Can you spell C-O-N-F-U-S-I-O-N?

[can-not-compete]

Ugh. I'm having some troubles with my own sexuality lately. One of my real friends came out to me as bi with a stronger preference towards females (she's female herself) about a month and a half ago and at that time I was bi curious, now I think confirmed bisexual... But I have a few questions.

First, is it possible to be two sexualities at once? (not talking about hetero- and homo- here folks) I mean being something like sapiosexual (attracted to high human intelligence) and bisexual? Not caring so much about your junk and more about your personality and, I guess, how many IQ points you can score (wow that sounds vain when I put it like that).

But I'm so confused and I'm not sureee... What to do?

HALP *goes slightly more insane*

[abc983055235235231a]

Honestly, you shouldn't worry so much about labeling your sexuality. Your sexuality can be extremely nuanced (like caring a lot about how much IQ points you score), and that's totally normal.
Just like who you like, and be comfortable with it, and stuff.

[Karkat]

You could also be demisexual, or grey-a. Demisexual being attracted to someone for their personality, so sapiosexual could be a subset of that.

And seeing as it's possible to be pandemisexual, blah blah blah, yeah, it's possible in the technical term.

But as the above poster said, don't sweat it too much. Just like who you like, that's what really matters. :)

[Dalcourt]

It will never cease to amaze me why people are so keen on labeling themselves.
You like what you like, is it really that important to have a sophisticated name for it?

[satarra3180]

I think its perfectly normal and healthy to be super attracted to characteristics about a person other than what is between their legs. So many factors play into how your sexuality is driven.

[ksdnfkfr]

I think you're over thinking it.

[backjruton]

That's like me saying I feel more of an attraction to people who are weird... :/ It just seems funny to think that most of my friends have either had some form of autism, ADHD or dyslexia; and my best friend in college has too.

Some intelligent people can be jerks, especially those in my school who got better grades, so I personally wouldn't advise picking people for how brainy they are. In my experience I've learned that SOME of the people who got lower grades in their exams are the people with the greater personalities, especially most of the people in my college course :D

Demisexual does sound right, that's what I instantly thought when reading the OP (before scrolling down), but if it's really a big confusion; do what others have said and don't bother labelling yourself. But I do see the wrong side of this too, you then can't tell anyone what you are and will probably sound a little stupid whenever someone asks. I feel stupid even thinking about telling people I'm biromantic so I just told some closer friends I'm completely gay instead, which hasn't worked so well for me either I don't think.

[ScottishCanary]

I would just add to what has already been said in that I think you are over labelling. I mean if you are sapio-sexual that does not stop you being hetero sapio-sexual, homo sapio-sexual or even say asexual and sapio-romantic. I mean I am attracted to people with high intelligence myself but still consider myself straight. I see being heterosexual as my main sexuality as it were but being attracted more to highly intelligent people as a small part of that. Ultimately you are who you are, you don't need too many labels.

[DiamondsGirl]

I hate reiterating what has already been said, but I'm gonna say it all over again because it's important: you don't need to label yourself. You just like what you like. If people ask, just tell them "I like smart people and I don't care whether they're male or female". If any of them dares to ask "is there even a name for that?", shrug and say: "Who gives a fuck?".

[can-not-compete]

It will never cease to amaze me why people are so keen on labeling themselves.
You like what you like, is it really that important to have a sophisticated name for it?

To be honest the only reason I want a label is so when people ask me what my sexuality is, I can tell them straight up and don't have to list off a whole lotta aspects and genders and whatnot. If I were a more patient person, I wouldn't need it but because I am one of those people that explains things quickly I want to have some easier way of doing so :)

[Elysium]

To be honest the only reason I want a label is so when people ask me what my sexuality is, I can tell them straight up and don't have to list off a whole lotta aspects and genders and whatnot. If I were a more patient person, I wouldn't need it but because I am one of those people that explains things quickly I want to have some easier way of doing so :)
If you find some complicated and oddly specific label, people are going to ask what that means anyway and you'll have to go through the process of explaining, which isn't as quick and easy as you're hoping for. Why not just say you're not using a label yet, you're still trying to figure things out, etc. People will understand that and it won't take too long to say.