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Kazooie
April 11th, 2014, 02:18 AM
So a while ago, like 8 months, I made a move on a guy I'd had a crush on for more then a year, and he said no. But we stayed really good friends since with my attraction for him coming and going.

With that backstory, I recently met a guy on grindr that I got along really well with, had a really nice date and lost my virginity to him. It was just a nice night completely. But he doesn't want to be in a relationship, just FWB's.

And to top that off, I really want my friend who said no, to the point that I don't even know anymore. I just don't know what I need or want or anything and I'm confused.
Living For Love
April 11th, 2014, 06:42 AM
If he said no, I'm afraid there's nothing you can do. Just stay his friend and be there for him. About the other guy you met on Grindr, if you're happy in being FWB with him, then I guess it's ok. Maybe you could just ask him why he doesn't want to be in a serious relationship, it would might be better for both of you.
tmack1908
April 11th, 2014, 07:14 AM
What is grindr?
DiamondsGirl
April 11th, 2014, 07:35 AM
I think Grindr is a gay app to find and socialize with other gay folks. Correct me if I'm wrong.

now to the question: I'm very pessimistic you're gonna get any of these two people, unfortunately. What about finding Crush #3?
Kazooie
April 12th, 2014, 03:10 AM
It was a no when I asked him before. We've had small conversations about it since and he's agreed that there's potential, except there isn't at the same time. If that makes sense?

Anyways, crush #2 is not an option, for a number of reasons now. I've tried looking for someone else, but my friend is literally the only person I've felt this way about, even if it isn't always consistent.
Living For Love
April 12th, 2014, 03:27 AM
It was a no when I asked him before. We've had small conversations about it since and he's agreed that there's potential, except there isn't at the same time. If that makes sense?

Anyways, crush #2 is not an option, for a number of reasons now. I've tried looking for someone else, but my friend is literally the only person I've felt this way about, even if it isn't always consistent.

Well, you can keep trying your chances with him, being close to him might make the feelings he has for you grow even more. But if you really get in a relationship with your friend, I'd suggest you forget about your friend with benefits.