It hurts

[boxer156]

Ok hi people I really need a quick answer my boyfriend and I met last week and he says we need to have sex.
So the other day we tryed it, I hadn't done it before but he had.
Afterwards and during sex my vagina stung really really badly, it just hurt so bad. And there was some blood when he was doing it.
What if he makes me do it again?

Please help me thanks so much
~Sarah
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[Hauptmann Kauffman]

First of all, you probably weren't sufficiently turned on by him. When you are turned on, your vagina produces a fluid to make sex easier. You probably didnt make that because you werent horny, which made it painful. next time, tell him tos top when Its painful, and slow down

[boxer156]

Nah he didn't really turn me on I was really dry but it was gross when his friend started having sex with me when he was done..
He didn't use a condom but he said that as long as I have a hot bath afterwards nothing would happen.
And yes he was black to that person but what does that have todo with anything? ^^

Thanks for the reply babes,
~Sarah
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[Zephyr]

It always hurts the first time. After my first it hurt for days. Don't worry about it, it'll get better. Just make sure that he isn't pressuing you into sex.

[boxer156]

He says if I don't do it again he will show everyone the photos he took of me.
~Sarah
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[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Report him to the police, that's sexual harassment. And if you didn't want to do it the first time, it could be considered rape. The police can make sure he doesn't do that to you, and that he doesn't pressure anyone else into doing things they don't want to do.

And, just a note, a hot bath after sex doesn't prevent pregnancy or the spread of STD's. If you let him do this again, be SURE he uses a condom. And you don't have to let his friend do anything either, no matter what either of them say.

[boxer156]

If I tell the police or anyone he'll just show the photos to everyone anyway..
He said he would put his sperm inside my vagina to make it stop hurting, does this work?
Thnx
~Sarah
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[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

He won't get a chance to show the photos to everyone because you don't have to tell him you're going to the police. Even if he does show everyone, they'll be more than sympathetic when you tell them he raped you and used those photos to blackmail you. No, sperm will not numb the pain. It's possible that he even bruised or otherwise injured you by forcing himself on you when you weren't properly lubricated. The sooner you go to the authorities, the more chance of those injuries still being present, which will help your case against him and his friend.

Please, put some serious thought into speaking up. Once you do, there are people who can keep him from hurting you anymore. Otherwise, he's probably just going to keep doing this. :hug:

[meady101]

call the police thats rape

[boxer156]

No I don't think I'll tell the police besides he said he'll pay me more next time we do it.
~Sarah
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[Gumleaf]

ok, i think this has gone on long enough.

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