Strait friend

[Hermes96]

At college (high school for you Americans) there's this guy who's really kind sweet funny dirty minded and a giant nerd (basicly he's every aspect i look for in a guy). We hang out all the time which is great. He knows i like him and he's fine with it. The other week his GF (now his ex GF) told me that i should kiss him. This had come up a few times before with both him and a number of other people. the issue is this. He's said i can kiss him but i have to lead it. now normally i'd jump in and kiss the guy but with him i just can't We even lent in but i stopped. Looking back on it i'm kicking myself. Now i no opportunity like this will happen again and i want to kiss him next time i just don't want to ruin our friendship or alienate him. what would you do if you where me

[Meganium]

I personally would seek some kind of other advance. Kissing him without him expecting it is beyond invading his personal space, especially considering that he's straight. There's a strong chance that this would just ruin things.

[Bmble_B]

Yea don't just sneak kiss him, he would most likely not like this invasion of personal space and would feel weirded out

[backjruton]

All I can really say is you should be careful depending on the circumstances. If they broke up because of a big fall out, his ex could just be trying to wind you and the boyfriend up. If he's said something different to you, maybe there is a possibility, but I've been told to do things to wind people's exes up before (nothing like this though) and you need to be careful with what you do if it's something you're really not sure of. I know how I feel, 6 months later and I still won't let one of my friends have any physical contact with me. I don't mind playing with my hair which sadly she does but other than that I'm not ok. He might be like that, as some people have real problems with the thought of physical contact and I'm guessing it could just make things worse. There's a lot of things you will have to be careful for. I don't really know much about leading into it, I only know personally I don't think it's the kind of situation I'd like to be in... also, you need to think of how long you've known eachother and how much you know about eachother I think, because having things in common with them is always great. I don't really have much more I can think to say right now though...

[ksdnfkfr]

Too fast too soon.