Romance or Dreams?

[charmynyankawaii]

There are 2 things in life which I find important. (sorry it sounds like an essay from the start) I like a really good childhood friend of mine and I also find my music important. I just told my friend that I liked him. But then he rejected me saying that he was too immature. I decided to train for the International Chopin Piano Competition but then I recently heard from my friend that he might like me back.

What should I do?

Should I just forget about him and just stay as friends then become a professional pianist or should I just try to tell him again and see what he says?

I know I can only do one thing if I want to be perfect but then I can't help liking him.

[DiamondsGirl]

I don't see why can't you practice piano while having a boyfriend.

[radsniper]

i agree^

[ksdnfkfr]

Yeah that sounds like some kind of old wives tale that you can't have both. But he'll have to be okay with your devotion to playing and not get jealous of the time you spend on it.

[charmynyankawaii]

I'm thinking of going to Vienna to study music and then he'll be still in Malaysia and then I'm not sure if he will wait for me to come back or what if he two-times me or what if I can't take a long-distance relationship or what if he finds someone else and he wants to break up and I can't see him in person to stop him and then I also won't be able really feel how it's like to really be with him.

[Living For Love]

You're not going to jeopardise your amazing career as a musician because of a boy, are you? He already rejected you once, I'm sure the relationship you will have with him won't be what you're really expecting. Sure you can still be his friend and keep contact with him, and perhaps his feelings for you might grow stronger when you're away, but follow your dreams for now. I don't know how old are you, but you're perhaps too young to put your career at stake and worry too much about some guy. Good luck anyway.

[DiamondsGirl]

I'm thinking of going to Vienna to study music and then he'll be still in Malaysia and then I'm not sure if he will wait for me to come back or what if he two-times me or what if I can't take a long-distance relationship or what if he finds someone else and he wants to break up and I can't see him in person to stop him and then I also won't be able really feel how it's like to really be with him.

well then you're gonna have to grit your teeth and leave him. I mean, that's what I would advise you to do. Echoing Dance In The Dark here: you're not gonna jeopardize your future career just because of a boy, are you?

[charmynyankawaii]

You're not going to jeopardise your amazing career as a musician because of a boy, are you? He already rejected you once, I'm sure the relationship you will have with him won't be what you're really expecting. Sure you can still be his friend and keep contact with him, and perhaps his feelings for you might grow stronger when you're away, but follow your dreams for now. I don't know how old are you, but you're perhaps too young to put your career at stake and worry too much about some guy. Good luck anyway.

I might! I like him so much I cut my waist-length hair short to a bob because he likes girls with short hair! TT^TT

[MechaSniper]

This might be a once in a lifetime oppertunity.

[charmynyankawaii]

How so?

[DiamondsGirl]

How so?


I think MechaSniper is talking about you leaving for Vienna. It might be a once in a lifetime opportunity. Boyfriends, however, are definitely NOT that rare. Please be wise. Think ahead, you are very young. How do you know this is the person you're gonna marry? What if something happens and you don't like this guy anymore after you cancelled your study in Vienna?

[Melodic]

I might! I like him so much I cut my waist-length hair short to a bob because he likes girls with short hair! TT^TT

Woah, Don't cut your hair because he likes it! He hasn't even said it's official yet! If you want your hair short that's fine, but don't do it because a guy likes it. Never change yourself or your looks for a guy, change them for you.

[charmynyankawaii]

I guess so......... Then I'm going to completely forget about him! Then I'm going to grow my hair back long again. Thanks for putting up with me, guys! ^^

[DiamondsGirl]

I guess so......... Then I'm going to completely forget about him! Then I'm going to grow my hair back long again. Thanks for putting up with me, guys! ^^

I wish there's a two thumbs up emoji here somewhere. Anyways, two thumbs up for you! :)

[charmynyankawaii]

Thank you for listening to me! ^^

[radsniper]

good decision you can find another boyfriend but not another opportunity to advance your career like this good luck in vienna