Am i actually in love?Or is this just lust/infatuation?

[Bullszeye]

Hey there.I think that i'm in love with this girl and if i wasn't 16 at the moment i swear to god i would propose to her as soon as tomorrow.However,me being 16 also makes me doubt my feelings.I've known this girl for 2 years,and i've been hanging out with her extensively for the last 4-5 months.I am currently her best friend.

From the first time i've started hanging out with her i've been trying not to fall in love with her because i knew she would just hurt my feelings because i've heard many bad gossip about this girl(basically everyone thinks she's a slut).However,after i got to know her more and more,I found out that this is just empty gossip and that she cries every time she hears such a bad rumor about her.For the last month I've noticed i've been thinking about her pretty much all the time,and when I've watched the movie Taken yesterday I concluded that i am maybe truly in love with someone,for the first time in my short life.I was on the verge of calling her to ask her if she's okay,I can't even explain the fear I've felt after I've watched that movie.She is not aware of how much she means to me,and i do not intend to tell her because i mean a lot to her too but she only sees me like a brother,or a lamp,and i don't really want to ruin this.But ffs every time she talks to me about how much she loves her boyfriend(not actual love,just infatuation) and when i see them kiss I'm about to cry.When i saw a picture of her kissing her boyfriend i cried for hours.

In a few months I'm going to America and i'll stay there for a whole year.I've been thinking of confessing all of my feelings to her the night before i go to the US.And no,i do not have a chance with her.She's very beautiful and is also extremely hot,so a lot of guys talk to her.I talk to her EVERY day,when i try to not talk to her for one day,she sends the first message and we end up talking for hours.I won't write anymore about her because this is long enough already.So what do you think?Am i actually in love?Thanks.

And BTW:We do not act like your typical BFF,we do everything a couple does,minus the kissing.

[Body odah Man]

If you think ur in love, ur most likely in love. I hope it all works out :)

[backgammon]

go get her im in a similar situation except the girl just got dumped

[DiamondsGirl]

So how long have you been feeling this? 4-5 months is a rather short time of knowing someone. Have you been in love all those time?

I've always been the person that cheers people saying "go on and say it", but IMO in this case I'm gonna have to do otherwise. It's not worth it, hon. She already has a boyfriend. It does not matter whether she was really in love or not (how do you know she's only infatuated btw?) it is ethically wrong to ask someone who already has a partner out. Would only make the gossips look even truer, would it not? Plus, you are leaving the country. For a whole year. Sorry if I sound harsh but you would probably meet someone new there and forget about her. Oh and also you'll find that lots of people are very skeptical about LDRs. They very, very, VERY rarely work out.

If you want to tell her how you feel, you can. But keep in mind that if she does like you back it's gonna hurt her because you're leaving. I still think you should only say "I like you , you know" instead of "I like you would you be my girlfriend".

[Bullszeye]

I've known her for 2 years.It's just been 4-5 months since we've started seeing each other outside of school.I think i've been in love for the last two months.

I know it's only infatuation because she's been seeing this guy for like once a week and the reason she has "fallen" for him is because he already had a girlfriend and was pretty much ignoring her(you always want what you can't have,duh).They've become official bf/gf a week ago.The guy is telling her he loves her pretty much every few minutes.There's also another guy that she likes and it's pretty much the same situation as with the first guy.Cept the other guy is 21 years old and is way too experienced and is probably gonna take her virginity if she ends up with him.Enough about her love life though(which i know way too much about,lol).

You misunderstood.I would absolutely LOVE to have her as my girlfriend,but it's never,ever gonna work out because we see each other every day in school plus we're in the same class.I'm way too available to her.Me going out of country is pretty much my only chance,i can start dating her when i get back,because it'll be the last year of school.You do not sound harsh,in fact,I do hope to meet someone new there but i'm scared that i actually love this girl and that i won't be able to fall for someone else(I think this is just my dumb teenage mind talking though).

Sorry about the above text.Pretty much wrote it with things randomly flying out of my mind.So after knowing all this,do you think i should say what you suggested,or just contain my feelings as I've been doing so far?

[DiamondsGirl]

Well she needs to settle her mind first =O I didn't know it's that complicated... I mean, she basically likes two guys at the moment? Whoa well I hope there's still room for you. I'm not saying she is a "slut" though. She sounds a lot like this one person I know.. and IMO she's nothing but a teeny tiny bit immature. Once she made up her mind about what she's feeling and who she really wants to be with, then you can step in. Personally her love life is already very much entangled as it is right now without you involved.. I wouldn't want to jump in right now. I think at this time the best you can do is just be there for her when she needs you, but stay out of her problems as they're not yours to solve. I do agree that you guys can date once you return home. If you're still in love with her after that one whole year living abroad, there's no question that you should at least give it a shot.

How old are you, btw? :) I hate sounding like a know-it-all, but love really can make us blind sometimes. More often than not, when we're in love, we believe that there's nobody else out there for us besides this one individual. That is wrong though.. we're very young. So always remember to look ahead and know that you still have a long way to go in life. Whenever you feel like it's not worth it, don't sacrifice your own well-being. By remaining friends with her despite the rumors, you did more than you could already.