Feeling guilty

[paulhouse]

After my first time jacking off together with a same old friend. I felt so guilty, that I was doin something wrong. I couldn’t look in his eyes some days long, but he always said, that all is ok. Weeks later we did it again and again. I felt less guilty but I felt it. Month later we started with anal sex. And bang! The feeling came back... but I know it goes away... meanwhile everything is ok.
What was your experience in that situation?

[ska8er]

When ur horny and ur hormones r working
overtime and u jack off or experiment with
ur best friend ur on a high. Once the deed
is finished and u spent pent up energy it
becomes a downer and u feel guilty. There
is no reason to feel that way. In ur case ur
friend thought of it as no big deal so just
enjoy having a best friend that goes the
extra length not only for himself but for u
also. Im glad everything is ok. Ive had the
feeling too.

[Zachary G]

I think we feel guilty afterwards because deep down we are afraid that we have somehow let our parents down or that we are doing something that our parents would forbid if they knew we were doing it. The more you do it and get used to doing it, the feelings go away. I went through that a lot when i was younger, so youre not alone.

[jamie_n5]

I have never felt guilty about my experiences with other guys. It was fun, interesting and pleasureful.

[wrecked]

You should not feel guilty for doing something that you enjoy doing. I know its easier said than done. I've been sucking off my friend for years now and even though I've had his dick in my mouth hundreds of times every once in a while I will get a feeling if guilt for what i'm doing but it doesn't last very long.

Talking to someone in a forum like this where no one knows you does help. I'd be happy to share my experiences with anyone who thinks I could help them

[Hermes]

ska8er mentioned the sudden switch. When you're horny it makes you want to do something to get release, i.e. to cum whether that is jacking off or doing something with someone else. When you start getting horny and are not used to it, it can feel like something temporarily took over your brain and then, once you've cum, you wonder why you just did that. That doesn't necessarily translate to guilt, though it can do, and you do get used to the horny you being every bit as normal as the not horny you.

Whether you feel guilt afterwards is connected to views about what is right and wrong, picked up from those around you, i.e. parents, any church you attend, friends and attitudes of society at large.

My personal view is that the only thing that makes sexual activity wrong is if it is non-consensual. As long as you're both doing it of your own free will then it's fine.

It might help to think about where you might have got a feeling of it being wrong from. Perhaps we critique other views you've picked up on - for example we've done the misinterpretation of the story of Onan before.

[Diable rouge]

I have felt guilty in the past for wanking, but it disappeared quickly. As they said, it is normal and Hermes explained well.

[arca]

It's happened to me, it goes away quickly