Stressed out over something i said

[RDDerek]

So a few months ago I noticed the show MLP (my little pony) & really enjoyed it. So I started watching it a lot more than the usual stuff I watch on TV. Anyway recently my mom noticed me watching it & asked about it. So I talked about the show with her & explained about each pony. I didn't really see the big deal until I noticed she was staring back at me kinda funny & said the show seemed like it was more for girls. I felt so embarrassed about going on & on about it & started blushing. After like ten seconds of awkward silence she asked if there was anything else I wanted to tell her & I said no kinda in a confused way. Then she said something like you know you can tell me anything right? Anyway to cut the whole story short its been more awkward between me & her now & I can't stand it. Like she expects me to come out to her or something.

[crazyBoyjJ]

I don't understand what ur asking about here, could u explain a little more.

[PinkFloyd]

Explain to her that just because you watch a certain show doesn't define who you are. That's what I'd do in your position.

[Karkat]

UGH. I'm sorry about that. I personally love MLP as well. Agree with Rob here- watching a certain show doesn't define your sexuality- I know plenty of heterosexual male bronies.

[Croconaw]

She was probably assuming you were gay. Watching a certain show doesn't define who you are, though. It doesn't look like her reaction would be too bad. Do you think she'd accept if you came out as gay to her? If those were her exact words, then she was probably encouraging you to tell her. She wants you to know you can feel comfortable telling her. You don't have to be ashamed of who you are.

[RDDerek]

I don't understand what ur asking about here, could u explain a little more.Well I just don't want her to think just because I liked a certain show that I'm gay. I just wish I had a time machine or something. I mean Im pretty sure I am but I dont want her or anyone else to know that i guess :(

[xxdrakeTxx]

what you listen to or what you watch on tv doesnt define your sexuality for example im gay and i really dont like mlp i like deathcore music and horror movies . and i really dont see why gender roles have to be labled on tv shows and movies

[Aajj333]

Your a Brony just tell her that.

[ksdnfkfr]

Well I just don't want her to think just because I liked a certain show that I'm gay. I just wish I had a time machine or something. I mean Im pretty sure I am but I dont want her or anyone else to know that i guess :(

There are a bunch of straight guys I know who love MLP.

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[DiamondsGirl]

Seriously? Just because you watch a certain show she assumes you are gay? =\ those damn gender stereotypes!! Come on, you know you can live beyond stereotypes! you don't have to stop watching that show if you don't want to. Heck you don't even need to stress over this. If I were you, I'd just laugh it off and yell from across the room "no, mom, I'm not gay. But thank you for your concerns".

[Living For Love]

Think of it this way: one day you'll have to come out, right? You might not feel ready now, and that's understandable, but I guess we're just delaying the inevitable. Don't come out to her yet, just don't say anything. The good thing is that she has already her suspicions that you might be gay, so when you really come out to her, it won't be a shock. I mean, the way she asked you "Is there anything else you want to tell me?" it seems that she'll be quite supportive when you come out, and that she doesn't mind at all, and that's obviously a good thing. As you're not ready yet, pretend that conversation didn't happen, try not to mention that show anymore to her, and you'll be fine.

[Karkat]

Think of it this way: one day you'll have to come out, right? You might not feel ready now, and that's understandable, but I guess we're just delaying the inevitable. Don't come out to her yet, just don't say anything. The good thing is that she has already her suspicions that you might be gay, so when you really come out to her, it won't be a shock. I mean, the way she asked you "Is there anything else you want to tell me?" it seems that she'll be quite supportive when you come out, and that she doesn't mind at all, and that's obviously a good thing. As you're not ready yet, pretend that conversation didn't happen, try not to mention that show anymore to her, and you'll be fine.

...Has the OP stated that he's gay?? Did I miss something? I was under the impression that he was upset because of his mom's assumptions.

[Living For Love]

...Has the OP stated that he's gay?? Did I miss something? I was under the impression that he was upset because of his mom's assumptions.

Yes, the OP said he thinks he's gay in the 6th post of this thread.

Well I just don't want her to think just because I liked a certain show that I'm gay. I just wish I had a time machine or something. I mean Im pretty sure I am but I dont want her or anyone else to know that i guess

[phuckphace]

I don't think it's an unreasonable assumption to make, actually. MLP is full of glitter and rainbows and effeminate cuteness, none of which, if we're being honest, are trademarks of the typical heterosexual. you even admit that you actually are gay - that right there is a bit of a vindication on your mom's part is it not?

those damn gender stereotypes!!

they exist for a reason. if you spend any significant amount of time around people and observe their personalities and lifestyle choices, this becomes very obvious very quickly. the handful of straight males who like MLP are outliers - that is, a very small minority who can hardly be a representative sample of heterosexuals in general. a large majority of straight people are repulsed by MLP because of its effeminate undertones, OP's mom being one of them. it's not necessarily "homophobic", it's just that way for the same reason most straight men wear pants and shirts rather than sparkly pink dresses.

in short, I just don't understand why someone would be surprised that other people think they might be gay for liking a girly rainbow cartoon.

[DiamondsGirl]

Sorry. I wasn't in the best mood writing that. I know I don't blame OP's mom for suspecting her son to be gay.

[CassnovA]

put porn on and see how long til she begs u to put mlp back on

[Karkat]

Yes, the OP said he thinks he's gay in the 6th post of this thread.

Sorry, I totally missed that. :what:

I don't think it's an unreasonable assumption to make, actually. MLP is full of glitter and rainbows and effeminate cuteness, none of which, if we're being honest, are trademarks of the typical heterosexual. you even admit that you actually are gay - that right there is a bit of a vindication on your mom's part is it not?



they exist for a reason. if you spend any significant amount of time around people and observe their personalities and lifestyle choices, this becomes very obvious very quickly. the handful of straight males who like MLP are outliers - that is, a very small minority who can hardly be a representative sample of heterosexuals in general. a large majority of straight people are repulsed by MLP because of its effeminate undertones, OP's mom being one of them. it's not necessarily "homophobic", it's just that way for the same reason most straight men wear pants and shirts rather than sparkly pink dresses.

in short, I just don't understand why someone would be surprised that other people think they might be gay for liking a girly rainbow cartoon.

Would like to point out that most gay men don't usually wear women's clothing- that's kind of a stereotype that's come about from trans women being attracted to men. So, unless post-op, technically 'gay'. (I know you're gay as well, I just thought I'd point that out.)

I think stereotypes are still kind of idiotic- gays don't have to be flamboyant. Lesbians don't have to be 'dykes'. Heck, heterosexual women don't have to be frilly, and heterosexual men don't have to be macho.

I've had people tell me that I should give up being with my boyfriend when I pose as male, because they confuse transvestitism as being a 'butch lesbian in the closet'. Because they think I'm trying to hide my sexuality or something. And then I'll get shit for going out and getting fake nails because I'm "trying too hard".

UM HOW ABOUT YOU LEAVE ME TO DO WHAT I WANT TO DO.

I am with my boyfriend because I love him, I wear fake nails because they're fucking fabulous. They're shiny, smooth, pretty, and easier to scratch someone up with. I'm not going to invest in an entire relationship I'm repulsed by, I'm not going to invest $40 in a MINOR DETAIL to 'stay in the closet'.

I may be fairly detail-oriented when I lie because I'm an actor, but that doesn't mean I'm going to live my entire life that way. Usually, if I do something or say something, it's genuine, because this is not the stage.

Sure, stereotypes exist because they tend to be true for a fairly large part of a group of people. Whatever, society is weird like that. It's probably because we become more comfortable with what we know, and sometimes false assumptions are better than xenophobia.

...But the ASSUMPTIONS are what really get me. Asking > assuming. So I really still feel like the mom was in the wrong here, because she just assumed. She didn't take the time to find out if A meant B. It really doesn't matter if you can 'tell something', it's still a good thing to give people the benefit of the doubt. I mean, Miles Jai wears women's clothing. He must be transgender, right? NOPE. CISGENDER. Gus from Breaking Bad is African-American, because his skin is darker, right? CHILEAN (I think that's the verdict, anyways.)

It'd be different if people didn't take stereotypes WAAAAY too seriously.