No Girlfriend

[green white]

My parents forbid me for have a girlfriend. But i have a girlfriend, i feel I'm fault to my parents, can you help me?

[Bmble_B]

I'd say that you're at the age of being able to choose wether or not to have a girlfriend or not. I reccommend for you to try and find a compromise between you and your parents. Like, promise them you won't have sex with her or anything like that.

[Elysium]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[nklarke]

You've to find out WHY they don't want you to have a girlfriend and according to that talk with your parents.

Otherwise, you have to cut with her or hide the relationship.

[Synyster Shadows]

I'd say that you're at the age of being able to choose wether or not to have a girlfriend or not. I reccommend for you to try and find a compromise between you and your parents. Like, promise them you won't have sex with her or anything like that.

You've to find out WHY they don't want you to have a girlfriend and according to that talk with your parents.

Otherwise, you have to cut with her or hide the relationship.

I agree with these two. Talk it over with your parents and find out why they don't want you to have a girlfriend. Then try to find a compromise. If you promise something, do not break it for any reason. Betraying your parents' trust is a horrible idea. Good luck. I hope everything works out for you

[backjruton]

Sorry for slightly going over again, I seem to like writing essays right now... shame I never did in school :D

Haha.. that sounds stupid, within an extreme amount of reason you should be able to do what you want and when you want to do it. I don't think I would advise it though because I've seen how "long" relationships around our age last and how easy it is to fall out over stupid things. I've never had a girlfriend, 90% of the reason being I don't really want one; but I feel that surely your relationship will be better if you remain just close friends and don't go very far in the other way, unless you're over protective and worry about losing her to someone else, as you're not expected to spend every single minute with friends; I won't see my best friend for 2 weeks now, and I think that's a good thing, because she doesn't have facebook either which means if we actually have an interesting spring break we will have more to speak about when we get back and hopefully we'll both have got a lot more work done towards our final project.

I probably missed something when first reading the post as I'm not quite sure on the wording but if you don't have a girlfriend and just have a girl you want to go out with; make sure you try to find out more of her interests and stuff first, and if you think you'll actually be compatible with her with the same tastes among other things, because I personally think this is why so many teenage relationships go down the toilet so easily.

But if you already have a girlfriend and this is what you're saying, I think your parents would be unsure about this and not wanting you to have a girlfriend because of things like I've already said: maybe they don't want either of you to get hurt, I personally find the idea of relationships horrible as I don't want to get that close with someone, and maybe they also don't want you to change because of her... 2 of my friends spent all of their time with eachother and did less work but since they broke up the girl has been doing more work and for some reason I don't understand the guy got kicked off the course.

Try inviting her round the house, get your parents to know her, some parents are just more overprotective than others I think and in this case it would be good if they got to know her first; to know she's not a bad person and won't influence you to do any bad things. I've never had 1 single friend round my house because of a confidence issue so I don't know too much about this but I think this would be a better option to start off with. And yes, try to make your parents know you won't have any sexual contact with her, they might be worried about that too at the age of 15 and especially because you could catch diseases if there's anything with either of you and you would need to be extremely careful.

[Karkat]

Personally, I think it depends on a few things.

1. Who matters more, her, or your parents? And be honest- don't answer 'parents' just because you think it's the right choice. Answer which one is true for you.
2. Which is worse: being grounded and living without a girlfriend for a while, or hiding your relationship?

And so on. Personally, my parents don't know about my boyfriend...And there's a long, convoluted backstory as to WHY that I will not include here, but I love my boyfriend, and I'm going to marry him, and therefore I stay with him and keep our relationship from my parents.

[DiamondsGirl]

I see that you live in Indonesia. There's little to no chance you could change the household rules then. Don't keep it a secret, tell your parents. They might either make you understand why they don't want you to have a girlfriend or give up and let you do what you want. Either way, try to avoid conflicts. You're very young. Family should always come first. Girlfriends come and go, but parents are unfortunately like a shadow to us. Before you can live by yourself, you better not provoke a conflict with them. They're gonna make you regret that =\

[ksdnfkfr]

My parents forbid me for have a girlfriend. But i have a girlfriend, i feel I'm fault to my parents, can you help me?

Is that a personal problem with them, or a cultural problem where you live?

[radsniper]

if its personal you can talk to your parents and sort it out

[green white]

In my school girlfriend is forbidden

[DiamondsGirl]

In my school girlfriend is forbidden

And what grade are you in? My junior high school has strict rules against PDA (public display of affection in case you don't know) but unless you're kissing in the middle of the courtyard at lunch hour, they really don't have any reason to put you on detention. I am now in senior high school and we really don't care anymore who does what. Unless it's sex of course.

So: as long as you stay discreet the teachers should really have no reason to scold you. Seriously if they scold you for having a girlfriend, move out of that school. Unless you're studying to be a pastor??

[green white]

hmmm.... I'm class 3 junior High School
I want be
religious scholars

I'm not crist

[DiamondsGirl]

hmmm.... I'm class 3 junior High School
I want be
religious scholars

I'm not crist

You're old enough to make your own decisions then. Really, school officials shouldn't watch over you that much anymore.

[Brightwolf]

My parents forbid me for have a girlfriend. But i have a girlfriend, i feel I'm fault to my parents, can you help me?

You should decide not them. Just don't tell'em.