When you don’t really have anyone to talk to?

[Croconaw]

Out of curiousity, what do you do when you don’t really have anyone to talk to about your problems?

Growing up, I found it difficult to relate to people as a fear of being judged. I wasn’t really close to my parents because both always had their two cents to say on anything. I tend to keep things bottled up inside even if it’s not stress, even just a simple question — but that simple question which could easily be answers with a “No” would turn into “No, what are you thinking? That’s never a good idea!” I don’t know, I just don’t think that’s a way to talk to anybody. Especially to younger teenagers, because the way adults treat them have a great impact on them when they’re older.

If someone responds in a very judgmental way, they’ll just assume that others will respond that way, too.

Do you ever find it difficult to trust people or talk with someone about your problems?

[ska8er]

If u cant discuss things with your parents
a brother or sister if u have one maybe u
can confide in. Social media groups like
this can help or join a support group in
ur area to meet people that have the
same thoughts u have to talk with
those that r insecure with meeting
new people. A pet to take care of
can b good therapy also. Give ur
parents another chance no matter
how critical u seem they r.

[Caycedilla]

I’ve talked to several people here when I’ve had some problems I didn’t know how to deal with, or was uncomfortable talking about with family or friends. I recommend reaching out to some people here, because they really can help and/or reassure you with a lot of things you may be feeling or experiencing

[Zika]

I'm cautious with whom I share my problems but in general I do trust people easily. That trust has only been betrayed once, and that was by a member of this site. I have to say, experiencing someone having so little respect for confidentiality and leveraging private conversations to benefit her, has made me much more reluctant to share personal things with people on this site.

Some people have no idea, nor concern how damaging their self-serving tactics can be. I've learned this is a feature of many people with Borderline Personality Disorder, which ironically does not mean they have an undesirable personality.

At the same time, one of the advantages of the web, if you remain anonymous, is the ability to be open without concern for what others will think. You just have to be aware of the possibility that the person to whom you're opening up has a character flaw which she might use to hurt you.

I think you've not disclosed a lot of personally identifying information about yourself, so I would think it would be safe for you to try opening up to people here.

My inbox is always open to you :).

[Jedidom99]

I really like trying to new people gaming with me . It usually happens they are in a similar situation like me !

[Surfergirl]

That’s why I came here

[scotthouse]

I feel like this alot...... No one understands and I often suffer in silence...........

I guess alot of us here know what it feels like not to have some you can hug and let it all out on...... Thats how I feel alot,I feel so alone its not funny......

[Jess523]

For me, I know I could always talk to my friends or parents but a lot of times I like talking to people online (cautiously of course) just because I wouldn’t worry about them judging me or thinking I needed to be treated differently if something concerned them.

[datsme2012]

One reason i Joined here and a few other Forums. but getting used with reality is better i learnt.

[minda015]

no problem i will bury myself in scientific fictions

[knives]

Well places like this
Otherwise... bottle up and distract myself

[BlackParadePixie]

I keep a diary/journal. It's rare that I have nobody to talk to, but when it does happen...at least getting my thoughts and feelings out of me and onto paper kinda helps a little.

[MatveiBehnke]

Out of curiousity, what do you do when you don’t really have anyone to talk to about your problems?

Growing up, I found it difficult to relate to people as a fear of being judged. I wasn’t really close to my parents because both always had their two cents to say on anything. I tend to keep things bottled up inside even if it’s not stress, even just a simple question — but that simple question which could easily be answers with a “No” would turn into “No, what are you thinking? That’s never a good idea!” I don’t know, I just don’t think that’s a way to talk to anybody. Especially to younger teenagers, because the way adults treat them have a great impact on them when they’re older.

If someone responds in a very judgmental way, they’ll just assume that others will respond that way, too.

Do you ever find it difficult to trust people or talk with someone about your problems?

I always wish I could talk to my family about how much I don't feel normal and how sometimes I wish everyday I could have the strength to end my life if I feel things are too hard or my goals are hard to achieve.

[Oscar-V3.0]

I always wish I could talk to my family about how much I don't feel normal and how sometimes I wish everyday I could have the strength to end my life if I feel things are too hard or my goals are hard to achieve.

Maybe you ask yourself too much and you raise the bar of your goals too high ? Maybe try to reach your goal little step by little step rather than trying to achieve a huge goal in one time ;)

[MatveiBehnke]

Maybe you ask yourself too much and you raise the bar of your goals too high ? Maybe try to reach your goal little step by little step rather than trying to achieve a huge goal in one time ;)

Yea, I think about goals a lot everyday, especially with Russian, sometimes it can take a mental toll on me because I really want to study Russian abroad in 2021, sometimes I worry about how my disability affects me though and no matter what tries to get in my way when learning the language, I know the idea of failing to achieve in such a hard world for people with autism is worse.