Does Size Matter?

[Nicole4All]

If you’re really petite and thin, will it hurt more the first time you have vag or anal sex?

[BlackParadePixie]

It's probably going to hurt the first time either way.

[Jordan99]

Both of you need to take your time. Make sure you're BOTH very aroused. For anal, you cannot use enough lube. LUBE. LUBE. LUBE!!! He needs to push in S-L-O-W-L-Y! In fact, better if you start out on top and YOU control how deep and how fast he goes in.

For vaginal, your vagina will make its own lube. Still, he needs to take it easy at first and not just ram it in there. Good luck :)

[Emma1133]

I'm not super experienced, but I think anal can be a little easier. But if you go slow either way I think you will be fine.

[Anna Kadlecova]

Especially in anal sex i size very important. What is for you easir - insert two or five fingers in your butt? And with penis it is the same...

[stoneflowe96]

Take time and it is important that you are aroused. For anal you need lub, lots of it. Also start very slowly and with fingers to get comfortable.
Vaginal don't need to hurt the first time either. If you are aroused but your vagina is not wet enough, don't hesitate and use also lube. Also many sex ed books or articles recommend missionary position. In my experience this is stupid. It is for both better if you are on top of your partner. So you can decide how deep the penis get's into your vagina, your clitoris has more contact and your partner should last longer and you can still kiss and look at each other.
The most important thing is you both need be sure you want to have sex and what you want to do. Also contraception.

[Marisa1]

I can only agree with all the advice I read above.

I only have experience with vaginal sex.

:)

[Catt]

I don’t know about the girl being small / petite making a huge difference
You can be a big girl and tight and a small girl and looser
But usually small girl / small pussy

[Allover Kelly]

Front you can use some lube and then you will take over most times, then Poop first then use a good lube water based. Also have the condom lubed also. Oh and get ready to have a feeling like you will have to take a big Poo. Clean up after. If you fart after it will be messy.

[Catt]

Front you can use some lube and then you will take over most times, the read Drop one first then use a good lube water based. Also have the condom lubed also. Oh and get ready to have a feeling like you will have to take a big Poo.

That’s how it felt for me too
But he told me that’s normal

[Shiny Moon]

I don't suggest you try anal on your first time, but if you do, use plenty of lube.

[AshleighB]

First time will always be painful so size doesn’t matter

[LITTLEANGEL19]

As I never had sexual intercourse I can only go by what other girls I know have said and by reading on posts here on over the years. It's not your body size but it's more likely to be the size of your partners penis. Having plenty of foreplay can help to get quite wet and more relaxed. But don't worry about it if you don't get very wet don't worry about it a lot of girls don't as you know we are all different. As others have already said here you could if possible get some lube, just make sure if you want to get some lube and if you are buying on line make sure it's genuine stuff and it's a well known brand and from a well known company. And also if you can talk to any ask any friends if they could recommend any lube. And if you wanted to get some lube try to make sure as best you can that your not going to get an allergic reaction to it as you would be using it a VERY sensitive area.
And if does gets too sore and you say stop it's VERY important your partner will STOP.


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[KatieCO2003]

Ok, I'm 4'10", 96 lbs, and 29" hips, so I certainly qualify as a "very petite, thin girl". I haven't had actual sex with my BF yet. But what I can tell you from experience with other objects is that it's all about starting SLOW when you're small. I can certainly fit "large penis" sized objects inside my vagina and bottom even though they're both really small. But it takes like 5 minutes to go in the first stroke. Your vagina and anus can stretch A LOT, but it's the stretching that hurts. Just like any other kind of stretching. Do it too fast or too hard and you could hurt yourself. Do it slowly over time and you'll be fine. Soooo.... what everyone else said, you on top, lots of lube, start super-slow and just feel your way in. Go in a little bit, stop there until it doesn't hurt, then go a bit more, etc. Once that part is over and your body has adjusted, you should be fine. Just... don't let him go all porn movie on you until you know what feels good and doesn't.

[BJade]

I agree with everyone else, take your time and make sure your well lubricated and it should be ok. And just think that something bigger can come out, your vagina is designed to pass a baby through so unless the boy has a baby between his legs (and no matter how much of a boaster they are they probably wont go that far) it should be able to expand and fit without pain

[JuliaVT]

On the one hand it makes sense that the smaller you are, the smaller your parts are and since you’re the sum of your parts it would potentially hurt more. But those parts are also able to stretch a lot too so you should be okay. I can’t speak from experience but I’ve wondered about this too.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I agree with everyone else, take your time and make sure your well lubricated and it should be ok. And just think that something bigger can come out, your vagina is designed to pass a baby through so unless the boy has a baby between his legs (and no matter how much of a boaster they are they probably wont go that far) it should be able to expand and fit without pain

Hiya Jade. Your right boys don't have babies between their legs. But unfortunately that doesn't stop them from acting like "BABIES" a lot of the time:yes:

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[BJade]

Hiya Jade. Your right boys don't have babies between their legs. But unfortunately that doesn't stop them from acting like "BABIES" a lot of the time:yes:

That is true that boys can act like babies. But babies only ever come out of vaginas they don't cum in vaginas, so if they want to they'd have to stop being babies and be men :metal:

[Catt]

I agree with everyone else, take your time and make sure your well lubricated and it should be ok. And just think that something bigger can come out, your vagina is designed to pass a baby through so unless the boy has a baby between his legs (and no matter how much of a boaster they are they probably wont go that far) it should be able to expand and fit without pain

The baby argument doesn’t really work though, so much changes in your body during pregnancy so the baby can make it through, all those hormones change how things are down there, then they go back to being pretty similar to before
And it’s not uncommon for a girl to tear or need to be cut in delivery because we just aren’t always big enough

[BJade]

The baby argument doesn’t really work though, so much changes in your body during pregnancy so the baby can make it through, all those hormones change how things are down there, then they go back to being pretty similar to before
And it’s not uncommon for a girl to tear or need to be cut in delivery because we just aren’t always big enough

That's true, I don't know how much it changes, but I do agree that you probably wouldn't get a baby through if you weren't with the hormones from pregnancy. I was just using it more of an example of something much bigger that could fit in those circumstances. I'm not really sure of what size of things we could actually fit in our vaginas, but from what I've heard they can be bigger than a big penis.

And the part about it not being uncommon for a girl to tear or need to be cut in delivery, made me wonder as I know girls of all sizes can have this problem, weather it would be more likely if you're smaller, or if it's as common no matter your size? Like are our vaginas proportionate to our bodies, or do we, like boys have different size penises, have different size vaginas no matter the size of our bodies, or are we all just near enough the same size?

[Catt]

That's true, I don't know how much it changes, but I do agree that you probably wouldn't get a baby through if you weren't with the hormones from pregnancy. I was just using it more of an example of something much bigger that could fit in those circumstances. I'm not really sure of what size of things we could actually fit in our vaginas, but from what I've heard they can be bigger than a big penis.

And the part about it not being uncommon for a girl to tear or need to be cut in delivery, made me wonder as I know girls of all sizes can have this problem, weather it would be more likely if you're smaller, or if it's as common no matter your size? Like are our vaginas proportionate to our bodies, or do we, like boys have different size penises, have different size vaginas no matter the size of our bodies, or are we all just near enough the same size?

There probably is some average / normal size we’re all on one side or the other to, but we’re all different and how much we each can stretch is different and so on
It’s scary hearing how some women rip from vagina to butt hole and get stitched up after

Thank you no

[Claire Asteroid]

I'm not thin or petite but when I first had sex I was surprised how easily and far inside me my boyfriend's penis went and it didn't hurt very much, I think it's more to do with how relaxed you are because it can go in quite a bit further than you think if you are aroused enough to let it slide in.

[siteuser]

height and vag size are ot directly correlated... there may be some correlation, but nothing writen in stone... having said that, I think that for 95% of the girs it is going to hurt the first time, it does not matter your size, or even his

[ClaireHofmann]

Not really. I was (and still am) very short and kinda thin, definitely what many people would call petite and I didn't have any problem when I lost my virginity to a boy when I was 14. You just need to be very well lubricated and aroused. Didn't feel any pain, even orgasmed on him.

[Leena_2003]

Ok, I'm 4'10", 96 lbs, and 29" hips, so I certainly qualify as a "very petite, thin girl". I haven't had actual sex with my BF yet. But what I can tell you from experience with other objects is that it's all about starting SLOW when you're small. I can certainly fit "large penis" sized objects inside my vagina and bottom even though they're both really small. But it takes like 5 minutes to go in the first stroke. Your vagina and anus can stretch A LOT, but it's the stretching that hurts. Just like any other kind of stretching. Do it too fast or too hard and you could hurt yourself. Do it slowly over time and you'll be fine. Soooo.... what everyone else said, you on top, lots of lube, start super-slow and just feel your way in. Go in a little bit, stop there until it doesn't hurt, then go a bit more, etc. Once that part is over and your body has adjusted, you should be fine. Just... don't let him go all porn movie on you until you know what feels good and doesn't.

I'm in the same boat as you, so thanks for sharing your thoughts. I have never put anything really large inside me, but for example my hairbrush handle is probably the size of an average penis, and I don't have any problems with that. I always make sure I'm wet enough first though.

[leah2003]

I have had sex with two guys who were both average and was super happy about their size and sex. I just found out a few days ago my new bf is huge, and I haven't had sex with him but just visually, i would prefer average sized more than huge. There is no way his dick is going to fit inside me, and just the thought of it makes me like average size better. Maybe one day that will change but for now size matters but bigger is too big.

[MissMolly]

I have had sex with two guys who were both average and was super happy about their size and sex. I just found out a few days ago my new bf is huge, and I haven't had sex with him but just visually, i would prefer average sized more than huge. There is no way his dick is going to fit inside me, and just the thought of it makes me like average size better. Maybe one day that will change but for now size matters but bigger is too big.

Speaking from personal experience, there is definitely such a thing as too big, though girth is a bigger factor than length.

[leah2003]

I agree, i am more concerned about how thick he is, well tbh the length as well, just everything lol

[CarlaG]

If you are really aroused and lubrificated. Slowly you can fit larger penises...just take it slowly.

[leah2003]

If you are really aroused and lubrificated. Slowly you can fit larger penises...just take it slowly.

Very very very slowly lol thats the way I will be going!

[SouthernDude]

I have had sex with two guys who were both average and was super happy about their size and sex. I just found out a few days ago my new bf is huge, and I haven't had sex with him but just visually, i would prefer average sized more than huge. There is no way his dick is going to fit inside me, and just the thought of it makes me like average size better. Maybe one day that will change but for now size matters but bigger is too big.

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