Telling my mom I like metal/rock

[Airylin]

Hey :) So I like metal/rock music and I once heard from my mom that he's into that (she doesn't know I like it) so I decided to tell my father (my parents are divorced by the way, I told him via WhatsApp) and I told him I listen to 'Black Veil Brides', I also said my mom doesn't know about is because I'm afraid she will be mad at me or something. He didn't have problems with it that I listen to them. However, yesterday was my birthday and I received a box via post with some presents in it from my dad. There were some things like chocolate and perfume in it, but also a cd from Black Veil Brides. I hid the cd before she could see it. However, I feel pretty bad now and I think it would be much easier if she knows I'm into that genre. Does anyone have some advice?

*Sorry if this placed in the wrong forum section
*Sorry if I made some mistakes in the spelling/grammar, English isn't my first language.

[Bigp24]

You should just tell her. She can't tell you what you can and can't like. You should Check out A Day To Remember, Issues, and Of Mice & Men. :)

[ksdnfkfr]

Why would she be upset?

[Airylin]

You should just tell her. She can't tell you what you can and can't like. You should Check out A Day To Remember, Issues, and Of Mice & Men. :)


Yea, that's true. But how should I tell her? I mean, it would be kinda random if I walk up to my mom and say 'Hey I like metal :3'. And I'll will check then out :)

Why would she be upset?

I don't know, maybe she doesn't like it or think it's wrong for me and that I should listen to other music.

[ksdnfkfr]

Yea, that's true. But how should I tell her? I mean, it would be kinda random if I walk up to my mom and say 'Hey I like metal :3'. And I'll will check then out :)

Leave the CD where she can find it.

[NeuroTiger]

Let her see the CD

[Gamma Male]

I always just laugh my ass off when I hear parents speaking out against metal.
"My son Jimmy was a good boy until he started listening to Marilyn Manson, then he became a crack addict and began to rape squirrels and worship Satan! Metal is bad!"
-_- If your child suddenly begans to break the law and act like a crazy dickhead, it's because you're a horrible parent, not because of the type of music he listens too.

I guess just leave the cd out for her to see. And if she says she doesn't want you listening to that music, ask her what type of music she listened to as a kid and if her parents ever had any problems with it.

[phuckphace]

"hey mom, what do you think about metal?" you'll never know until you ask. maybe she's secretly br00t41 and listens to Burzum and Impaled Nazarene when you're not around.

[backjruton]

The way I see it is...

You have your own tastes, you know your own tastes and no one should try to change your tastes. I'm how I am not because of music but because of experiences and the music I listen to hasn't changed that... it just influences my mood sometimes which isn't too bad a change. I listen to Jessie J and stuff though, and the most (what I think) metal I've listened to is The Pretty Reckless, Knife Party and Skrillex... If anything, these actually help me out when (I probably sound so sad now) I'm playing RuneScape and doing one of the things I do on there that requires more of my attention, as I find it easier to keep up when listening to it.

Surely if she tries to change your tastes it shows a sign of bad family relationship, as family should just accept you for who you are and what you do. It's like that stupid "You're Getting Old" episode of South Park where Stan's mum tried to stop him listening to a certain kind of music to me I guess, although I'm not quite sure how. Tell her, and if she complains try to come up with a reason why it isn't bad. Try to reason with her, and hopefully she should reason with you. Or just do what I do and hide it because everything's been easier for me that way.

[Syvelocin]

Why does she need to know? Lol. It's just music. Now, if you were much younger, I still wouldn't see the point in telling her, but I would see why she could have a reaction. Some parents like to regulate every bit of media their kids ingest. I think that's only appropriate up to a certain age.

I don't talk about music with my mum but that's because she's into 80s and 90s pop music. She's heard bits of what I listen to and doesn't give a damn. I discuss music with my dad because our tastes overlap, but there's some stuff he doesn't know I like and that's completely fine. Music isn't a crime. Rock and metal are not on the same level as manslaughter.

[radsniper]

just leave out the cd and ask her about it later

[JDubs]

Well, your old enough to like what you wanna like, so I don't think you really need to come out and tell her. If it comes up, just casually tell her. Don't be rude or defensive, cuz then it'll just seem bad when it's not

[RunnerRunner]

You should just tell her, its what you like, not what she likes. I told my parents I love metal and my dad was happy and my mom didnt mind it.

[Katiya]

Most kids aren't into their parents music. They have different tastes. If thats what you like than listen to it.:)

That would be kind of like saying because I listen to evanescence, that I am a depressed suicidal person. Which is so far from true.

I'm sure some people who listen to metal are bad, but those people were bad to begin with before the music. If music changes a person like that they had a mental issue before the music.

If your mom had any problem I'd just tell her the above. Its just like how not every girl who listens to Taylor Swift is sweet and innocent. And listening to TS will never make anyone a better person.

You could just leave it out or say "hey what do you think about metal?" Well do you know I like it?"

Either way is fine. I doubt she would mind, but if she did just tell her what I said about this above ;)

[CharlieHorse]

Music is the most wonderful thing that human beings have invented since our existence on this pitiful planet. Don't ever feel bad or embarrassed about your love for it, no matter what genre. I think that it's great that you like metal.
If your dad likes it, then I bet she is ok with it.

[Dalcourt]

I guess you are old enough to decide what you want to listen, too. I would not discuss it, just leave it around as the others said and if she wants to talk about it then talk to her and if not just leave the subject and go on listening to what you want.

I personally always use headphones when I listen to music, so nobody cares want I'm listening, too.

[CosmicNoodle]

This may be a bit dickish but the fact your mum hates metal just makes me laugh. I was listening to Sweet Dreams by Maralyn Manson and my dad came in looked around and said " I always liked this song",found what he was looking for and walked out.
The thought is parents caring what there children listen to is an odd concept for me