How to touch her

[Cheesydog567]

So there is this girl I like and before you say anything I'm not going to ask her out yet. So how should I you know touch her and show I'm interested. Should I run my hand up her legs and if so how fat?

[KaraaaHope]

If you ran your hand up my leg and we weren't close, I'd punch you. Maybe touch her shoulder quickly in a flirtatious way, but stay away from the legs until you KNOW she's comfortable with that and won't mind. Don't push it.

[hermanthefish]

I agree with Kara. That seems a bit to far with someone you don't know... I think shoulder is a good option. Or upper arm

[ksdnfkfr]

I think the order goes something like hand holding first and feeling up later.

[KaraaaHope]

Start with the shoulder, arms, something non-threatening. If she's interested you'll know it, if not, you'll still know it. But honestly, the best way is to ask her if she's interested or to simply tell her that you're interested in getting to know her better or possibly have a relationship with her.

[ScottishCanary]

Yeah definitely don't touch her leg. What to do is if there's a situation where you are talking and either she says something funny or you do, than touch her very briefly on the shoulder or upper arm. As a friendly 'joking around' kinda gesture. Does that make sense? Other than that I wouldn't touch her at all unless it's obvious she wants physical contact like a hug (some girls I know like hugs from male friends).

[Cheesydog567]

Well we've been friends for several years, plus she is very, you know, touchy, she will repeatedly touch my arm in conversation or put her hand on my leg when talking to me ( more to keep me from walking away than anything else). She also is always playfully fighting and stuff so what should I do.

[KaraaaHope]

You have to talk to her and be truthful and serious. That's the main thing still.

[Cheesydog567]

You have to talk to her and be truthful and serious. That's the main thing still.

Okay but how

[KaraaaHope]

Well you said you're long time friends right?? So you must already communicate well. There's no magic formula, you just have to tell her that you wanna talk about something important to you, and then when the time comes you have to tell her how you feel. You have to figure out what to say and how to say it based on your situation with her. There's no script unfortunately. Just be sweet and truthful. She obviously feels comfortable with you, so if she says no don't push it further or you'll risk losing her as a friend. Just ask and see. Let her figure out the next step after that. Like I said, you'll know either way. Now go do it :) don't overthink it!! Hugs.

[Cheesydog567]

Well you said you're long time friends right?? So you must already communicate well. There's no magic formula, you just have to tell her that you wanna talk about something important to you, and then when the time comes you have to tell her how you feel. You have to figure out what to say and how to say it based on your situation with her. There's no script unfortunately. Just be sweet and truthful. She obviously feels comfortable with you, so if she says no don't push it further or you'll risk losing her as a friend. Just ask and see. Let her figure out the next step after that. Like I said, you'll know either way. Now go do it :) don't overthink it!! Hugs.

She already knows I like her, but she had just got out of her first serious relationship when she found out (a mutual friend told her). But I told her best friend I didn't like her, ever since she has been kinda cold but how do I tel her again

All of our friends joke about me liking her and how we should be a couple

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[ImAurora]

Yeah... legs will probably just get you a place on the registered sex offender list. And a restraining order. :P
As everyone else has said, just hand or arm or something like that.

[Troy35216]

oh yeah, go up to a girl you aren't dating and start rubbing her leg and see how far up you can go....then you can post again asking for advice on finding a good lawyer.

[Cheesydog567]

oh yeah, go up to a girl you aren't dating and start rubbing her leg and see how far up you can go....then you can post again asking for advice on finding a good lawyer.

Read the above posts before you comment. Yeah I know her but okay maybe the leg thing is a bit far but she is very touchy. She always grabs my arm, touches my thigh and pokes me while talking

[Body odah Man]

Hold hands or touch shoulder (pat it) DON'T go for the legs yet

[Cheesydog567]

Hold hands or touch shoulder (pat it) DON'T go for the legs yet

Thanks for the advice

[Body odah Man]

@^
No prob. Trust me, I've made a lot of mistakes with women so don't go that road.

[Troy35216]

Read the above posts before you comment. Yeah I know her but okay maybe the leg thing is a bit far but she is very touchy. She always grabs my arm, touches my thigh and pokes me while talking

umm I DID read the above posts before I commented. I stand by my comment. Knowing her and dating her are two different things especially if you told her friends you don't like her. If someone who "doesn't like" you, who you know, but who you are not dating, suddenly starts feeling you up.....well, like I said, your next post will be asking how to get a good lawyer.

if you want to ask her out you say, "hey, I know I told your friends I didn't like you but that was only cuz it was Opposite Day when they asked me. You wanna go out sometime?"

[Cheesydog567]

umm I DID read the above posts before I commented. I stand by my comment. Knowing her and dating her are two different things especially if you told her friends you don't like her. If someone who "doesn't like" you, who you know, but who you are not dating, suddenly starts feeling you up.....well, like I said, your next post will be asking how to get a good lawyer.

if you want to ask her out you say, "hey, I know I told your friends I didn't like you but that was only cuz it was Opposite Day when they asked me. You wanna go out sometime?"

Already done, she said she didn't tell her what I had previously said and by the way nicely over dramatised on my possible future requirement to engage the services of an attorney, I would never go so far as to put her in that position where she felt that she was threatened, she could probably kill me anyway lol

[Troy35216]

by the way nicely over dramatised on my possible future requirement to engage the services of an attorney,

apparently my Sarcasm Font isn't working today

[Cheesydog567]

apparently my Sarcasm Font isn't working today

I am not trying to offend by what i said but I take offence at your implication that my actions would merit the services of an attorney

[KaraaaHope]

All of the info about your relationship with this girl probably should have been in your first post so you could have gotten better advice faster. I don't know what else to say except good luck. There's no way around talking with her. It all comes down to that no matter how you look at it. Let us know how it goes! =}

[Troy35216]

I am not trying to offend by what i said but I take offence at your implication that my actions would merit the services of an attorney
again....my sarcasm font either isn't working or you don't know what sarcasm is

[Meganium]

Yeah...you should make her a bit more comfortable with you before you start feeling her up. Especially since you claim to have not asked her out at all yet.

[johnpatric]

Make sure the girl welcomes your touches. Give her a light and casual touch. Linger a little longer. If the casual approach worked, then try touching her for a little bit longer next time. Look for opportunities to break the touch barrier in a chivalrous way when you are together. Don't touch her sexually unless you're dating. Avoid touching her breasts, and lower areas of her body. if you are not dating you could touch her on the arm or hand when she says something funny, if she responds well, you may be able to touch her on the leg or possibly hold her hand after a while..

[charmynyankawaii]

I would personally like a guy to pat me on the head when I do something really well or when he's praising me ^^ But then it seems like what your parents would do, right?

[Popcorn]

Just grab her hand while ya'll are talking. Hold it loosely. Then wink. If she smiles or giggles or something, whooooooo If she gives you a weird stare, laugh it off