So I don't really know what to do.

[DerBear]

Hey,

I'm not very social. Like I have quite a few friends and I hang out with them on a regular basis but its taken me quite sometime to feel comfortable around them. Now one of my friends from college has invited me to her party and this was four week ago when she initially invited me and I said yes.

Now it's the day before the party and I really don't want to go because I'm really really nervous about going because I won't know anyone apart from two people, the person who invited me and one of my college friends. They'll all know each other really well and therefore I don't really want to go.

I feel like the entire situation would overwhelm me. I'm really thinking about cancelling but she's spoken to me a couple times this week and I've continually said I'd go but in all honestly I don't want to go now.

The second thing that's really putting me off and this has been a concern from the start is that I don't drink, and if I do it is really not a lot and obviously they will and then they'll probably be drunk and that would make me feel even more awkward because I don't and can't deal with drunk people.

So yeah, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[DiamondsGirl]

If you don't think you're gonna enjoy yourself, just pick up the phone and cancel it. You can always get her a small gift to make up for it, in case merely saying "sorry" makes you feel guilty. Make sure you explain to her about your social anxiety. If she's a real friend I have no doubt she will understand.

BTW: I also don't drink. I tried a bit once but I don't find alcohol appealing. However I attended this house party once and one of the attendees, who is above 18, brought two bottles of alcohol. Everyone in the table drinks besides me, and hey I'm still alive. Nobody beats me down either verbally or physically.

What am I trying to say is; you and I both know it is uncomfortable to be socially anxious. The best way to get over your fear is facing it, so when you're ready, please do take the chance. This one party however I recommend canceling it. You should've agreed today and went the day after. If you waited several days the fear is just going to build up and I can guarantee you wouldn't enjoy yourself at the party.

[DerBear]

If you don't think you're gonna enjoy yourself, just pick up the phone and cancel it. You can always get her a small gift to make up for it, in case merely saying "sorry" makes you feel guilty. Make sure you explain to her about your social anxiety. If she's a real friend I have no doubt she will understand.

BTW: I also don't drink. I tried a bit once but I don't find alcohol appealing. However I attended this house party once and one of the attendees, who is above 18, brought two bottles of alcohol. Everyone in the table drinks besides me, and hey I'm still alive. Nobody beats me down either verbally or physically.

What am I trying to say is; you and I both know it is uncomfortable to be socially anxious. The best way to get over your fear is facing it, so when you're ready, please do take the chance. This one party however I recommend canceling it. You should've agreed today and went the day after. If you waited several days the fear is just going to build up and I can guarantee you wouldn't enjoy yourself at the party.

I do know obviously know that people who do drink won't do anything but when I'm with a lot of people who're drinking it increases my social anxiety. The reason why I had to agree pretty soon after the invite was sent out is because she wanted to guarantee numbers as she only had a limited amount of numbers.

I said yes because I did want to go but now I've changed my mind and I really don't think I'd enjoy myself. And thank you for the advice :D

[Living For Love]

I still think you should go, because if there will be there a lot of people you don't know, and if they all know each other, I think no one will notice you, so you can just stick around that person you know or do something else with no problem.

And it's a good thing there will be alcohol in the party. If they all get drunk, they will notice you even less, and if something stupid happens, like if someone starts teasing you, you can always blame the alcohol. And when you realise everyone's passing out, you can just tell the girl who invited you you need to leave a bit earlier.

[Loner_97]

I think you should go. Try to have fun and be yourself. Meet new people. BUT if it's really uncomfortable then just leave. Make up some emergency and bail. Atleast you wont regret later about not going. Right?

[Body odah Man]

Hey,

I'm not very social. Like I have quite a few friends and I hang out with them on a regular basis but its taken me quite sometime to feel comfortable around them. Now one of my friends from college has invited me to her party and this was four week ago when she initially invited me and I said yes.

Now it's the day before the party and I really don't want to go because I'm really really nervous about going because I won't know anyone apart from two people, the person who invited me and one of my college friends. They'll all know each other really well and therefore I don't really want to go.

I feel like the entire situation would overwhelm me. I'm really thinking about cancelling but she's spoken to me a couple times this week and I've continually said I'd go but in all honestly I don't want to go now.

The second thing that's really putting me off and this has been a concern from the start is that I don't drink, and if I do it is really not a lot and obviously they will and then they'll probably be drunk and that would make me feel even more awkward because I don't and can't deal with drunk people.

So yeah, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I'd advice not going sadly. Parties r rarely worth it if you're not very social so yeah...good luck

[DerBear]

The thing is since everyone else knows each other I'd just feel like an outsider or a third wheel and I just don't want to really go.