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Resulted
April 10th, 2014, 07:26 PM
I feel like I have no friends.

I am the type of person who tries to make friends with everyone; I've succeeded in that, too. I can walk up to almost anyone at my High school and have a complete conversation with them. We'll laugh, joke, and have fun.

My problem is that even with all of the people I know so well, I still feel like I have no real friends, or that I don't fit in.

My parent's are the strict kind; They overload me with chores and offer me with little or no time to do anything else. Due to this, I will come home at 3:00 and do my chores, and finally be done with them. But at the point that I'm done, it will be around 5:30, with my homework and studying not even completed yet. Even if I do finish all my chores and studying, it is almost always by the time they get home, and they VERY rarely let me do anything when they get home. I can't even be in my own room for more than a few minutes without them screaming across the house; Either in anger, or telling me to leave my room. The screaming is 95% of the time caused by things I did "wrong".

First off, according to them, if I do:
A job wrong
Say something incorrectly
Tell them information that turns out to be incorrect (On accident)
Say I do something (Even if they see me do it) and it doesn't look done

This is considered "lying" to them (There are a lot more things they consider lying, these were just at the top of my head). If they feel something on their feet, or the floor isn't done past their 150% expectations, they come down with the rage of a parent who found out their kid was an alcoholic. On a daily basis, they insult me and harass me because of these "Lies" or "Half-assed" (Sorry about the language, just trying to keep it accurate.) tasks. They constantly call me things like "worthless", "uselsss", "retarded", "Lazy", "selfish", "You won't amount to anything", the list goes on.

They also blame everything on me. If they do something wrong, it's my fault. If they are vague about something, or don't explain what they want me to do, and just tell me to "figure it out", then I do it incorrectly, it's my fault.

Ex. They point to a basket of clothes and say:
"This is not dirty, this needs to be put in the dryer"
I then put it in they dryer, which then leads to them screaming at me about how they "wanted the item the top in the dryer", even though they didn't say
"This blanket is not dirty, it needs to be put in the dryer."
So it's my fault.

The worst part is, they never acknowledge when I do extra work to please them, or when I do good.

I just feel so alone, and I don't know how to deal with this.

DiamondsGirl
April 10th, 2014, 11:43 PM
whoa :( I hate parents like that. They're much like mine! How old are you now? If you're somewhere between 15-17, I'd say apply to a university super far away from home. If you have financial problems, you can always apply for scholarship. Then, once you got admitted, whenever they yell at you just tell yourself "relax, I'm gonna be gone soon anyways!".

^^^ that is, of course, if you don't intend to make peace with your family. If you do, then there's no better way than walk up to them and talk it out. Tell them that they're stressing you out and all. If you don't feel comfortable speaking to them by yourself, get another family member that you trust to accompany you. If the rest of your family is just as terrible, talk to your school's counselor (I'm starting to believe all school counselors are built to be nice, caring people) and make him/her help you sort things out with your parents.

About friends: It does seem like you're already on the right track. Rather than walking up to anyone, why not pick one certain little circle (a group of 3-5) and stick with them? Go to places with your circle if you have time. If you don't, invite them to your house to "study together" or stuffs like that.

Living For Love
April 11th, 2014, 11:56 AM
My parents are a bit like that too. I started not to worry about anything they told me, and I began to distance myself from them. Just make sure you do what you're told in a way that keeps you clean and out of trouble. And avoid protesting, it only makes things worse. If you just keep quiet and listen, they will eventually give up, like mine did. It's not easy, I know, but when something happens a lot of times, we eventually get used to it. About your friends, maybe if you just stick around a small group, with similar interests, it would be easier for you.