What About A "Smoker Hater"?

[DiamondsGirl]

So I got this friend who was really close to me from when I was 12 to about 15. After we enter high school we became distant, but then one day I received a Facebook message from him saying that he's been smoking cigarettes for two months now. His message broke my heart. I replied to it with a (probably) ten-page long essay but he never replied. When I see him smoking for the first time IRL I felt a sting on my chest. Since then I started to feel very strongly against smoking; both cigs and weeds. Every time someone I know tells me they smoke, I feel like I'm about to cry. It's a good thing my close friends today don't smoke, but I know for sure if one day I grew close to somebody who does smoke, I would at least tell him/her that I do believe quitting would be beneficial to them.

Would you be offended if one day a friend comes up to you and tells you "hey look I love you and all but I don't think smoking is good for you"? What would you say in return? What are your views regarding smoking?

[refrigeratorx]

smoking is a problem... health hazards for people who do it, risks other people from inhalation and its also expensive. a pack a day for a year is like $2,500 around i think i read. think of what that could be used on. i am all against it and its entire existence on earth.

it is a relief for some people who need to relax. BUT there are SO MANY other ways to relax and de-stress.

[Typhlosion]

I would accept such a message as the friend caring for me and my health, not offensively. I myself can't go against smoking since it's a (temporary) stress-relief for some, or just pleasure for others, and in the end it's their body. I was sure shocked when a good friend of mine started smoking, I never said much but he ended up quitting because of the bad smell on the clothes.

[ksdnfkfr]

To me what people do is their own business. I mean should I get stressed out when someone is eating stuff like cheese burgers or drinking alcohol or not getting enough sleep or not exercising or if they are overweight? Should someone stress over someone else being stressed, because being stressed is very unhealthy?

[refrigeratorx]

To me what people do is their own business. I mean should I get stressed out when someone is eating stuff like cheese burgers or drinking alcohol or not getting enough sleep or not exercising or if they are overweight? Should someone stress over someone else being stressed, because being stressed is very unhealthy?

very true statement. it is none of your business who does what in general. however, if it were a really close friend of mine, I love them and care for their health and well being. In that case it is important to do something in my opinion whether it is about drugs or smoking or even dietary. For random people, it is not our place to stress or anything. if we tried to help everybody, there simply isnt enough time for that.

[ksdnfkfr]

very true statement. it is none of your business who does what in general. however, if it were a really close friend of mine, I love them and care for their health and well being. In that case it is important to do something in my opinion whether it is about drugs or smoking or even dietary. For random people, it is not our place to stress or anything. if we tried to help everybody, there simply isnt enough time for that.

I probably lack enough empathy because of my autism to feel that way. Unless it was something major like a meth addiction.

[Lonely teen]

Well if it were just my normal friends I wouldn't say nothing cause well sure I hang out with them from time to time but their business is not mine, on the other hand if it was my gf I would instantly try to get her to quit... If she didn't I would more than likely break up with her cause I'm not going to see the person I care for slowly pay for their death.

[workingatperfect]

If I still smoked and someone said that to me, I wouldn't be offended but I'd find it pretty naive and annoying. Everyone knows smoking is bad. I really don't see the point in telling someone that it's bad for us... WE KNOW. I'd probably say something like "And the Earth revolves around the sun, your point?" I don't really have views on smoking. It's your choice if you do it or not and it won't make me think any less or more of you.

[conniption]

If I still smoked and someone said that to me, I wouldn't be offended but I'd find it pretty naive and annoying. Everyone knows smoking is bad. I really don't see the point in telling someone that it's bad for us... WE KNOW. I'd probably say something like "And the Earth revolves around the sun, your point?" I don't really have views on smoking. It's your choice if you do it or not and it won't make me think any less or more of you.

Yes, exactly. Everyone knows it's bad, and I understand friends worry, but sometimes there's nothing you can do.

[Karkat]

If I still smoked and someone said that to me, I wouldn't be offended but I'd find it pretty naive and annoying. Everyone knows smoking is bad. I really don't see the point in telling someone that it's bad for us... WE KNOW. I'd probably say something like "And the Earth revolves around the sun, your point?" I don't really have views on smoking. It's your choice if you do it or not and it won't make me think any less or more of you.

Yes, exactly. Everyone knows it's bad, and I understand friends worry, but sometimes there's nothing you can do.

Agree with these guys. I personally smoke, but I'm trying to quit, and if someone told me how bad it was for me AND they openly knew that I was trying to quit, I'd probably punch them in the face.

However, if I was still smoking, and not trying to quit, and someone told me, I'd understand that they were just concerned. I personally would try to get my boyfriend to quit, but he does it because of stress at work...I'd rather he found a job that is better for him so that he wouldn't NEED to smoke- that's the REAL problem here.

[DiamondsGirl]

I probably lack enough empathy because of my autism to feel that way. Unless it was something major like a meth addiction.

unfortunately for some people... me... smoking is something major just like meth addiction.

thanks for the feedback btw.

[radsniper]

smoking is a problem

[Tatii99]

I don't really care if people smoke or not. They know they're slowly killing themselves. I just don't like when people smoke really close to me or when they throw the smoke to my side. Kill yourself, but don't take me with you!

[Dalcourt]

To me what people do is their own business. I mean should I get stressed out when someone is eating stuff like cheese burgers or drinking alcohol or not getting enough sleep or not exercising or if they are overweight? Should someone stress over someone else being stressed, because being stressed is very unhealthy?

Totally agree with that.
I mean if people are old enough to light a cigarette, they are old enough to have heard about the dangers of smoking.
I smoke on very rare occasions and if a friend tells me he or she is worried I accept it. I know that it is bad for my asthma anyway.
And if you are bothered by it I certainly wouldn't smoke in front of you.
Apart from that I basically go by the motto live and let live

[Body odah Man]

I wouldn't be offended as I know it's bad and in the end I think it's best to get the smoker to just..stop. Period. I can totally feel where you're coming from

[Miserabilia]

i HATE smoking and the act and cigarretes and the whole smoking system!
I hate it, it's pure filth for your body