Why do I think everyone I date doesn't want to be with me?

[jombo]

Every single person I date now I just feel they don't actually want me. I met a girl online 7 months ago and we both confessed the other day and started to date, but I just feel she doesn't actually like me and is just joking or doesn't like me but is going along with it. Is it because I have anxiety/depression, or could I be right? She says I'm the most important person in her life and speaks to me all day, telling me her secrets, basically.. I just feel she doesn't actually like me like that.

[Dalcourt]

Hard to say from a distance, it could be just your depressions that make you that anxious. She seems to spend a lot of tome with you, ask yourself would someone really invest so much time if she just wants to play with you. What reasons would she have to play with you? If you can't find any sensible answers for this why question her feelings for you?
So as long ad there are no real indicators, I'd say you think way too much and worry way too much.

[FullyAlive]

I don't know whether it's to do with anxiety/depression or whether it's a natural insecurity, I worry that all the time and constantly convince myself that they're just playing me (but I have a history with anxiety/depression too). But really you kind of have to just learn to live with the insecurity or at least that's what I do. Sure she could be lying and not really like you, but she might also be telling the truth (for what it's worth it really does sound like she's into you) and so really you've got two choices allow your paranoia to split you up or try to ignore it and just enjoy your relationship. Yes it's hard to ignore such thoughts but not impossible.
Maybe you could save some texts or something where she tells you how she feels or how she wants to be with you, then when you're feeling doubtful you can look at them and tell yourself she likes you until you believe it again.
Trust me it's normal to feel like this, but don't let anxiety/depression and the associated problems rule your life.

[ksdnfkfr]

Sounds like you have low self esteem.

[DiamondsGirl]

I don't know you in person so it's hard to tell, but there are several possibilities:

1) It is your low self-esteem or anxiety from your depression that causes you to think that.

2) Your current GF doesn't truly like you that much because well it's an online relationship. Its success rate is extremely low.

I'm not trying to reinforce your fear, but like I said it's just a possibility.

[Melodic]

Anxiety is probably the case here, along with depression.

But it's totally normal to feel like that. There has been times I felt that way with my LDR boyfriend. Just don't look at the fears and insecurities, but look at the goals you could accomplish from it.

[jombo]

I don't know whether it's to do with anxiety/depression or whether it's a natural insecurity, I worry that all the time and constantly convince myself that they're just playing me (but I have a history with anxiety/depression too). But really you kind of have to just learn to live with the insecurity or at least that's what I do. Sure she could be lying and not really like you, but she might also be telling the truth (for what it's worth it really does sound like she's into you) and so really you've got two choices allow your paranoia to split you up or try to ignore it and just enjoy your relationship. Yes it's hard to ignore such thoughts but not impossible.
Maybe you could save some texts or something where she tells you how she feels or how she wants to be with you, then when you're feeling doubtful you can look at them and tell yourself she likes you until you believe it again.
Trust me it's normal to feel like this, but don't let anxiety/depression and the associated problems rule your life.

Well.. today she admitted she loved me. It's just all so surreal, but she speaks to me every single day for at least 6 hours (usually 8-9 hours) so I'm not just sure. But I love her, and speaking to her is a joy.