Sex anxiety lol

[newyorker]

I was just curious if this happens to anyone else. But whenever I’m flirting with someone and it starts leaning into the direction of hooking up I start to get really nervous and I physically shake as if I’m really cold and It’s hard to relax again. I’m not super experienced so did anyone else feel this nervous/anxious when they were first getting sexually active?

[ska8er]

I think this happens to a lot of us especially
when u do not know ur partner all that well.
U r anxious that maybe things will not work
out as much as u think it will. It could also b
that u r not ready to hook up.

[HFrint]

First time with a girl yes. I had seen them naked but never been with one for sex. At the time my (then) BF and I had been together and were used to each other but I was really nervous about trying stuff with a girl.

[Second Chance]

I was just curious if this happens to anyone else. But whenever I’m flirting with someone and it starts leaning into the direction of hooking up I start to get really nervous and I physically shake as if I’m really cold and It’s hard to relax again. I’m not super experienced so did anyone else feel this nervous/anxious when they were first getting sexually active?

I know what you mean, and it is annoying when the shaking happens and is hard to stop. The best thing you can do is be honest with the person you want to be romantic with that you're nervous and that what is happening is your reaction to it. If they really care about you, then they will take things slowly and calm you down.

As for what you can do, just remind yourself that everything will be fine and that no matter what happens that you are all right as a person. The fact that someone wants to go all the way with you shows you clearly are someone who has something to offer which you should remind yourself when you get nervous.

Your problem is not an uncommon one, and just take things slowly and be honest with your partner so that they can relax you when it does happen.

[Mika27]

Yes!!!! It is much easier when you know the person better. Its worse when its someone new or someone you don't know well. With that in mind, if you have the opportunity to get to know them better first, it may help. Especially if you know them well enough to talk about how you feel first

[jamie_n5]

Yeah I think it is perfectly natural to be nervous and anxious the first time you are going to have a sexual encounter. Don't feel uptight about it man it's just part of life.

[Chris298]

Yeah it has even happened to me sometimes during intense jerk off sessions once in awhile

[Zachary G]

I was pretty young the first time I had sex and he was a little bit older and more experienced than me and I was really nervous, anxious, and scared at the same time.

[arca]

That is a very normal thing. You might feel almost "guilty" in a way but I think it'll go away quickly

[Diable rouge]

I was just curious if this happens to anyone else. But whenever I’m flirting with someone and it starts leaning into the direction of hooking up I start to get really nervous and I physically shake as if I’m really cold and It’s hard to relax again. I’m not super experienced so did anyone else feel this nervous/anxious when they were first getting sexually active?

It is completely normal and I guess it happens to many people, unfortunately. We all fear to fail or not being good the first times. Just try to do your best, you cannot completely fail anyway.

[Cycler21]

YES! thats extremely common. i had it as well before my first time. you just gotta realize that sex isn't like in porn, it will be awkward at first, just take it slow and use protection and lube and you'll be ok :).