Let me go by myself...

[georgeishungry]

First off, I know that this is nowhere near as bad or important as some of the other issues here, but I'd like your help nonetheless.

There is a meet-up taking place for Simmers about half an hour away from where I live towards the middle of May. I know the people that are organizing the meetup through Twitter, and we're good friends. There's over 50 people going, and I really want to go. My dad says I can go, but then he says "but I'm coming with you."

That's...not good. I'm going to represent my fansite, which has really taken off recently. I don't want my dad there, because my fansite will go from something that's well respected to something that's 'just run by a bored teenager'.

I'd have to take the train (and the London Underground quickly), but I've already gone into town with my friends via the train without issues. I'll be in a group of people all the time, and although I'm only 13 I'm much older than that mentally.

So my question is this. How do I tell my dad I don't want him with me? He's super sensitive and I know he'll take it the wrong way. I feel confident in going by myself, but I need help in telling him!

Thanks. :)

[Harley Quinn]

You just need to be honest with him, you have to see why he is worried though and does want to go. You may act older than your age but that doesn't actually matter, you're young and you're meeting a lot of people. Tell your dad why you want to go by yourself and that you won't be alone at all during it, so there's nothing to worry about. Offer to compromise though, if that's what's needed. You just need to communicate with him.

[Dalcourt]

As already said, talk to your Dad and be honest with him. It's natural of a parent to worry but when you tell him what you stated in your post he might understand how you feel about it.

[DiamondsGirl]

So when you say your dad is going with you, do you mean he's going to be at the meet-up (sit there and watch you speak to people while doing nothing himself?) or he's just gonna take the train with you to the meet-up venue? If it's the latter, I'd let him. I mean... why not, right? But if it's the first one I guess you're gonna have to be honest and tell him. As long as you word it out politely I'm sure he'd understand. You can also add that you're a boy; you have less chance to be kidnapped and raped.

[georgeishungry]

So when you say your dad is going with you, do you mean he's going to be at the meet-up (sit there and watch you speak to people while doing nothing himself?) or he's just gonna take the train with you to the meet-up venue? If it's the latter, I'd let him. I mean... why not, right? But if it's the first one I guess you're gonna have to be honest and tell him. As long as you word it out politely I'm sure he'd understand. You can also add that you're a boy; you have less chance to be kidnapped and raped.

It's the first one. :/ I know that sooner or later I'm going to have to be honest with him, but I just can't pluck up the courage to do it. I don't really want to upset my dad. He lost his dad when he was 12, and he's just kinda trying to guess how dads should operate after 12. I'd feel really bad.

[Body odah Man]

tBH, yeah I'ma be flamed for this, I think you should let your dad go with you. 13 is young and anything could happen there. True it'll damage your image, but better that than getitng mugged or something else bad happening to you

[Verto]

As others said, be honest with him. I would imagine he wants to make sure your completely safe, and perhaps do what his father didn't get the chance to do. Or at least, that's one of my theories. Perhaps talk it over with him, see if he can do something without lowering your position. (Drop off/pick up ect.)

[DiamondsGirl]

It's the first one. :/ I know that sooner or later I'm going to have to be honest with him, but I just can't pluck up the courage to do it. I don't really want to upset my dad. He lost his dad when he was 12, and he's just kinda trying to guess how dads should operate after 12. I'd feel really bad.

well then you're gonna have to go with him :) it's not that bad... like bebop said at least there's extra security.

[radsniper]

talk to him and if your worried about getting mugged just bring a knife

[ksdnfkfr]

In a situation like that I myself would need my dad to go with me, but I'm sure my dad who was 13 himself, would understand if I told him I wanted it to appear as if I was by myself and find a way to make himself scarce.