends with her, and I've developed a crush on her. My teacher keeps giving me a hard time about having a crush on her. My teacher asked me if I liked her, and I said no. The teacher told me I was blushing, so I just couldn't hide it. So I've been going out of my way to see her, like, once a week. For example, I know she's always in the cafeteria fifth period, so I come to see her before I go to English class. Yesterday, my teacher saw me high five her when we were walking in opposite directions in the hallway. The teacher says I'm stalking this girl and she is bringing it up with the principal. I hate this teacher because she always waits for me at random places. She waits for me in gym class, the cafeteria, and sometimes study hall. I think it's kind of annoying. If anything, this teacher is stalking me. I just really like this girl, but I value our friendship. My teacher thinks I want it to turn into something more, but I respect that she is straight. I think the teacher is anti-gay because her phone background is the word gay crossed out. She has been giving me shit ever since she found out I was gay. I know she is going to college and I might never see her again after high school. I just want to be friends with her until she leaves in less than thirty days.

I'm not anti gay, or try not to be, but sadly you can't expect everyone to be tolerant. Many people r just prejudiced against homosexuality and will just give you a bad time because of it. Nothing you can do about it I'm afraid

[centropede]

I'm not anti gay, or try not to be, but sadly you can't expect everyone to be tolerant. Many people r just prejudiced against homosexuality and will just give you a bad time because of it. Nothing you can do about it I'm afraid

Tell me you are kidding.
That teacher is schools therapist! She is not allowed to show publick signs of homophobia or she is not allowed to harras her.
And yes she can do, she can go to principal, to parents, to police (yes, exactly). She doesnt have to live with that. It's her life and she have right to live happy without being harrased.

I dont know how it is in her country but in my country it wouldnt be ok if therapist would harrash her or anything like that, she would get 100% fired from her work.

[DiamondsGirl]

I'm not anti gay, or try not to be, but sadly you can't expect everyone to be tolerant. Many people r just prejudiced against homosexuality and will just give you a bad time because of it. Nothing you can do about it I'm afraid

Tell me you are kidding.
That teacher is schools therapist! She is not allowed to show publick signs of homophobia or she is not allowed to harras her.
And yes she can do, she can go to principal, to parents, to police (yes, exactly). She doesnt have to live with that. It's her life and she have right to live happy without being harrased.

I dont know how it is in her country but in my country it wouldnt be ok if therapist would harrash her or anything like that, she would get 100% fired from her work.

I believe bebop only meant that OP can't change this teacher's views or make her behave differently. The anti-gay therapist is not the main issue here. It is the fact that OP is being actively stalked and threatened.

[centropede]

I believe bebop only meant that OP can't change this teacher's views or make her behave differently. The anti-gay therapist is not the main issue here. It is the fact that OP is being actively stalked and threatened.

That anti-gay is the begining of all this.
If therapist wont be homophobis, she wouldnt stalk or harras

[Body odah Man]

Tell me you are kidding.
That teacher is schools therapist! She is not allowed to show publick signs of homophobia or she is not allowed to harras her.
And yes she can do, she can go to principal, to parents, to police (yes, exactly). She doesnt have to live with that. It's her life and she have right to live happy without being harrased.

I dont know how it is in her country but in my country it wouldnt be ok if therapist would harrash her or anything like that, she would get 100% fired from her work.

In my country I doubt it to be honest. Hard to get fired here unless you really do drastic stuff. Sexual abuse drastic, embezzlment drastic. And as for the harrassment part-dude it's fuckin minor harassment from what I've read. Annoying as hell, yeah, but not 'oo, arrest her' type of drastic.

[Croconaw]

The last thing the therapist told me before I left school was "This is not okay and I will definitely be bringing this up with the principal." I was really scared when she said this only because I didn't want to get suspended for supposedly stalking a girl. She doesn't have any proof of me stalking this girl, but I don't have any proof I'm not. This sucks because I'm kind of scared to go back to school on Tuesday. It'll be my first day back after break and I'll be getting rude comments from a therapist. That's something I'm not looking forward to. At least school is almost over for the year, but I hope this dumb therapist gets fired.

[Body odah Man]

I believe bebop only meant that OP can't change this teacher's views or make her behave differently. The anti-gay therapist is not the main issue here. It is the fact that OP is being actively stalked and threatened.

Ok, I reread the thread and yeah she's giving her shit and stalking her which I believe deserves an official reprimand but NOT incarceration. Also, yeah she's giving her shit but as long as she isn't giving her unfair grades or other stuff like that it sucks but it's not enough to go to the police for. Just gotta deal with it sadly. As for threatening her, ok wanting to tell the principal Feral is stalking a chick is harsh but not that major. Not like she's saying she's gunna kill Feral or something.

[Body odah Man]

The last thing the therapist told me before I left school was "This is not okay and I will definitely be bringing this up with the principal." I was really scared when she said this only because I didn't want to get suspended for supposedly stalking a girl. She doesn't have any proof of me stalking this girl, but I don't have any proof I'm not. This sucks because I'm kind of scared to go back to school on Tuesday. It'll be my first day back after break and I'll be getting rude comments from a therapist. That's something I'm not looking forward to. At least school is almost over for the year, but I hope this dumb therapist gets fired.

Therapist might get fired, might not. Dunno how it is in America that well. As for the stalking issue, that's easily solved. For that charge they have to call the girl in to give her side of the story. All she has to do is say you're not stalking her and the whole thing falls like a house of cards and you're safe. Dw. :)

[Croconaw]

All she has to do is say you're not stalking her and the whole thing falls like a house of cards and you're safe. Dw. :)
I hope it's that easy. That actually made me feel a bit better about going back. :)

[Body odah Man]

I hope it's that easy. That actually made me feel a bit better about going back. :)

It is. For every serious charge they have to have two sides of the story. It's probably even a legal right, least that wouldn't surprise me. They have to give you the right to explain before they kick you out and if you use that girl as ur defence witness ur safe. How you think I didn't get expelled for a small fight in the fountain where I accidentally hit this dude in the face with the key chain I was wearin, which I do regret. :)

[centropede]

In my country I doubt it to be honest. Hard to get fired here unless you really do drastic stuff. Sexual abuse drastic, embezzlment drastic. And as for the harrassment part-dude it's fuckin minor harassment from what I've read. Annoying as hell, yeah, but not 'oo, arrest her' type of drastic.
Still, she is a therapist, A THERAPIST. If she wouldnt get fired, she could go further, on TV or other. Its not normal. Principal of school have to make school safe and comfortable for everyone, including OP. (It's written on the paper, in my country, i really dont know how its in OPs)
This therapist is showing her homophobia, is it normal? Yes or no?

[Croconaw]

Still, she is a therapist, A THERAPIST. If she wouldnt get fired, she could go further, on TV or other. Its not normal. Principal of school have to make school safe and comfortable for everyone, including OP. (It's written on the paper, in my country, i really dont know how its in OPs)
This therapist is showing her homophobia, is it normal? Yes or no?
It's definitely not normal. As a therapist, she should be supportive. It's not right for her to be acting like this. She's making me feel bad about the situation, although I feel better now. This school needs a new therapist. I preferred the one I had back in middle school. He was much better, and he actually helped me.

[Body odah Man]

Still, she is a therapist, A THERAPIST. If she wouldnt get fired, she could go further, on TV or other. Its not normal. Principal of school have to make school safe and comfortable for everyone, including OP. (It's written on the paper, in my country, i really dont know how its in OPs)
This therapist is showing her homophobia, is it normal? Yes or no?

Therapist's are human man. Yeah, sure it's unprofessional to show one's homophobia but if you're looking for a perfect therapist good luck cuz they don't exist. Yeah the therapist shouldn't be giving Feral shit cuz of her homophobia and should be reprimanded but firing her seems just a little too over the top unless there have been multiple other infringements besides this one. Just my 2 cents

[DarkOmega]

u can take it the wrong way ,but I'm getting sick of people that do this .or stupid people .I confronted one of my teachers by telling her straight up . I don't care who has authority she has no right to have any kind of interference with ur life

[CassnovA]

Tell your parents? Im not being funny but if I told my parents that a teacher is esentially bullying/harrasing me then Id be scared for that teachers life.

[ninja789]

What a bitch! If you were doing that to a boy she wouldnt be going through all this

[NeuroTiger]

Friends are friends! ;)
Well, is that teacher in question the anti-gay disciplinary whatsoever?! :P
That's so bizarre for a teacher to act as such while there is certainly higher priorities in life for her!
#strangeWorld

[ImCoolBeans]

Please tell your school's principal about how this teacher is acting. That is seriously inappropriate; she is waaaay out of line to speak to you like that, and to make ridiculous threats based on nothing. Don't let her get away with it, that's what is wrong with education, people like her are allowed to teach. I would be very shocked if your principal didn't do something about it, the very least being verbally reprimanding her.

Don't wait until later on in the day to do it -- do it first thing when you get to school. Even if you miss a little class, it's not worth waiting.

[Croconaw]

What a bitch! If you were doing that to a boy she wouldnt be going through all this
I know, right? It's only because I have a crush on a girl. I think she's making a big deal out of this. She is a bitch and I'd love to call her such, bur that'd give her a reason to get me in trouble. I'll hold back for now, but I'm definitely not finished with her. I want to get it through her head that it doesn't matter who I have a crush on because I'm old enough to make my own decisions. Thanks!

Please tell your school's principal about how this teacher is acting. That is seriously inappropriate; she is waaaay out of line to speak to you like that, and to make ridiculous threats based on nothing. Don't let her get away with it, that's what is wrong with education, people like her are allowed to teach. I would be very shocked if your principal didn't do something about it, the very least being verbally reprimanding her.

Don't wait until later on in the day to do it -- do it first thing when you get to school. Even if you miss a little class, it's not worth waiting.
I'll go in right as I get off the school bus in the morning. Hopefully the principal agrees with me, because I think it's only natural he would take the other adult's side. I'll explain to him what the therapist is doing, though. Thank you!

[ninja789]

I know, right? It's only because I have a crush on a girl. I think she's making a big deal out of this. She is a bitch and I'd love to call her such, bur that'd give her a reason to get me in trouble. I'll hold back for now, but I'm definitely not finished with her. I want to get it through her head that it doesn't matter who I have a crush on because I'm old enough to make my own decisions. Thanks!


I'll go in right as I get off the school bus in the morning. Hopefully the principal agrees with me, because I think it's only natural he would take the other adult's side. I'll explain to him what the therapist is doing, though. Thank you!
Yeah dont call her that to her face.... but really wish you could give her a peice of your mind
Could you not talk to you councillor about this? It is homophobia from what you have said

[Croconaw]

Yeah dont call her that to her face.... but really wish you could give her a peice of your mind
Could you not talk to you councillor about this? It is homophobia from what you have said

I might tell the counselor, but my main concern is telling the principal. Although, the therapist might have already told him. Now I have to tell him I didn't do anything wrong.

[ninja789]

I might tell the counselor, but my main concern is telling the principal. Although, the therapist might have already told him. Now I have to tell him I didn't do anything wrong.

Ask your counselor to keep an eye out for you for a while to see if you are doing anything "weird". That might work but dont know how effective they may be or willing. Maybe ask a friend to watch out too :) then they could back you up if it came down to it

[Meganium]

This is really none of her business. I'd inform the principal about it truthfully. So long as you haven't made any advances on the girl, and she confirms it, you really can't get in trouble.

I can't imagine even a bigoted grudge like your teacher's expanding to the point where she will STALK you and break your contact with a close friend. That's nonsense and it's sickening.

[Croconaw]

Ask your counselor to keep an eye out for you for a while to see if you are doing anything "weird". That might work but dont know how effective they may be or willing. Maybe ask a friend to watch out too :) then they could back you up if it came down to it

I'm definitely not doing anything weird, so that might not be a bad idea. I don't think that she has the time for that, though. The girl I'm supposedly stalking can stick up for me and tell them that I haven't been doing anything weird.

[ninja789]

I'm definitely not doing anything weird, so that might not be a bad idea. I don't think that she has the time for that, though. The girl I'm supposedly stalking can stick up for me and tell them that I haven't been doing anything weird.

didnt think of that
yeah go with that if she is comfortable to do so :)

[Croconaw]

This is really none of her business. I'd inform the principal about it truthfully. So long as you haven't made any advances on the girl, and she confirms it, you really can't get in trouble.

I can't imagine even a bigoted grudge like your teacher's expanding to the point where she will STALK you and break your contact with a close friend. That's nonsense and it's sickening.
It is sickening; I agree. I don't think I've made any advances on the girl and I'm 100% sure that she doesn't think I'm stalking her. I'm sure she would confirm it. They really should get our side of the story before suspending me.

[Rocketsnail]

Honestly, I reckon you should take this to your principal. If you are feeling harassed by her which you clearly are, then you shouldn't have to put up with this. You are allowed to be what you want to be and don't ever let anyone else tell you otherwise.

[Croconaw]

Thank you. I'll tell the principal today.