Am I too tight and to small?

[biancachica]

So I was going out with this guy a couple of years ago and lost my virginity to him. Because he was my first, I had never seen a penis before and I though his was big because it looked big and it hurt when we had sex the first times. After a while it hurt less but still felt big. He told me that he wasn't big and he tried to prove it to me by measuring it. It was around 13cm (5in) long and 11cm (4.5in) around. It didn't mean anything to me and I thought maybe he was humble. Now I have a new boyfriend and he is even bigger! We have been having a hard time having sex because it hurts. He also says that he isnt that big so i decided to measure him to compare with my old boyfriend. He is 14.5cm(almost 6in) in length and 12.5cm (5in) around. At first I wasn't able to put it all in because it was too thick. After a couple of tries and lots of lube it fit all in but he was hitting my cervix. I talked to my friends about this and they don't seem to be as tight as me because they have had longer and thicker penises and they were able to have normal sex after a couple of tries. I went on the internet to see if they were really not that big and they were right. Even though he says he likes me being tight, I want to have normal vaginal penetration. Btw i'm 5'2'' and I wear size small pants which is about 26 inches at the waist if that is related to having a small vagina.So I was wondering if you girls have this same problem? How deep is your vagina and how wide is it? What happens if I try to have sex with an even bigger guy? Is there anyway to make it stretch more?

[workingatperfect]

Are you aroused when you try to have sex? Because the vagina can stretch to fit any size penis IF you're actually turned on and wet. There is no set size. If he was hitting your cervix, that's probably a sign that you need to get more turned on before there's any penetration. (You could have a low cervix, but if he got all the way in, that's probably not the case) Foreplay is your friend! Fingering is very helpful because it obviously is going to loosen and stretch the muscles. It's like the warm up... You wouldn't go for a run without warming up first would you?

[Taryn98]

Your body is made to pass a baby out of your vagina, regardless of your size. Your vagina will stretch and loosen the more that you use it.

[biancachica]

Are you aroused when you try to have sex? Because the vagina can stretch to fit any size penis IF you're actually turned on and wet. There is no set size. If he was hitting your cervix, that's probably a sign that you need to get more turned on before there's any penetration. (You could have a low cervix, but if he got all the way in, that's probably not the case) Foreplay is your friend! Fingering is very helpful because it obviously is going to loosen and stretch the muscles. It's like the warm up... You wouldn't go for a run without warming up first would you?
We actually do a lot of foreplay, because at first thats what we thought was the problem. I finger myself and he fingers me also during foreplay. But even when he fingers me, it is tight when he tries with two fingers. Its quite easy for me since I have smaller fingers. Can it be that im not wet enough? I mean i feel very aroused but maybe I still am not aroused enough.

[workingatperfect]

We actually do a lot of foreplay, because at first thats what we thought was the problem. I finger myself and he fingers me also during foreplay. But even when he fingers me, it is tight when he tries with two fingers. Its quite easy for me since I have smaller fingers. Can it be that im not wet enough? I mean i feel very aroused but maybe I still am not aroused enough.

It could be that. I have a problem a lot of the time where mentally I'm really turned on, but I won't be all that wet.. And for that, I'm sorry but I have no explanation or tips lol. :/

Edit: I forget about this before, but I started having the problem about the time that I went off my birth control pills. I believe it's also a possible side effect of going ON them, so if you are or have been on birth control, that could be the cause. Another thing I forgot was relaxation. If you're nervous it can make you tense and therefore tighter.

Another possible solution, without going into too much detail, would be to have him get you close to orgasm with his fingers or mouth and then switching to penetration.

[KaraaaHope]

If you're already using a lot of lube and there's still a problem then perhaps it's a separate issue. I'm positive it's not a BAD issue, just a different one. I just think you need to keep having sex regularly. Your body will figure it out. Uncomfortable probably, but nothing here sounds wrong or abnormal.

[Tatii99]

Are you aroused when you try to have sex? Because the vagina can stretch to fit any size penis IF you're actually turned on and wet. There is no set size. If he was hitting your cervix, that's probably a sign that you need to get more turned on before there's any penetration. (You could have a low cervix, but if he got all the way in, that's probably not the case) Foreplay is your friend! Fingering is very helpful because it obviously is going to loosen and stretch the muscles. It's like the warm up... You wouldn't go for a run without warming up first would you?

This.

Your body is made to pass a baby out of your vagina, regardless of your size. Your vagina will stretch and loosen the more that you use it.

And this.

I can't really give you an advice or something, if he's hitting your cervix I think you're just too small. When I was 13 my vagina was still a bit tight, but once I started having sex that "problem" was gone, i can take 8 inches with no worries nowadays. Try to do it more often and always make sure you're truly turned on and wet.

Good luck cutie :)

[workingatperfect]

If you're already using a lot of lube and there's still a problem then perhaps it's a separate issue. I'm positive it's not a BAD issue, just a different one. I just think you need to keep having sex regularly. Your body will figure it out. Uncomfortable probably, but nothing here sounds wrong or abnormal.

Well actually, the thing with lube is that while it does make things slicker, it doesn't create the affects that would typically come with natural lube (ie. the vagina expanding and loosening.)

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[ninja789]

It is stretchy but sore
Once I couldn't get the guy in so we left it but over time I have had less problems
You might just need time to get used to him

[sambeans]

I had the same issue. Just keep at it and it should get easier each time. Do you have lube?

[shelby_caligurl_2000]

I've had sex with 8 guys and I've only measured one (by far the biggest) and he was just under 8 inches. It took about 10 mins to even get it in and I was super horny and wet. Not trying to brag or anything but I'm 5'2" also and fairly slim too, and every guy I've done stuff with has said I'm really tight, even guys that have just eaten me out or just seen it. So you sound like you're just lucky that way! But if it does hurt you can always get some lube, just make sure its water based and not oil.

[biancachica]

I've had sex with 8 guys and I've only measured one (by far the biggest) and he was just under 8 inches. It took about 10 mins to even get it in and I was super horny and wet. Not trying to brag or anything but I'm 5'2" also and fairly slim too, and every guy I've done stuff with has said I'm really tight, even guys that have just eaten me out or just seen it. So you sound like you're just lucky that way! But if it does hurt you can always get some lube, just make sure its water based and not oil.
The length is not that big of a deal because he can always penetrate me less deep. Do you happen to know how thick he was? I guess i need to have more sex to get used to it and use a lot of lube.

[shelby_caligurl_2000]

The length is not that big of a deal because he can always penetrate me less deep. Do you happen to know how thick he was? I guess i need to have more sex to get used to it and use a lot of lube.

I didnt measure thickness, but he wasn't my first and it felt like it was stretching my vag really wide. But he tried to go all the way in and it seriously felt like it was in my stomach, which did feel amazing lol but he said it was still an inch from being all the way in. And yes the more sex u have the easier it will get and use lube. But I've been told by multiple guys that I'm "unstretchable" so maybe were just lucky/cursed haha idk , but that's what happens when your 5'2"

[biancachica]

I didnt measure thickness, but he wasn't my first and it felt like it was stretching my vag really wide. But he tried to go all the way in and it seriously felt like it was in my stomach, which did feel amazing lol but he said it was still an inch from being all the way in. And yes the more sex u have the easier it will get and use lube. But I've been told by multiple guys that I'm "unstretchable" so maybe were just lucky/cursed haha idk , but that's what happens when your 5'2"

We might be cursed haha but if you took in 7 inches then I might have some hope!

[shelby_caligurl_2000]

We might be cursed haha but if you took in 7 inches then I might have some hope!

Lol well idk if it was 7in just going off what he said. But it seriously felt like it was in my stomach. All the guys say I'm the tightest they've had, so if they're telling me the truth I'd say were lucky. Which positions have u tried and which work best for u?

[biancachica]

Lol well idk if it was 7in just going off what he said. But it seriously felt like it was in my stomach. All the guys say I'm the tightest they've had, so if they're telling me the truth I'd say were lucky. Which positions have u tried and which work best for u?

I mean its great being tight because even though my vagina fells like its stretched out, the penetration feels really intense and there is a lot of friction which feels good even though it hurts. Even though my boyfriend is average he feels huge which is good for both of us i guess. For positions i prefer to be on top so that i can control the penetration. I also like it when my legs are spread so it feels less tight. my favorite positions are missionary types or cowgirl type positions. how about you? what positions do you prefer?

[shelby_caligurl_2000]

I mean its great being tight because even though my vagina fells like its stretched out, the penetration feels really intense and there is a lot of friction which feels good even though it hurts. Even though my boyfriend is average he feels huge which is good for both of us i guess. For positions i prefer to be on top so that i can control the penetration. I also like it when my legs are spread so it feels less tight. my favorite positions are missionary types or cowgirl type positions. how about you? what positions do you prefer?

What do you mean by average? like 5 inches? whats the biggest you've actually seen irl? i personally like doggy style best, on top either way for second and missionary with legs up for third.

[biancachica]

What do you mean by average? like 5 inches? whats the biggest you've actually seen irl? i personally like doggy style best, on top either way for second and missionary with legs up for third.

My current bf is close to 6 inches which is average from what i read. the biggest ive seen according to the guy, is 8 inches but i think he was under7 inches around 6.5 maybe. but i only fooled around with him and didnt have sex.

[shelby_caligurl_2000]

My current bf is close to 6 inches which is average from what i read. the biggest ive seen according to the guy, is 8 inches but i think he was under7 inches around 6.5 maybe. but i only fooled around with him and didnt have sex.

nice! but actually think that 6inches is a little bigger than avg i always thought that 5 was the actually avg

[biancachica]

nice! but actually think that 6inches is a little bigger than avg i always thought that 5 was the actually avg

I read that the average was between 5 and 6 so i guess he would be high average.