Coming out

[Radiant Fractal]

So I have come to the realization that I am (very) gay, and I'm going to come out soon. This isn't too much of a problem, I know my friends and family will accept me and it will all be fine... However I currently have a girlfriend :confused: and I should probably break up with her before I come out.
So that brings me to my real question:
What is the easiest way (for her, mostly) for me to break up with her?
also, how did all of you other gay boys come out?
Thanks!

[MechaSniper]

I'm not A homosexual but telling your girlfriend that your gay will make her feel like shit.

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[centropede]

There is no other way to break than telling her that you are gay.

[Bmble_B]

Yea, I'm sorry to say but your gf will have to know. If she finds out that you are homosexual without you telling her she will be feeling some type of way. Which is why I think you should tell her that you're gay beforehand

[ksdnfkfr]

Even though it will really hurt her feelings and probably make her feel used, you owe it to her to be honest at this point.

[From Chris]

So I have come to the realization that I am (very) gay, and I'm going to come out soon. This isn't too much of a problem, I know my friends and family will accept me and it will all be fine... However I currently have a girlfriend :confused: and I should probably break up with her before I come out.
So that brings me to my real question:
What is the easiest way (for her, mostly) for me to break up with her?
also, how did all of you other gay boys come out?
Thanks!

I would be very careful with this one, because telling your girlfriend you are breaking up with her because you are gay might make her think bad of herself. I would treat it like a normal breakup, let the stream roll off and then come out so she doesn't think that you may have broken up with her due to the fact you are gay. :) Hope this helps.

-Chris <3

[curiousme]

Thats a tuffy, ok so, u have to ease into this one. Dont be so straight forward right up front but dont take forever to tell her either. Do u think you're fully gay? Or bi? Do u actually have real feelings for your girlfriend or was it just to get layed off by your friends about thinking you are gay? Or to make everyone think you arent gay? Cause if u do have feelings for this girl, but also like guys maybe your just bi and u dont have to break up with her.

[Karkat]

I would be very careful with this one, because telling your girlfriend you are breaking up with her because you are gay might make her think bad of herself. I would treat it like a normal breakup, let the stream roll off and then come out so she doesn't think that you may have broken up with her due to the fact you are gay. :) Hope this helps.

-Chris <3

Thats a tuffy, ok so, u have to ease into this one. Dont be so straight forward right up front but dont take forever to tell her either. Do u think you're fully gay? Or bi? Do u actually have real feelings for your girlfriend or was it just to get layed off by your friends about thinking you are gay? Or to make everyone think you arent gay? Cause if u do have feelings for this girl, but also like guys maybe your just bi and u dont have to break up with her.

Agree with both.

Especially that the context of your relationship NEEDS to come first in your decision.

[Zanman11]

You're in a tough situation... I'm not gay but you should break up by coming out to her. It will not be easy but it's probably the best way

[jamiecl24]

Well for starters i respect your courage ! The amount of courage it must take to come out must be huge �� im not gay but i know it must be hard but id break up with her just say your not that in to her any more and wait a while before you come out then so she wont feel shit about the break up and the fact of dating a gay guy

[plebble]

I think she should be the first person to come out to. Tell her all the clichés like "it's not you I swear. It's me" and tell her that you're gay and that you want to remain friends and all that, I don't think it's necessary to apologize but you might as well... (I don't mean say sorry because you're gay, I mean say sorry because you understand that she's upset).

[LiamC]

This girl asked me out long before anyone knew I was gay and I was horrible, I just said "no you aren't my type at all", so I kinda get how you feel! In your case I think you would have to be cruel to be kind and just tell her, it will probably hurt her feelings but if you explain that you've just come to the realisation, make it clear you weren't using her or anything, ie just tell the truth. The longer you leave it, the more worrying it will be for you that she may find out or something and the fallout will just get worse the longer you hide it I expect.

Good luck, coming out is one of the most daunting things imaginable, when you're standing in the closet with one hand on the door it's so hard to open it and walk out. But once you do, it's the best feeling ever and you feel so liberated, even if it's only to a crowd of one. But yeah do make sure you tell her first rather than a friend or something, because again you don't want to risk her finding out second hand :p