Why don't women ask men out?

[johnpatric]

It is very simple question..

Why don't women ask men out?

[DiamondsGirl]

They do, John. Some even propose.

[Elysium]

Gender roles, chivalry, tradition, yadda yadda. Some women do, but they're definitely not of the majority.

[DiamondsGirl]

^^^ mostly tradition. Cultural issues.

[plebble]

I don't actually know. They should. It shouldn't be up to the man all the time, guys get shy too :P

[DiamondsGirl]

I don't actually know. They should. It shouldn't be up to the man all the time, guys get shy too :P

exactly what my ex said to me LOL

[ninja789]

I wouldnt even ask out a girl. Far too nervous on that subject

[PinkFloyd]

They do, just not as much. My relationship started with my long time best friend (female) confessing to me that she's had a crush on me for years and I felt the same way. So yeah, she asked me out.

[FullyAlive]

I guess it's just society and what you're used too. I don't really ask guys out I wait for them, although when it comes to starting a relationship that's usually mutual.

I think also personally I just don't like the possibility of being rejected which I get that obviously guys face too so I'm not sure why it still is that more often than not the guy asks out the girl.

[Body odah Man]

I think it's cultural mores/society that's to blame for this.

[Synyster Shadows]

They do, just not as much. My relationship started with my long time best friend (female) confessing to me that she's had a crush on me for years and I felt the same way. So yeah, she asked me out.

This is how it happened for me, except in a much shorter timeframe. But to answer your question, OP, it's definitely got a lot to do with gender roles, expectations, and stereotypes. Women do ask men out but not as often as men asking women.

[Karkat]

A lot to do with gender roles. But I asked out like half the people I went for until high school- the three relationships I've had in high school all asked me. :P

Which, to be fair, one of them was someone I wasn't extremely interested in at first, one was my BEST FRIEND, and one was a coworker who was almost 5 years older than me and also the only in-person relationship I've had in YEARS. (And I'm still with him.)

I was interested in the last two, but I didn't want to ruin my friendship with the one, and the other was like a WHOLE new ballfield for me.

-He was an adult.
-I was technically on the waning end of a relationship and didn't want to be a douche.
-How do you even date as an adult?? It's got to be ENTIRELY different from dating as a teenager! (It is, sort of. However, you have to remember that he was 20, not like, 30 at the time, so obviously it wasn't that far off. I'm also the first relationship he's had since highschool. [Because his highschool sweetheart stayed with him until he moved here.])
-I had no idea what I was doing until like a full week into the relationship I just what

(Come to think of it, this relationship has been fairly wild from start to finish)
(Come to think of it, so was the last one)
(I should write a fucking book about it.)

Which MAYBE I'm just the oddball anyways, being genderqueer and all, but like, the other person usually just beat me to it. And sadly, I think I've been rejected by almost every person I'VE asked...

[Vocabulous]

my exgirlfriend had asked me out. i definitely wouldnt of realized that she liked me otherwise, so im all for it.

[charmynyankawaii]

Well, for girls, our moms say that "the guy should be the one to make the first move" and that's always what my mom says to me it feels like I'm living in the 16th century ^^" But then we're living in the 21st century so I don't think there's anything wrong in a girl asking a guy out ^^ If a girl really likes a guy she should tell him straight out! (sorry for beating around the bush and the long rant)

[Lonely teen]

It's just our society, but girls do ask guys out and like DiamondsGirl said, even propose.

[sqishy]

Some do, but I agree that the majority in society have this tradition going on and I don't see the point in it.

[Dalcourt]

I've been asked out by girls before, so girls do ask guys out just not that often as the other way round.

[electraheartt]

one word; society.

It's sort of traditional to ask a girl out rather than the girl doing the asking. I'm not sure why but I think it's because years ago it was customary for the man to ask the woman if she would like to court him or something, not sure haha.

[Body odah Man]

@^
Society is weird hahah

[Popcorn]

I've asked guys out. Come to think of it, most of the time it has been me initiating things. The gender stereotypes get really annoying. Anytime a girlfriend tells me she's interested in some guy and I encourage her to ask him out or whatever they always think it's "his" job to do that. Poppycock is what I say. I know I'm not a guy, but I think i would appreciate a strong girl that wasn't afraid to be bold and not be confined to typical gender roles.