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DiamondsGirl
April 11th, 2014, 08:07 AM
Am I being a grumpy bitch, or is my brother at the wrong?

I'm gonna have to explain this briefly or I'd explode in anger: so my brother won a competition in our school some time ago and received $$$ as prize. He decided to spend it on a BBQ party with his classmates since he won it under the name of his class. Fine by me. Except when he announced that the party is gonna take place in our house! Next Monday, the party day, would be the start of my national exam week (and yes, in case you wonder, my brother do know this). Surely I can't stay at home and study with 30 kids running all over the place! My parents seem to plan to go to my grandma's, but really I can't study there either. They have my two baby cousins who are noisier than a parrot. At first I planned to go to a classmate's house which is only 5 minutes drive from my house, but then my bro said the party is gonna start in the afternoon and go on all the way past dinnertime (probably 8 PM). By Asian culture, it is impolite to stay in someone's house until close to bedtime (bedtime here is generally 9 PM). Plus she has to go somewhere in the afternoon. I have another friend who lived 10-15 minutes away, but unlike friend #1, I've never visited her house before and I don't know her family. It would be rude to stay so long for a first-time visit. I don't know where to go. I don't want to stay home locking myself in my room. The last time I tell one of my bro's friends to stop randomly banging my piano keys because I'm studying, I got told off at the dinner table by my brother. Parents support brother no matter what he does/say, so I can only sit there and swallow every swear word I have in mind.

I think he is being very selfish by choosing to hold the party at our house. It's not HIS house. He knows full well I would be in the middle of national exam week and he even chose to hold the party at night. He is literally shoo-ing away my parents and me so he could look cool in front of his friends. I do know, however, that house parties are very common in high school years. Maybe he's just trying to socialize and that's very normal. Maybe I shouldn't be as angry as I am now. Still, don't people usually hold parties BECAUSE nobody's home? He's doing the exact opposite right now! He is not even asking "mom dad can my friends come over?". He literally announced "mom dad my friends are coming over". One of the reasons why I feel like shooting his head every time I see his face =\

Miserabilia
April 11th, 2014, 08:47 AM
Well it is a really bad situation for you. I kind of understand your brother but yes that does sound annoying.

Living For Love
April 11th, 2014, 05:08 PM
Maybe you could just lock yourself in your bedroom, and put some nice music to help you concentrate and that way you couldn't hear the noise of your brother's friends outside.

Or, even a better idea, you could go to your grandparent's house as well, and lock yourself on some room, and tell your grandparents to make sure your cousins go do something else outside the house so that they don't annoy you.

If this doesn't work, you could do another thing: take a nap during some hours in the afternoon in you grandparent's house, and then stay awake for some more hours to study a bit more throughout the night, when everyone's asleep. I sometimes do that, and it works, because as you've taken the nap before, you don't feel so tired to study.

Lonely teen
April 11th, 2014, 05:41 PM
I understand you totally! Whenever my brother brings his friends over I just want to die... the noise... the horror.

DiamondsGirl
April 11th, 2014, 08:22 PM
thanks guys :) I chose to lock myself in the room with a stash of snacks and loud music blaring. Reason being I have this dog that I need to keep an eye on, and I can't bring him to my grandparents' house because they have my baby cousins. Thanks again for all your replies x

Lonely teen
April 11th, 2014, 08:24 PM
thanks guys :) I chose to lock myself in the room with a stash of snacks and loud music blaring. Reason being I have this dog that I need to keep an eye on, and I can't bring him to my grandparents' house because they have my baby cousins. Thanks again for all your replies x


Glad it all worked out :)

DiamondsGirl
April 11th, 2014, 08:26 PM
Glad it all worked out :)

I must say though your post made me chuckle XD "the horror, the horror!!" LOL

Lonely teen
April 11th, 2014, 08:27 PM
I must say though your post made me chuckle XD "the horror, the horror!!" LOL

Just trying to lighten the mood : P

Dalcourt
April 11th, 2014, 11:47 PM
It's good to hear you found a solution that seems okay for all. Good luck with your exams :)

radsniper
April 12th, 2014, 01:06 AM
glad it worked out