Help me get rid of this GIRL!!!

[TinySoda]

So here's my story :

I recently changed schools (as in about a year ago) and then changed to another school (about a few months back). Lots of girls here like me, some cute and then some -_-. But there's this girl who has been tagging me along and not showing me any proper actions.

I'm kind of really good with this lovey dovey game and I know exactly when and where a girl likes a guy as a friend or as a potential boyfriend.

But this girl is absolutely hard to interpret. It seems as though she's not interested in me but a few other times it seems she'd lie down with me at the first chance.

She already has a boyfriend but I wouldn't be too much surprised if she dumped him for me. I mean, I wouldn't want to mess with other happy relationships but this dude is a drunk and doesn't know how to treat a girl right.

So that isn't really a good indicator of her actions.

She's been adding all my friends on FaceBook and slowly increasing the mutual friends count.

Here's what else she's been doing :

She almost always stands in front of my class before class starts and leaves immediately after I enter into the class.

She has that weird smile that makes me feel like I ate pancakes and threw up on my sneakers.

I don't like her but I feel that my subconscious mind has taken to her actions and now I keep thinking about her all the time. Its absolutely distracting and I don't want a girl ruling my life.

I did one mistake and told my friend about this and gave him some clues regarding her. He found out who it was and blabbered all over the school. Chances are she's heard it too.

Does anyone know what she's up to? Does she just wanna be a friend or does she see me as a potential boyfriend?

[charmynyankawaii]

Does she follow you around much in front of you or discreetly? I have a friend like this who did this to a guy she likes and she creeped him out. Do you find this creepy? (I kind of do.....) Even if you ask her straight out "Do you like me?" then she could come up with some kind of lie. I'm not really sure what to do in this kind of situation (though I've been stalked 5 times) but if there's anything you're not sure of then I'm always here to help. :)

[TinySoda]

Does she follow you around much in front of you or discreetly? I have a friend like this who did this to a guy she likes and she creeped him out. Do you find this creepy? (I kind of do.....) Even if you ask her straight out "Do you like me?" then she could come up with some kind of lie. I'm not really sure what to do in this kind of situation (though I've been stalked 5 times) but if there's anything you're not sure of then I'm always here to help. :)

She indeed follows me when I have clear perception of her actions. Some times she even walks right besides me and then giggles with her friends and stops walking all of a sudden.

Then sometimes, she's no where to be seen. Like I said, she doesn't let me judge her actions clearly.

The thing is, she's cute and all but I don't like it when girls play mind tricks on me especially when I know what they're up to.

This is really affecting my personal life. I can't think of anything else but the look she gives me. But I know I'm not in love.

I find this absolutely creepy. I feel like I'm being hunted down :D
Great to see someone with similar experiences. \o/

[charmynyankawaii]

That's really creepy. I bet when she's no where to be seen she's secretly following you. You might want to consider reporting to the police if this keeps up. ^^"

[TinySoda]

Yeah, you may be right. I'd give her the time of the day if only I knew what her intentions are. Since i'm new in town, I have absolutely no or little contact with the local people or I could ask them if she has said anything about being interested in me.

[charmynyankawaii]

I'll try to think of something tonight when I practice piano ^^ Ideas always come to me when I play piano! ^^

[Living For Love]

It doesn't matter if she like you, or if she's interested in you. The real question is: do you like her or not? Do you imagine yourself dating her and stuff, or do you think her actions creep you out no matter what? Only you can answer those questions. I know that kind of girls, it happened to me a few times, and I didn't have any kind of feelings towards them, and I'm pretty sure they didn't have either. Maybe they just want attention, to feel important. I've learned that the less importance you give them, the quicker they get out of your life.

[Synyster Shadows]

If you don't like her, just tell her! How's she going to know if you don't tell her? The sooner you tell her, the sooner the problem should go away

[TinySoda]

It doesn't matter if she like you, or if she's interested in you. The real question is: do you like her or not? Do you imagine yourself dating her and stuff, or do you think her actions creep you out no matter what? Only you can answer those questions. I know that kind of girls, it happened to me a few times, and I didn't have any kind of feelings towards them, and I'm pretty sure they didn't have either. Maybe they just want attention, to feel important. I've learned that the less importance you give them, the quicker they get out of your life.

It's more like mixed emotions. I know I don't want her. I know I won't get a good life with a girl who's so stuck up and can't convey her emotions properly.

But my sub conscious mind wants to be next to her. I keep thinking about her no matter how hard I try.

I've even started taking guitar lessons and doing other extra curricular activities to get my mind off of her.

Its barely working ^^

If you don't like her, just tell her! How's she going to know if you don't tell her? The sooner you tell her, the sooner the problem should go away

I don't know for sure 'IF' she likes me, Like I said, I can't interpret her.
I don't wanna look like an ass when I say to her 'Hey, this is not gonna work. I can't be for you.' and she's like 'What are you talking about?'.

[DiamondsGirl]

I think you're overcomplicating this. Just tell her to stop following you if it annoys you. Make sure you're very direct, like: "listen, I don't appreciate being followed. If you have problems with me, say it to my face. Next time I catch you following me, I'm gonna sue you for stalking". I know I know you can't really sue her for stalking, but if you keep that straight face you can at least show her that you mean what you say.

Assuming you do like her; if she's the kind of girl that dumps her boyfriend because she suddenly falls for some other guy, I'd say this is not the kind of person you want to be dating. There's no guarantee she's gonna dump you for someone else in the future. The best wars are the ones you can avoid, so... yeah, get over her.

[Living For Love]

It's more like mixed emotions. I know I don't want her. I know I won't get a good life with a girl who's so stuck up and can't convey her emotions properly.

But my sub conscious mind wants to be next to her. I keep thinking about her no matter how hard I try.

I've even started taking guitar lessons and doing other extra curricular activities to get my mind off of her.

Its barely working ^^

If she has a boyfriend and if you think she's a negative influence in your mind, then you should try to keep away from her, nothing else. For instance, in my first year of high school, there was this really annoying girl in my class who kept stalking me and doing stuff like messing with my hair, and touching me and calling me "baby" and "love", and I didn't even know her, and I absolutely hated it. And for some moments I thought she had like a crush on me or something, but then I realise she was probably just making fun of me, or in a desperate need for attention. And I think you're still thinking like that too, thinking that you could have a chance of a relationship there. The problem is she is already seeing someone else, and your two mind sets just seem totally incompatible. In my case, I just started hanging out with other people and ignoring her, and she stopped a bit, and then she moved schools, I still don't know why. That's what you should do, keep yourself entertained, distracted with something else.

[ninja789]

be an absolute prick around her or just tell her she is weirding you out

[TinySoda]

I think you're overcomplicating this. Just tell her to stop following you if it annoys you. Make sure you're very direct, like: "listen, I don't appreciate being followed. If you have problems with me, say it to my face. Next time I catch you following me, I'm gonna sue you for stalking". I know I know you can't really sue her for stalking, but if you keep that straight face you can at least show her that you mean what you say.

Assuming you do like her; if she's the kind of girl that dumps her boyfriend because she suddenly falls for some other guy, I'd say this is not the kind of person you want to be dating. There's no guarantee she's gonna dump you for someone else in the future. The best wars are the ones you can avoid, so... yeah, get over her.

Thanks for the advise. Yeah, I guess I have to nip this in the bud. I don't want to spend the rest of my life with a girl who is constantly on the look out for a new boyfriend.

If she has a boyfriend and if you think she's a negative influence in your mind, then you should try to keep away from her, nothing else. For instance, in my first year of high school, there was this really annoying girl in my class who kept stalking me and doing stuff like messing with my hair, and touching me and calling me "baby" and "love", and I didn't even know her, and I absolutely hated it. And for some moments I thought she had like a crush on me or something, but then I realise she was probably just making fun of me, or in a desperate need for attention. And I think you're still thinking like that too, thinking that you could have a chance of a relationship there. The problem is she is already seeing someone else, and your two mind sets just seem totally incompatible. In my case, I just started hanging out with other people and ignoring her, and she stopped a bit, and then she moved schools, I still don't know why. That's what you should do, keep yourself entertained, distracted with something else.

Right. She's probably in need of attention. I guess I just need to find new sources to focus on so I can forget whatever is bothering me. Thanks for your help, much appreciated :)

be an absolute prick around her or just tell her she is weirding you out

I wish I had that much courage :D

[Emerald Dream]

OP is banned. :locked: