Losing weight & getting fit.. the struggle

[xAlfredo]

Hello everyone,
I've been gone for a while.
I'm 245 pounds and I'm 5'11, male, 15. I'm trying to lose weight. I've been on diets off and on but always somehow end up giving up. Whether it be binge eating, or being depressed, or not being motivated, I give up on my diets. It's sad, too, because after I give up, I start over and then I somehow fuck up again.

I've mainly been off and on with paleo. I know paleo works.. there are no studies that show that paleo doesn't work. However, for some reason, I can't stick to it. For example, my main motivation besides the reasons I want to lose weight would be exercising. If it's shitty outside, like raining, I won't want to exercise, which keeps me in the house with all of our junk food, which makes me cave. The outside world is my escape from binging. Another thing I noticed is if I don't make myself a proper breakfast in the morning, such as a scrambled egg with bacon or sausage, I fuck up the rest of my day.. and I'll cave in during lunch and eat something I know I shouldn't. Sometimes it's not me but the others around me like my family. My family doesn't respect that I go on diets or try to change my lifestyle by losing weight because they're also overweight. Two times when I started my diet, my mom said they were going out to get food (the one time it was Dunkin Donuts, the other time it was Wawa). I told her I didn't want anything, but she texted me anyway asking what I wanted and that she'll get me this and that.. and I ended up eating it, feeling like shit afterwards & breaking my diet.

I love exercising.. mainly riding my bike and doing yoga. Whenever I ride my bike, I do at least 10 miles. Mainly 15 miles, sometimes 20.. depending on how many times I need to go back to my house for water and if I feel like starting over. So exercising isn't the issue with me.

Since I grew up, I always ate fatty foods. I never ate lettuce, broccoli, carrots, cauliflower, celery, asparagus, etc.. No vegetables besides potatoes. When I do go on my diets, I try to stay away from them (however, I can't avoid them completely). I tried spinach and I liked it with my steak.. I tried broccoli and it was good alone (and w/ chicken breast). I don't like salad but I am able to eat wraps like a buffalo chicken wrap.. Yum.

The main question I'm trying to ask is.. how can I keep myself on my diet without giving up any of these ways again? I tried making a bet with one of my friends that is also overweight and he said he'd do it.. we're going to use a scale to see our body fat % + weight and see who can bring it down the fastest in a month(?) and whoever does gets bragging rights.. I was thinking of betting money but that isn't fair, especially if both of us lose a considerable amount of weight/body fat but one of us loses by a hair. Maybe something like this will motivate me, I don't know.

Thanks if anyone has ideas and can help me!

[radsniper]

i really don't lose weight when i ride my bike like i didn't lose weight when riding 15 miles in under 30 min. uphill on the hottest day of the year it was 102 or something like that but what does is running,mini hurdles,sports ladders,and sprint training with people to push me really hard

[xAlfredo]

i really don't lose weight when i ride my bike like i didn't lose weight when riding 15 miles in under 30 min. uphill on the hottest day of the year it was 102 or something like that but what does is running,mini hurdles,sports ladders,and sprint training with people to push me really hard

I can't stand running, mainly because I have a deviated septum so I have to breath through my mouth to get enough oxygen when I run.. yeah. Not fun.
When I bike, I do sweat, and it's still cardio (I get my heart beating when I go uphill as well).. and I feel it in my back and legs, which is great.

I do yoga which also helps my muscles.. and I also run bleachers at school (which is pretty similar to running, I guess). So I do alot of exercise, it's just what I eat affects the way I exercise that day (either alot, a decent amount, none). I really just need ways to keep my spirits high and to not give up when I'm low.. I've tried so many things, like keeping a list of reasons why I'm doing this.. but none of them seem good enough or I always have a way to contradict the reason (e.g. "lose weight so I can find a boyfriend" ->> "they should love you for what's on the inside, not the outside") shit like that happens to me in my mind and I give up.

I think I'll also try finding a pic of a body I want and printing it out/make it my lock screen so I can always see it and remind myself what I want to look like to be confident in myself.

[radsniper]

its true biking does have some benefits why i like to do it but i hate running that is why i need a friend to push me really hard and running has so many benefits but the ladders are really good also

[Hyper]

You lose weight by being in a caloric deficit.

Firstly I'd advise what is finally being preached by most ''heavyweight'' industry professionals as well.

Don't go on a diet. People go ''on'' and ''off'' diets. You might lose weight while ''on'' the diet but what happens when you go off?

If you want to lose weight permanently you have to make a lifestyle change.

Like I mentioned we lose weight when we are in a caloric deficit. So nutrition is 90% of the problem. Excercising helps to keep you healthy and is a way to burn some extra calories but you and I probably know that after that 10-20 mile bike ride we feel more hungrier than we would if we did nothing during that time.

You were already talking about foods you like and vegetables etc you like and think should eat. That's good shows you've been thinking :)

Well I'd advise you keep going on that path but do it gradually it's hard to stay on a ''diet'' because they are almost always an extreme change. Going from eating junk food X times a week and having bacon for breakfast to only eating apples (to dramatize the example) is a sure way to get sick of it and binge back.

So start slow. Start by cutting out the bad things in your nutrition. The junk food, the empty carbs like flour products and soft drinks.

Start adding vegetables to your daily meals vegetables you LIKE EATING.

Start trying to get your meals into a routine by that I mean stuff like having breakfast every morning and having a set number of meals and/or snacks every day.

Also try to start discovering healthy low calorie meals you enjoy. Remember we're making a lifestyle change and in my mind food has to be enjoyable so it's fulfilling physically and mentally.

Once you start finding these foods start making them a part of your daily meals.

Start a food diary. Write everything down you eat for 2-4 weeks and count the calories at frist it is tedious but the more you do it the more it becomes second nature. Once you understand where you are getting too much you can start really putting together your own menu so to speak.

Also use the internet there's fantastic tools out there. Websites with nutritional data, websites to calculate your TDEE and resting metabolic rate (you'll need these to plan out an appropriate caloric deficit) and get planning.

If your committed you should be in full control of your menu in about 1.5-3 months. I know it may seem awhile but it's best to take things slowly and do them properly. Ease into your changes so their not a burden but a process that you are doing for yourself.

Once you are in control and eating at a deficit decide on cheat meals not days. Why meals not days, because there is a lot more control and overview of a single meal than a whole cheat day where you can destroy weeks of progress with one day of binging on all sorts of junk. The less of them you have the better. But one every 2 weeks or one every week if you can keep your deficit decent is well and good.

If your family/friends are not trying to eat healthy like you, try to use your cheat meals with them if it helps psychologically.

And finally try to make your family understand that you need their support. Also tell your parents you don't blame them for you being overweight, often overweight parents seemingly ''sabotage'' their kids efforts due to some psychological reason so try to understand them as well and get them on your side because family support will make changing your habbits a lot easier.

Hope this helps.

[Tatii99]

Well, when it's raining outside or I just can't get out, I dome some exercises at home. Just simply stuff you know. I have an stationary bike and I ride it a lot on rainy days.