sincerely worried about my friend... help?

[PinkFloyd]

Recently, my friend Chris has become associated with two girls. We'll call them Fiona and Jen due to privacy concerns.

Anyways, in the beginning, I thought Chris getting involved with girls was a good thing because he's never really had that much female attention. Now he does. TRUST ME. Well these girls, like Chris are druggies. They aren't anything more than pot and E-cig smokers, so I'm not worried there except for that he could move up to like Heroine or some other drug like that. I suspect that because a few years ago, he took LSD randomly. It went like this: weed, weed, weed, weed, LSD, LSD, weed, weed. Get what I mean, he jumped at it and then went back to weed again out of no where.

What I'm really worried about is the fact that Chris has been skipping around two out of our six classes daily just to be with these girls so he can smoke i the bathroom. He also has completely disregarded his parents rules by leaving his house and not being back until like 10 versus his school night curfew of 7:30 to have unprotected sex with them in the woods.

He's also talked about dropping out of school because legally, he can.

I'm worried about him because of the possible overdoes on hardcore drugs, getting a STD or a girl pregnant, dropping out of school, and ruining his future, ultimately because ALL of these things can ruin it for him. He's my best friend ever and I care a lot about him, but confronting him about this would go very badly.

EDIT: He's also had a different personality lately. He's become kind of bossy and irritable at certain times as if he's on some kind of period but for guys which obviously doesn't exist but that's all I can think of when trying to describe it.

[Dalcourt]

Well, you could talk to you friend. Tell him that you are worried and that you care, otherwise I don't think there's anything you can do. A change in his personality sounds kinda bad...I'm not sure if you can still reach him or if he's already in too deep.

[Plane And Simple]

I don't think there's much you can do. He started fucking up his life now so you gotta accept it and stay with him, which will eventually get you involved, or try and let him be.

[Stryker125]

Like the others said, there isn't really anything you can do other than talk to him and let him know how you feel. You can be there for him, because this will go bad for him and when it does he'll need his best friend. Sorry you're dealing with this and I hope it gets better.

[phuckphace]

is there any actual, compelling evidence that Chris might start using heroin? like, has he talked about it, or hinted at it? smoking weed, even to the point where he's skipping class isn't necessarily an indicator that he intends to start doing harder drugs (in fact LSD is even more physiologically benign than weed, and weed is pretty low-risk already). if he hasn't given any indication that he's headed down that path, I honestly wouldn't worry. there are plenty of people who enjoy using cannabis that wouldn't touch heroin with a ten foot pole (myself included) and Chris might be one of them as well.

I do understand your concern though - I've been in situations where I suspected that a friend was using hard drugs, and pretty much everyone I know said something like "hurr it's his body leave him alone durr." if your friend does start using hard drugs I would definitely turn him in, both for his own safety and the safety of everyone around him.

Edit: the unprotected sex bit is far more worrying. at the very least you could offer him condoms. honestly though, if this same situation were going on with a friend of mine and someone else, I would probably try to sabotage their relationship any way that I could so they'd quit hanging out and enabling one another's shitty behavior. but that's something you'd have to figure out on your own, since you know them better than I do.

good luck bro.

[Body odah Man]

Wow that does NOT sound good. I think ur an awesome friend for worrying about him and I agree you need to do something. Firstly I'd suggest either a) getting him to rehab or b (might be most important) GET HIM AWAY FROM THOSE GIRLS! They really sound like bad news and seem to be the main cause of his turn around. He'll bitch but sometimes you need to show some tough love-will be better for him in the long run

[JamesSuperBoy]

Its good you know confronting him would go badly. It can be so hard with friendships but he can make his own choices as can his parents.

[Stronk Serb]

Well, if he drops out, he is gonna have problems in life. Without college you can't get a decent job and fod college you need high school. Tell him if he would rather smoke pot in the bathroom and screw those two and be a failure in life or make a man out of himself.

[DiamondsGirl]

As ignorant as this might sound, but like you said talking to him would only get matters worse. Telling the teacher or his parents mean sending him to hell. Unfortunately, unless you can somehow hide/destroy all his drugs supply, I'm afraid there's not much you can do.

[ninja789]

Tell him how you feel. If he does care about you and you are willing to help then you guys can work it through. These girls sound real classy though

You said they smoked e-cigs together. Do they seriously bunk off to smoke e-cigs? Those are only used by adults here

[PinkFloyd]

is there any actual, compelling evidence that Chris might start using heroin? like, has he talked about it, or hinted at it? smoking weed, even to the point where he's skipping class isn't necessarily an indicator that he intends to start doing harder drugs (in fact LSD is even more physiologically benign than weed, and weed is pretty low-risk already). if he hasn't given any indication that he's headed down that path, I honestly wouldn't worry. there are plenty of people who enjoy using cannabis that wouldn't touch heroin with a ten foot pole (myself included) and Chris might be one of them as well.

I do understand your concern though - I've been in situations where I suspected that a friend was using hard drugs, and pretty much everyone I know said something like "hurr it's his body leave him alone durr." if your friend does start using hard drugs I would definitely turn him in, both for his own safety and the safety of everyone around him.

Edit: the unprotected sex bit is far more worrying. at the very least you could offer him condoms. honestly though, if this same situation were going on with a friend of mine and someone else, I would probably try to sabotage their relationship any way that I could so they'd quit hanging out and enabling one another's shitty behavior. but that's something you'd have to figure out on your own, since you know them better than I do.

good luck bro.

Yeah, he has said himself that he wouldn't ever touch cigarettes but here he is smoking them. That's what makes me start to wonder if he'll move to hard drugs. Basically the only illegal substances I've consumed are weed, whatever's in an e-cig, and alcohol and yes, LSD once years ago. All of those are pretty low risk except for that one time. I haven't gone near anything else. Anyways, I don't matter...

Basically, what I mean is Chris' habits are scattered all over and I don't know what he'll do next. I know for a fact that he's extremely anti-gun so it's not like he'll get mixed up with one of those.

[PinkFloyd]

As ignorant as this might sound, but like you said talking to him would only get matters worse. Telling the teacher or his parents mean sending him to hell. Unfortunately, unless you can somehow hide/destroy all his drugs supply, I'm afraid there's not much you can do.

I get what you mean there and I've considered it, but all the weed in my school is untraceable. If I destroyed all the dealers' stashes of product, then they would simply buy more from wherever they get it from. You know, 25 year old Dan that lives in South Dakota. I have no control over the flow because there's a shit load of it in my town coming from all directions.

[thathelperguy]

Have you thought about getting other friends involved? Maybe approaching him as a group instead of one on one? I'm not talking total intervention here, but it would take some of the weight off of your shoulders. Might be worth a try.