what do you think is too much?

[Chrisscotland]

How big a age difference do you think is ok? Ive started to see a guy that's 23 im gona be 15 in 5 months, we haven't done much together yet, no one knows about us anyway, do you reckon hes too old for me?

[Typhlosion]

I reckon that that 7 years difference for teens is quite a lot. Be sure of what you're doing.

[centropede]

If you are 100% sure he is not pedophile and wont do anything you dont want, then i think its ok,..hmm, be be careful anyways

[Tatii99]

At your age, 9 years is a big difference imo. Just be careful.

[LiamC]

As you get older age becomes less important imo. If you think about it, even 50 and 70 is seen as nothing strange, but I'm 17 and dating a 37 year old would be seen as very strange! When you're in your teens, even 5 years can be a chasm sized gap so I'd say be careful!

[thathelperguy]

Be VERY careful if you're going to pursue this relationship with him. I'm not going to get hung up on all of the legalities of what he's doing, but I will say this. IF he really cares about you then he will respect your opinion on the relationship. Set boundaries and make it crystal clear what you want and don't want. IF he cares about you he will honor your wishes. IF he doesn't then get out now!!!!

[Emerald Dream]

Teen Sexuality :arrow: Relationships and Dating

This is more appropriate here :)

[Body odah Man]

More than 8 years (once both of u r past 16) is the limit

[Karkat]

If you are 100% sure he is not pedophile and wont do anything you dont want, then i think its ok,..hmm, be be careful anyways

Would just like to point out that paedophilia is attraction to PREPUBESCENT children- attraction to adolescents is different entirely. Especially considering that this guy is only in his early 20s.

As you get older age becomes less important imo. If you think about it, even 50 and 70 is seen as nothing strange, but I'm 17 and dating a 37 year old would be seen as very strange! When you're in your teens, even 5 years can be a chasm sized gap so I'd say be careful!

Be VERY careful if you're going to pursue this relationship with him. I'm not going to get hung up on all of the legalities of what he's doing, but I will say this. IF he really cares about you then he will respect your opinion on the relationship. Set boundaries and make it crystal clear what you want and don't want. IF he cares about you he will honor your wishes. IF he doesn't then get out now!!!!

Agree entirely with these two. Legally, it's entirely questionable, but the whole point of AOC laws is to protect you.

However, even within the AOC laws, you can get hurt. The important thing is to make sure that you're safe, and that he's not using you.

[ksdnfkfr]

Isn't with 23 with 14 is considered child molesting?

[Horatio Nelson]

As a young person, age difference is a big deal.

I personally wouldn't go for it.

[Dalcourt]

At you age I'd say he's too old for you, so I'd really be careful if I were you. Where I live it would be against the law for this guy to get into a relationship with someone your age anyway.
And as I assume that you two are planning to do more in your relationship than just talk...I guess you should really think twice about this guy. It's understandable that he's probably more attractive to you than guys your age who are more than often rather childish, but do you really know what he's up to... do you know some of his friends or know about former girlfriends? If not I'd do s lil background check in your place.

[charmynyankawaii]

Try waiting until you're older like when you're 20 and he's 27. If he can wait that long then he really likes you! ^_^ But try to act more mature for now so he doesn't look like a paedophile.

[DiamondsGirl]

I know this has been said before but I'm gonna repeat it because it is very important: be VERY careful. Use your brain instead of your heart. When you're just a teen, age difference matters. Reason being if you guys have sex, or anything sexual in nature, your boyfriend could get arrested. The fact that nobody knows about your relationship only worries me more. Please, at least tell your parents. That way if anything goes wrong (don't deny this yet. Please be wise and rational) you have them to protect you legally.

[Chrisscotland]

there's no way id tell my parents! they would go nuts!
im lucky someone like him is interested in me he's really good looking :)
I don't think hed get arrested if we did stuff because if I wanted him to then that's up to me anyway.
I am being careful I know he's really nice.

[DiamondsGirl]

Well, if you believe he's a good person then I wish you the best of luck. I'm glad to hear you're being careful, but I'd still advise you to tell your parents. Believe me, it's better to have them "go nuts" now than later. Each day you go without telling them is a gamble. Are you ready to take the risk? That's for you to decide x

I am still very skeptical regarding this though. The general rule of thumb is when you're above 20, you don't date anyone that is still wearing a uniform. So the moment I hear a 23 year old dating a 15 year old, the only thing that pops up to my mind is "this guy is just toying with you". Don't listen to me though I don't know anything about you.

[Stryker125]

there's no way id tell my parents! they would go nuts!
im lucky someone like him is interested in me he's really good looking :)
I don't think hed get arrested if we did stuff because if I wanted him to then that's up to me anyway.
I am being careful I know he's really nice.

I agree with what the others said here, just wanted to point out that depending on the age of consent laws where you live, it doesn't matter whether you wanted it or not, it's still illegal for him to do anything with you. bit unfair, but that's how it is.

[alliancerules]

If this is the same guy you mention in another post, you would be out of your mind having anything to do with him, let alone a relationship.

[TheBigUnit]

Give it time man geez he's way to old, he's basically molesting you, it's illegal what he's doing!¡!

[Eurasian guy]

How big a age difference do you think is ok? Ive started to see a guy that's 23 im gona be 15 in 5 months, we haven't done much together yet, no one knows about us anyway, do you reckon hes too old for me?

Dude, that age different is way to high. Maybe if he were 18 or 19 that would be the absolute maximum. If this follow through, don't tell anyone because he can get some serious jail time.

[boarder67]

that's a bit much

[Danagal]

Way to old

[PinkFloyd]

My advice is to be careful. If you are going to do anything with him, make sure you are okay with it and that you don't get caught. If you do, he gets a pedophilia charge.

[Cognizant]

Well you should always be careful, regardless if he's 16 or if he just turned 72 last week. I don't know the legal system of Scotland, but here if anyone you know reports it to the police, it's going to result in jail time. So with that, either don't tell anyone or don't get sexual.

I'm a strong believer in the fact that love doesn't have an age (because I've been with older people before), but there's certain scenarios where it could be really troublesome and might not be worth the risk; but if you think you really like him and you want to explore a relationship with him, nobody can really get rid of that. just be careful dude.

[Rainbowfairy]

Hey,
I've just got out of a relationship with an older guy and I won't go ino the details but what started as fun ended up with me in a scarey controlled situation that I really didn't like, I'm not saying that's going to happen but be carefull tell a close friend when u meet him and where u r meeting him give ure friend his details incase anything goes funny and just be safe.

[CharlieHorse]

i would say up to 3 years is ok until you're 18
but it really depends

[ChrisTJ]

As a general rule I go by:
If the youngest person is under 16: 2 yrs max
If the youngest person is 16-17: 4 yrs max
If the youngest person is 18 or over: do the hell you want ;)

Then again I'm just about 15 and I'm crushing on a 21 yr old. Need to remind myself of the rules.

[DarkOmega]

for teens .that a big difference , for adults ,not really but I don't know what do say .something doesn't seem right 3 years diff max when ur a teen.. that would be ideal .but that's my opinion .still ur still 14.not even 15 he's 23.9 years diff is way 2 much

[ninja789]

How big a age difference do you think is ok? Ive started to see a guy that's 23 im gona be 15 in 5 months, we haven't done much together yet, no one knows about us anyway, do you reckon hes too old for me?

Under Scots law that relationship is illegal until you turn 16
sorry

[highschool]

my bf and I are 7 years apart, and I was wary at the beginning. You've just got to make sure he's not wanting to take advantage of you