Virginity question

[Jess523]

I see a lot of girls on here that lost their virginity at rather young ages, some mind blowingly young, so my question is what made you want to do it so young or if you’re like me, why are you waiting? I personally just don’t feel like I’m ready emotionally at 13 for sex.

[Caycedilla]

I personally just don’t feel like I’m ready emotionally at 13 for sex.

I think that’s a good thing to realize. No one should feel like they should have to do anything sexually before they are ready to. I honestly wish now that I had waited a little long before I started

To answer the question...I believed I was ready at the time. I’m pretty sure a lot of people would say the same thing though. If I had known the consequences and feelings that I would have from a failed relationship, then I probably would have made different choices. I’m pretty sure what I have learned, though, has helped me (and will continue) to make better choices

[Natacha]

I was early because I had been thinking about sex a lot already then. I happened to know a good guy (friend) who I thought was gentle and attentive. We talked about it and did it one afternoon. It was very pleasant

[Pultost]

I see a lot of girls on here that lost their virginity at rather young ages, some mind blowingly young, so my question is what made you want to do it so young or if you’re like me, why are you waiting? I personally just don’t feel like I’m ready emotionally at 13 for sex.

I was originally going to wait until I was at least 16. However, me and my boyfriend wanted to do it, talked about it a lot and eventually took the next step. It felt right at the time, and I don't regret it, on the other hand I wouldn't encourage anyone to lose it early just to have done it. It has to feel right.

[Catt]

It’s a modern thing, it wasn’t abnormal for girls to be married and pregnant by 12-13 all that long ago
In the Middle East and the ‘stans it’s still common in Islamic communities... which may be a sign of it’s bad even though once normal, not sure

Some of it is girls wanting to / feeling ready. Some of it is boys pushing girls into it earlier and peer pressure making girls think it’s normal at younger ages

[Jess523]

It’s a modern thing, it wasn’t abnormal for girls to be married and pregnant by 12-13 all that long ago
In the Middle East and the ‘stans it’s still common in Islamic communities... which may be a sign of it’s bad even though once normal, not sure

Some of it is girls wanting to / feeling ready. Some of it is boys pushing girls into it earlier and peer pressure making girls think it’s normal at younger ages

Yes, but people also rarely lived over the age of 40 even in the 1700s

[AshleighB]

I just felt ready I wasn’t rushed into it we talked about it and it felt right when we did it

[Ashley2004]

Everyone matures at a different rate. I wanted to do it and was comfortable with the potential risks so I did it.

[Zandra]

I see a lot of girls on here that lost their virginity at rather young ages, some mind blowingly young, so my question is what made you want to do it so young or if you’re like me, why are you waiting? I personally just don’t feel like I’m ready emotionally at 13 for sex.

That’s a very good point and it’s very true

[cozoe]

Its awesome that you are waiting until you feel ready, nobody should have sex because they feel pressured to do so. I did it because I felt like I was ready and I had been dating my gf for a while. We had come close a few times before because we had been caught up in making out and stuff and we wanted to do it when we meant to, not because we just got caught up in the moment. There was also the advantage that as a lesbian, I wasn't worried about getting pregnant. I wasn't really fully ready for all the emotions that came after and probably should have waited a bit longer.

[BlackParadePixie]

Curiosity

[Catt]

Everyone matures at a different rate. I wanted to do it and was comfortable with the potential risks so I did it.

How old were you?

[BJade]

I think its totally right for you to wait till you older and dont really think anyones really ready for sex when they're 13, even if at the time they think so when they get older they probably have broken up found another boy and wish they could be the first with him. Theres a lot of emotional and physical consequences of having sex and relationships with until your body and mind have got to a point they can probably deal with aren't something you'd probably understand.

I think its really mature of you to understand that your not ready, while your hormones are probably making you want to, and I believe if you keep that same maturity over sex when you have a bf and decide to have sex it will probably be the right time

[Ashley2004]

How old were you?

13 at the time

[Knightley]

I'm happy with when I lost my virginity but I think if I was straight I would have waited longer not sure why I think that but I think I would have hahaha

[BJade]

I'm happy with when I lost my virginity but I think if I was straight I would have waited longer not sure why I think that but I think I would have hahaha

Interesting how you feel you'd have waited longer if you were straight. Is that because with a boy theres the chance of getting pregnant and physically it's a different experience having him inside you. And do you think if you did the stuff you did with a girl with a boy (like touching each other, or other foreplay stuff) you'd do that at the same age or be older to

[Kari]

Im happy being a single virgin

[AnnaVitamin]

Wait, why single?

[Catt]

I'm happy with when I lost my virginity but I think if I was straight I would have waited longer not sure why I think that but I think I would have hahaha

That’s definitely an advantage we have being gay
We don’t have the physical risks, just emotional ones

[TessTheGreat]

I personally just don’t feel like I’m ready emotionally at 13 for sex.

I feel just the same and I'm nearly 15. I think it's right to wait until you feel ready.

[Allover Kelly]

My Bio Mom pimped me out.

[Jessica.lang19]

14 I am 15 now. I felt I was ready and it was with one of my closest guy friends he was a virgin to at the time.

[Karalectric]

I'm happy with when I lost my virginity but I think if I was straight I would have waited longer not sure why I think that but I think I would have hahaha

Yes. Same! Well, difference being that i am bi. But yea, last summer my then bf wanted to have sex but i said no because i didn't feel ready. Looking back on it, no regrets! But with my now gf i did not experience any such hangups. I dunno, yea i am older and more emotionally mature. But also girls bodies seem less intimidating. Maybe because i grew up with one. lol I was just wayyy more comfortable.

That’s definitely an advantage we have being gay
We don’t have the physical risks, just emotional ones

Yea yayyy no pregnancy risks!! :lol: But no physical risks is not entirely true, right? Because girls can still give girls STDs?

[Catt]

Yes. Same! Well, difference being that i am bi. But yea, last summer my then bf wanted to have sex but i said no because i didn't feel ready. Looking back on it, no regrets! But with my now gf i did not experience any such hangups. I dunno, yea i am older and more emotionally mature. But also girls bodies seem less intimidating. Maybe because i grew up with one. lol I was just wayyy more comfortable.



Yea yayyy no pregnancy risks!! :lol: But no physical risks is not entirely true, right? Because girls can still give girls STDs?

True, but much lower risk and almost none if neither had been with boys first I imagine

[ashleigh7]

My Bio Mom pimped me out.

Wow!!!!!!! What?????? Oh my....I'm so sorry:( I hope everything is ok now? :/ I'm so very sorry, someone can be that mean to someone else.

[Shaythen]

I’m not sure I was ready at the time I lost mine to a guy, I was 14 and it was my first real bf. Looking back, it may not have been the right person, but it’s now history. And in all fairness, I’m the one that initiated it that day.

[Allover Kelly]

Wow!!!!!!! What?????? Oh my....I'm so sorry:( I hope everything is ok now? :/ I'm so very sorry, someone can be that mean to someone else.

Well can't change it and she is dead now. Now with my Dad's family all for the best.

[ashleigh7]

Well can't change it and she is dead now. Now with my Dad's family all for the best.

You have my heart felt sympathies :) and I'm happy you are better off now. Best of luck with all this :)

[Shiny Moon]

I was horny, curious and felt ready, so I asked myself, why not? :rolleyes:
No regrets.

[ZoeH]

Havent met the right person and Im not going to rush into anything

[Shaythen]

Havent met the right person and Im not going to rush into anything

Good idea, no need to rush things

[Naturelover]

Havent met the right person and Im not going to rush into anything

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[ShezzaD05]

I was 13 (still am). I felt ready and my BF really wanted to do it as well. I dont regret it at all and i am glad i didnt wait.

[KristenM]

I felt like I was ready and cared for and trusted the person I was doing it with. Everything felt right

[Catt]

My Bio Mom pimped me out.

I’m so sorry :(

[Anna Kadlecova]

I was 17 yo and I felt that was the right time.

[Claire Asteroid]

I felt like I wanted to find out about sex more from about when I was 17, but I also wanted to wait until I was married because I think it's important. My boyfriend agreed with me that we wouldn't have sex. But last winter I started to stay at his house more often and we shared a bed and it started to feel really nice making out with him in his bed. A few times he ended up dry humping me and he got his come on my body, and eventually I decided I wanted to have intercourse with him when I was 20. It felt very good and I don't regret it, but it wasn't how I'd planned before.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I see a lot of girls on here that lost their virginity at rather young ages, some mind blowingly young, so my question is what made you want to do it so young or if you’re like me, why are you waiting? I personally just don’t feel like I’m ready emotionally at 13 for sex.

Hiya Jess, You have the right attitude about your virginity, it's just a pity there is not more like you. Your right about it being some being mind-blowingly young when they lost their virginity but some just says they lost their virginity very young just to sensationalize things.
Yea some may have lost their virginity when they were quite young but others may be bluffing, I knew a few girls at school that done it when they were too young.
I I still consider my self a virgin as I never had sexual intercourse. :yes:
XX

[Daniuk]

I started when I was 7 yo with my mums male mate he didn't want to do it with me but I forced him into it and we are still doing it now n he loves it but we keep it a secret n he's well older than me think I love him tho

[Allover Kelly]

I started when I was 7 yo with my mums male mate he didn't want to do it with me but I forced him into it and we are still doing it now n he loves it but we keep it a secret n he's well older than me think I love him tho

WTF?

[ashleigh7]

I was 15. It felt right...totally trusted the guy, and it was awkward..because it was both our first time. But I think it was beautiful:)

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I started when I was 7 yo with my mums male mate he didn't want to do it with me but I forced him into it and we are still doing it now n he loves it but we keep it a secret n he's well older than me think I love him tho

WTF?
Hiya Kelly I could not agree more. :yes:
Take Care You And Yours.
XX

[gurquenjen]

I was curious. Sometimes I wish I'd waited a bit, but I know that if I had I might not have done it with the guy that I did. The actual first time itself was better than I was expecting (my sister basically told me it was just going to hurt a lot and not last long enough, and it did hurt a little and could have been a bit longer but...), I wouldn't change that for anything, really. There are also times I wish I'd had sex earlier (and I had, with girls, just not with a guy in the traditional sense). All in all though, I'm glad I started when I did because I think that sex has been a wonderful, enriching, pleasurable part of my life.

[MagicGinnySurprise]

I lost mine really early, and I don’t regret it. I don’t judge people who don’t feel ready, but I do think sometimes people (mostly us girls, but I’ve known boys who’ve done it too) build up sex to something unrealistic. Like, omg, my first time has to be perfect and it has to be love and magical and all that. I meant, it’s fun. I just approach it like a fun activity, be careful and I don’t see why it has to be so life altering.

[Jess523]

They finally fixed the email glitch so I can finally say thank you all for your responses

[Makenna_]

I started when I was 7 yo with my mums male mate he didn't want to do it with me but I forced him into it and we are still doing it now n he loves it but we keep it a secret n he's well older than me think I love him tho

Surely this is fake???

[Pultost]

Surely this is fake???

Most likely, probably someone who gets a kick out of making up a story like that.

[lexiep]

i'm not opposed to loosing it, I just haven't had the right opportunity yet. But who knows lol, that might change tomorrow.

[Makenna_]

Most likely, probably someone who gets a kick out of making up a story like that.

So creepy

[Pultost]

So creepy

I know. I suppose they can't be avoided entirely.

[Surfergirl]

It felt natural and I wanted to with him

[leah2003]

I lost mine when I was 15 and although I wasn't totally ready to have sex I was happy I did.

[moll]

I was 14 which was ok i think

[JuliaVT]

There were really two things that led me to the decision. First was an incredible urge to somehow be closer to my bf. It’s hard to describe but it was both physical and emotional. I just wanted to feel physically connected that way. Second I seriously considered all the options and all the risks until I was comfortable, I didn’t rush into it despite the urge. No regrets. Just take your time, ask questions, consider options (which there are) and consequences, and do it when you’re ready.

[Atlantis]

Bumped :locked: