"Friend" blackmailing me because I'm bi, help.

[dubstep13]

I'm 16 and in the summer holidays (vacation) I came out as bi to three of my friends. They all took it fine but now one of them likes to use it to blackmail me. For example if I do something he slightly doesn't like (I hid his rubber in class) he will say out in the open "I will tell people your biggest secret if you don't give me my rubber back" even if some people who don't know it are around. I'm never actually sure if he will or not, but he is one of those people who you don't know whether they are telling the truth or joking and it is really getting to me. He seems to use it against me as a weakness, no matter what is happening. I really don't want anyone else who I know knowing as a lot of other people at school don't take gay's and bi's very well and my parents don't seem to like the idea of them either. It sounds childish but it is really getting to me and I am wishing I never came out to him in the first place. What can I do to try and get him to stop?

[centropede]

You should talk with him about it

[Meganium]

I have a couple of thoughts on this:

One, and don't be too alarmed by this, but if this happens as much as you're implying, then it's not out of the realm of possibility that some people have already come to this conclusion that you're bisexual. There are very few "big secrets" that a high school student can have hovering over their heads that don't involve sex, sexuality, or something similar. It's pretty easy to narrow down and figure out, and all they would need is the confirmation. However, if people haven't come to you about it, then it's probably safe to assume that they don't give half a damn, which is good.

Now about your "friend", talk to him. Tell him that your sick of this blackmail over the simplest bullshit. Should he refuse to stop, cut him off. What he does after that point would only effect his own conscience.

And if you fear that people will look at you and treat you differently because you're bi, then well, you'll have an easier time weeding out the assholes from your actual friends should your secret be revealed. A blessing in disguise, I suppose.

[ksdnfkfr]

Distance yourself from him. It's one of those, "with friends like that, who needs enemies?"

[phuckphace]

yeah, stay away from him. if you avoid him long enough he won't have anything to hold over your head.

[radsniper]

talk to him and if it is still a problem then start to distance yourself

[ScottishCanary]

Yeah I would distance yourself from him as others have said. I'm sorry to say it, but if he can do that to you he must not be a good friend! Friends don't blackmail each other!

[Landbuscus97]

A good strategy would be to act like you don't even care about it anymore, tho you risk him telling anyway. It's a tough spot, but know that if that was a true friend he wouldn't blackmail you in the first place. If you think its inevitable you should just come out yourself rather than people find out by rumors, which are much worse. Best of luck!