Chivalry

[football3114]

Ladies, would you rather date some one with chivalry or someone with good looks because is seems that all women who appreciate chivalry are gone and the ones left just want some jerk. Not meaning to affend and women these are just my experiences.

[tmack1908]

I'm wondering this too hahah

[Eurasian guy]

Chivalry? are you talking about that mid evil armour stuff?

[Synyster Shadows]

People do like it. Partially, age is a factor. But really, I'm sure most people want to be treated like royalty

[ScottishCanary]

I certainly appreciate a boy who will think of me and my feelings and treat me right. If I met a guy who had a good personality and was willing to treat me right, it wouldn't really matter if he wasn't great looking. I would find it much easier to be in a relationship with someone who wasn't good looking but treated me right and I really got on with than the hottest guy in the school who was a jerk personality wise.

[ninja789]

I used to be all about looks but now it is all about personality (well ok looks help but mainly personality). Just depends on our maturity really at the time.

[DiamondsGirl]

I've proven to myself that chivalry (as in treating me right, respecting me and listening to me when I need it) is much more important than looks. So yeah guess women who appreciate chivalry isn't entirely extinct yet. Though judging by the kind of girls I meet at school I'm a rare breed.

[targaryen101]

I am a guy, and I will ALWAYS let a girl go first, hold the door, walk on a footpath on the side next to the road. I personally think that Chivalry is NOT dead but will die and If it does, it wont do anyone any good. Manners make the Man and reflect on his character.

[NeuroTiger]

Be a gentleman! ;)
That's the best way, isn't it, ladies? ;)

[Saint]

I've proven to myself that chivalry (as in treating me right, respecting me and listening to me when I need it) is much more important than looks. So yeah guess women who appreciate chivalry isn't entirely extinct yet. Though judging by the kind of girls I meet at school I'm a rare breed.

Isn't that something that comes with a relationship? lol

On topic though it's honestly surprising to see a girl being perplexed when you pull the chair out for her in a restaurant,open the door,or even if it's giving flowers. Not many guys go with it apparently,which is why it would give the girl a good initial first impression if it's the first date.

Now,i'm no casanova,but I'm sure every women appreciates a man who can make them feel special. Small actions like these could make you stand out from any other guy she's dated before,so keep that in mind :P

[DiamondsGirl]

Isn't that something that comes with a relationship? lol

On topic though it's honestly surprising to see a girl being perplexed when you pull the chair out for her in a restaurant,open the door,or even if it's giving flowers. Not many guys go with it apparently,which is why it would give the girl a good initial first impression if it's the first date.

Now,i'm no casanova,but I'm sure every women appreciates a man who can make them feel special. Small actions like these could make you stand out from any other guy she's dated before,so keep that in mind :P

you'll be surprised at the amount of guys that don't believe in listening to/respecting his GF in a relationship.

[mermaidfairy]

Chivalry. I really don't want some jerk. I don't think I'd be able to handle it honestly.

As long as they don't go overboard with it. I can't think of any specific examples, but let me do something for him sometime.

[WeAreOneRepublic]

Chivalry isn't dead.

I have witnessed first hand all of this, at younger ages chivalry isn't as appealing because of hormones, popularity and insecurities. Once they get older and move from this phase the chivalry/personality will play more the part.

[Cloud_Strife]

Chivalry isn't dead.

I have witnessed first hand all of this, at younger ages chivalry isn't as appealing because of hormones, popularity and insecurities. Once they get older and move from this phase the chivalry/personality will play more the part.

Have to say I agree with this. Younger girls seem to like 'bad-ass' guys, because they want some unpredictability, some 'excitement'; to make things 'interesting'. Older girls or younger women shift in attitudes later on, to appreciate chivalrous guys because they actually care, I think.

[Body odah Man]

I am a guy, and I will ALWAYS let a girl go first, hold the door, walk on a footpath on the side next to the road. I personally think that Chivalry is NOT dead but will die and If it does, it wont do anyone any good. Manners make the Man and reflect on his character.

I think chivalry SHOULD die because it's based on a sexist principle-namely that women are inferior and deserve the best

[DarkOmega]

I think chivalry SHOULD die because it's based on a sexist principle-namely that women are inferior and deserve the best

r u stupid ? based on a sexist principle , who said women are inferior ? no one . its just about being nice and helping somebody I do it to everybody , doesn't mean they need help. dude .every post I've seen u comment on . u had retarded post just like this one .:mad::(:what::confused::eek:

[Body odah Man]

r u stupid ? based on a sexist principle , who said women are inferior ? no one . its just about being nice and helping somebody I do it to everybody , doesn't mean they need help. dude .every post I've seen u comment on . u had retarded post just like this one .:mad::(:what::confused::eek:

The fact is that chivalry is based only on helping FEMALES. Not males, females. If you want more of my reasoning feel free to check thru miles of posts of the Wheel of Time Reread by Leigh Butler to find the commentary on chivalry cuz I don't care enough for u to do so. Tho I will admit that perhaps inferiority isn't the right word.

[Emerald Dream]

I am going to answer "neither" to the original question.

First of all, looks are not everything. I appreciate intelligence, humor, personality, loyalty, and dedication in a possible date/partner.

As far as "chivalry" goes - I really do like nothing better than a nice guy and someone who treats me well. I just associate the word with the whole "open the door" and "pull out the chair" thing. You may think this is being nice and a gentleman, but please....it's 2014 and I'm not a baby. I'm perfectly capable of doing things for myself. The gesture is completely unnecessary (and even somewhat annoying).

[DarkOmega]

I am going to answer "neither" to the original question.

First of all, looks are not everything. I appreciate intelligence, humor, personality, loyalty, and dedication in a possible date/partner.

As far as "chivalry" goes - I really do like nothing better than a nice guy and someone who treats me well. I just associate the word with the whole "open the door" and "pull out the chair" thing. You may think this is being nice and a gentleman, but please....it's 2014 and I'm not a baby. I'm perfectly capable of doing things for myself. The gesture is completely unnecessary (and even somewhat annoying).

really ?so somebody opening the door is not a bad thing ? yeah it is unnecessary .but that's why its called being nice and opening or doing stuff for another person . doesn't matter what gender . so what that's 2014 . it could be 2188 being nice and doing something for somebody even though they don't need your help . will still be nice. doesn't matter who does it .. ? and annoying ?what's gotten into you people ? people that do that kind of stuff ( I do it all the time ) are completely aware that you can do it by your self . they just want to be nice and do it for you so you don't have to . they don't think that they are superior .

[Emerald Dream]

really ?so somebody opening the door is not a bad thing ? yeah it is unnecessary .but that's why its called being nice and opening or doing stuff for another person . doesn't matter what gender . so what that's 2014 . it could be 2188 being nice and doing something for somebody even though they don't need your help . will still be nice. doesn't matter who does it .. ? and annoying ?what's gotten into you people ? people that do that kind of stuff ( I do it all the time ) are completely aware that you can do it by your self . they just want to be nice and do it for you so you don't have to . they don't think that they are superior .

I stand by what I say. It's annoying and unnecessary.

Evidently your idea of "being nice" and mine aren't the same. You really want me to believe people hold open doors just to be nice? Sounds to me like people want to feel good about themselves (or even impress someone) under the guise of "being nice." It's not impressive. This way of thinking is way out of date.

To me, "being nice" is actually engaging in a decent and intelligent conversation. Maybe it's making a decision together about what plans to make or what movie to see. An unexpected and unique compliment is also "being nice."

The word "chivalry" honestly just needs to retire. It's no longer relevant in 2014, or 2188 (as you say). Unless you want to go back to living in the Middle Ages, where it belongs. Perpetuating this mindset as "being nice" honestly is pretty embarrassing.

[Saint]

really ?so somebody opening the door is not a bad thing ? yeah it is unnecessary .but that's why its called being nice and opening or doing stuff for another person . doesn't matter what gender . so what that's 2014 . it could be 2188 being nice and doing something for somebody even though they don't need your help . will still be nice. doesn't matter who does it .. ? and annoying ?what's gotten into you people ? people that do that kind of stuff ( I do it all the time ) are completely aware that you can do it by your self . they just want to be nice and do it for you so you don't have to . they don't think that they are superior .

It's more of like what she mentioned,some girls do think that if a guy opens the door for her,or pull out the chair,that it implies that they can't do it for themselves,which is really not any guys intention. Then again,how they choose to perceive a chivalrous act is different to every individual female. That said,being overly chivalrous isn't good either though,so keep that in mind.

[DarkOmega]

It's more of like what she mentioned,some girls do think that if a guy opens the door for her,or pull out the chair,that it implies that they can't do it for themselves,which is really not any guys intention. Then again,how they choose to perceive a chivalrous act is different to every individual female. That said,being overly chivalrous isn't good either though,so keep that in mind.

I know that but really its just opening a door that's all , I don't even think while doing it , I just do it , it feels natural to me , its also about having some manners , been doing things like this my whole life ... and also she talks about having a decent conversation and making decisions together as being nice , yeah that is nice that when people do that , but when someone wants to do a little nice thing as opening the door to someone , don't take it the wrong way, all they did is open a door or helped you/ them out with something( even though you don't need help ) even though they did not have to , so just say thanks , and no , its not about a gender being superior over a gender like the person above said , this happens to both genders , men do it to men and women and vice versa ,and in no way does it imply that she can't do it by herself or himself , unless the person is handicapped , the person can always do this by him/her self , nobody is doing this because he thinks he is superior

[backjruton]

If chivalry here is personality, I would definitely say looks and personality for me are equals. I would never go out with someone who I like the look of but is fucking sour once you get to know them and I've always had my ...meh... thoughts on some of the other people. Looks don't matter for friendship, but they do for me in relationship, although relationship is a big fear for me whatever happens. I have my reasons for being overprotective of myself in this sense, I'm too used to bad things happening to even consider going further with anyone.

[targaryen101]

forget the post-didnt mean to post it twice...

[targaryen101]

really ?so somebody opening the door is not a bad thing ? yeah it is unnecessary .but that's why its called being nice and opening or doing stuff for another person . doesn't matter what gender . so what that's 2014 . it could be 2188 being nice and doing something for somebody even though they don't need your help . will still be nice. doesn't matter who does it .. ? and annoying ?what's gotten into you people ? people that do that kind of stuff ( I do it all the time ) are completely aware that you can do it by your self . they just want to be nice and do it for you so you don't have to . they don't think that they are superior .

I am with Dark Omega (not saying we are right) BUT Chivalry is just a form of manners, being kind, doing good deeds, its just an old fashioned name for it. and it is by NO chance sexist! men AND woman can hold the door for anyone. no one says woman NEED to be looked after by escorting them, pushing in their chair etc: but some girl Like or WANT a "knight in shining armour" who does look out for them, and puts their thoughts and emotions into consideration. so in the end...why will it be good if chivalry/having good manners/being kind and considerate (whatever you want to call it) if it dies?