Ex gf possibly with other guy

[plebble]

Last summer I was doing long distance with this girl, after about 8 weeks she dumped me for this other guy. Obviously I was upset and I didn't talk to her until March this year, she had sent me lots of emails asking me to be her friend again but I ignored all of them. So we started talking again in March and she told me she only left me because long distance was killing her and she only dated that new guy to get her mind off me. She dumped him after about a week.
Since I've started talking to her again, my feelings have returned. I found it that she had lost her virginity to another guy last week, not her boyfriend, just a guy friend, and that crushed me. She claims she loves me (not sure which way) but she's probably just saying that so I won't leave her again. I thought it was a one time thing but her Twitter suggests that this is becoming a regular thing that she is doing friends with benefits with this guy.
I can't take this anymore and I just want to leave her for good, but if I do that I'll just feel bad. I don't know what to do.

[DiamondsGirl]

Leave her for good. That guilty feeling you just have to get over.

[ninja789]

sounds like a lot of hurt she is giving you
It is difficult for people our age to have long distance relationships as you cant do some stuff. She may just not be mature enough to handle going without that stuff

[Living For Love]

Just forget her, she's not worth your time. If you want, you can still be friends, but don't even think about another relationship with her, you will only hurt yourself.

[plebble]

Just forget her, she's not worth your time. If you want, you can still be friends, but don't even think about another relationship with her, you will only hurt yourself.

It's difficult to just forget her, if I could do it that easily I would. I want to be friends, but I know for a fact we shouldn't be friends. She's the reason I have lost all trust and faith in everyone. For example, if someone asks me a favour or asks me anything at all I will immediately ask "why?".
I don't plan on having another relationship with her. New is always better.

[DiamondsGirl]

it's easier to forget her if you don't see her no more. Just saying...

[ScottishCanary]

I guess that if she misses you and wants to talk you could see where that leads. If your relationship would still be long distance you might run into the same problem with her struggling. Long distance is hard to do especially at our age when physical closeness is key. I guess you could tell her how you feel if you are serious about getting back with her. Otherwise it might just be easier to cut ties. Explain to her why you won't be erupting toner texts/emails and move on.

[plebble]

I guess that if she misses you and wants to talk you could see where that leads. If your relationship would still be long distance you might run into the same problem with her struggling. Long distance is hard to do especially at our age when physical closeness is key. I guess you could tell her how you feel if you are serious about getting back with her. Otherwise it might just be easier to cut ties. Explain to her why you won't be erupting toner texts/emails and move on.

I'm not getting back with her, I just want to be friends but the fact that she could be close to another guy hurts me

[ScottishCanary]

I'm not getting back with her, I just want to be friends but the fact that she could be close to another guy hurts me

Well in that case you might be better off not around her. You cannot be friends with an ex you still feel like that about. It doesn't work. End of the day she's moving on which is fine and it seems like deep inside you're not ready for her to move on. That's OK but it means a friendship can't work, sorry.

[plebble]

Well in that case you might be better off not around her. You cannot be friends with an ex you still feel like that about. It doesn't work. End of the day she's moving on which is fine and it seems like deep inside you're not ready for her to move on. That's OK but it means a friendship can't work, sorry.

Yeah that's what I'm trying to tell her, she keeps telling me different things and I'm confused. She tells me she doesn't want to do FWB with this guy but she hates letting people down.

[ScottishCanary]

Yeah that's what I'm trying to tell her, she keeps telling me different things and I'm confused. She tells me she doesn't want to do FWB with this guy but she hates letting people down.

Well that's a different thing altogether. I know how hard it is letting people down but if she doesn't want a FWB thing it's better to say. I have seen people destroyed emotionally from FWB they didn't want but kept going.

[charmynyankawaii]

Leave her alone, she's not worth it! Not even as a friend! She might just be doing this to get your attention and then she'll dump you again. I know girls like that.