Call it Curiosity?

[mitch97g]

So I have been curious about my sexuality for a while, even so far as to try to jack off with a friend, almost successfully, but failing in the end. I am currently 16 and male, still a virgin, havent even gotten a handjob yet, only made out with several girls. I watch gay porn mostly, and i don't know what i should do. My neighbor is openly gay, and i have no idea whether to ask him about all this gay stuff and try things to see if i like it, cause if I do like it, that means im gay right? But i am also attracted to girls, right after i cum, all attraction for guys goes away. So im gonna go with me being bi, but i don't know whether to experiment with my neighbor, go on craigslist, or what to do to figure out what my true sexuality is.

I need advice/just someone to put their opinion in on this, please help a brother out.

[Alex_3869]

Do not put an ad on craigslist. Just don't do it.

First off. You need to think about if your attraction to boys is just sexual or if it is emotional as well. Because if you are not emotionally attracted to guys, that is a red flag that you are probably not either gay or bi. If you have both sexual(physical) or emotional attraction to girls than you are not

If you want to talk to your neighbor about it then by all means go ahead. But make sure he is trustworthy. I am not sure about expierementing with him but if he agrees then go for it. You may be going through a phase, which is normal, just curiosity, or you may actually be gay or bi. Only you truly know the answer to that question.

[mitch97g]

Its mainly a physical attraction, not nearly as much an emotional attraction. I could not really see myself in a relationship with another man. It has also been like this for a few years now. Im 16, almost 17 now, and it started around when i was 13ish. I don't think phases of curiosity last that long.

[xxdrakeTxx]

i had a similar problem but later lost all attraction to girls . and i am now completely gay , i think its just a stage i went through, but give it time and you will figure it out and dont put an ad on craigslist .

[Karkat]

Do not put an ad on craigslist. Just don't do it.

First off. You need to think about if your attraction to boys is just sexual or if it is emotional as well. Because if you are not emotionally attracted to guys, that is a red flag that you are probably not either gay or bi. If you have both sexual(physical) or emotional attraction to girls than you are not

If you want to talk to your neighbor about it then by all means go ahead. But make sure he is trustworthy. I am not sure about expierementing with him but if he agrees then go for it. You may be going through a phase, which is normal, just curiosity, or you may actually be gay or bi. Only you truly know the answer to that question.

Oh god, agree with that first line, absolutely do not go to craigslist.

Er, sexual attraction = sexual orientation. Emotional attraction has more to do with romantic orientation and so forth. This would be like saying that I'm heterosexual because I've only ever been emotionally attached to men, and that's so wrong it hurts.

Its mainly a physical attraction, not nearly as much an emotional attraction. I could not really see myself in a relationship with another man. It has also been like this for a few years now. Im 16, almost 17 now, and it started around when i was 13ish. I don't think phases of curiosity last that long.

It probably just means that you're homosexual/bisexual, and heteroromantic as opposed to homoromantic/biromantic. Don't sweat it too much, labels aren't some miraculous thing that makes your life better, it's just putting a word on the way you are.

[ksdnfkfr]

Why is this such a big deal to you? Are you going to need to know your "true sexuality" in order to get into a particular university or to put down on a career application? Just take life as it comes. You don't have to be a specific anything. Seriously, it's not a requirement.

[Celtics]

Why is this such a big deal to you? Are you going to need to know your "true sexuality" in order to get into a particular university or to put down on a career application? Just take life as it comes. You don't have to be a specific anything. Seriously, it's not a requirement.

Its nerve racking and kind of scary when you don't know. All you think about is what you are (gay straight bi) and you want to know..... Nothing to get mad over thought you were actually a good person and you think people shouldn't worry about things that will change their life enormously.

[ksdnfkfr]

Its nerve racking and kind of scary when you don't know. All you think about is what you are (gay straight bi) and you want to know..... Nothing to get mad over thought you were actually a good person and you think people shouldn't worry about things that will change their life enormously.

I'm sorry, when i read what i said that sounded a bit rough of me. its the sort of thing i say to myself to try snapping myself out of worrying over something - because I also worry a lot over stuff like that.

[Celtics]

I'm sorry, when i read what i said that sounded a bit rough of me. its the sort of thing i say to myself to try snapping myself out of worrying over something - because I also worry a lot over stuff like that.

awhh ok sorry for misunderstanding, I thought you were like mad and annoyed.

[ugaboy]

Well, Craigslist kinda sounds like a bad idea. Dont know about your neighbor, as I dont know him. You gotta decide that one. But why even worry about a "label" at this point?