Do other bisexuals ever experience this?

[Ffdp16]

I consider myself bisexual. I'm in a relationship with another guy. But emotionally I don't feel anything for him tbh. I know I'm using him. And he's using me basically. But it's like many times idk if I can stay faithful to him long. I really really need some pussy in my life right now! Like when I'm with him I am some of the time wanting a girl. I enjoy sex with him but its not enough not satisfactory for me. And I don't like topping him because his ass really turns me off. I don't like his body even in a sexual sense. I think he's hot. But I don't really get hard from looking at him. But I am finding it harder to enjoy sex on top.


When I'm with a girl I tend to feel unsatisfied as well. Because I'm not a bottom or a top with a girl more versatile. And girls find that odd that I like anal sex receiving. I can enjoy sex with either a guy or a girl I enjoy a girl's body while I enjoy a guy's penis. I'm better with oral sex with a guy than a girl. I don't really care if a guy or girl performs oral on me though. I can get along in a relationship with a girl I just masturbate. And I normally look at girls and don't notice boys. Anyhow I can't be completely satisfied by either it seems. I feel like I'll never find the one because I'm all messed up. I feel hopeless as far as relationships go. How do you deal with your bisexuality in relationships?

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I don't normally look at guys and a bit of it is a problem in that I realize I don't really enjoy another man but rather what he's doing to me. And overall I prefer women. I want to break up with my bf but right now I don't feel like it's a good idea really.

[centropede]

Maby you are asexual?

[Ffdp16]

Maybe I'm not bisexual idk but now I'm just really confused.

Maby you are asexual?

No I like sex a lot. And I look at girls all the time. But I can also enjoy receiving oral sex with guys and receiving anal sex. Normally I don't look at guys though normally. But I enjoy sex with both and dated both girls and guys.

[ninja789]

yeah I kinda get it
sometimes I do want a guy/girl depending on my mood

[Star Wolf]

I don't think now you are attracted to the person you are going out with. Maybe intercourse is unsatisfactory for you because you lack an emotional bond.

I say the best thing to fix this would just be to break up with him. If you go out with a guy you are really attracted to and develop emotional feelings with him, maybe you would get the satisfaction you are looking for.

As for girls, if you like them, then give them a try too. There are girls out there understanding of these things. And there are always substitute tools such as strap-ons that they can wear.

But I do think emotional bonds play a huge factor in these things. So take the time to build one up with someone special and see what happens.

[rockymountainway]

It sounds like you're bisexual with more of a leaning towards girls. Maybe an open relationship with a guy and a girl is for you? Or maybe, if you're truly just using this guy, break up with him and date or hook up with more girls.

[ksdnfkfr]

You sound bisexual to me. No need to complicate it.

[Ffdp16]

yeah I kinda get it
sometimes I do want a guy/girl depending on my mood

for me I am most of the time wanting a girl but sometimes I want penis too. I like strap ons but girls are too insecure it seems about it.

[workingatperfect]

for me I am most of the time wanting a girl but sometimes I want penis too. I like strap ons but girls are too insecure it seems about it.

I was going to suggest this. But you are right that it's not too common. It's a kink that a lot of girls have or are open to, but it's going to take some looking to find one. I know that's probably hard now, but it'll get easier because as you get older you'll see that people are much less repressed when it comes to their kinks and whatnot. You'll even find girls who aren't into pegging but are totally ok with you having casual sex with guys. Really, it's more common than you probably think. I know since joining tumblr I've been exposed to a ton of things I'd never even heard of lol. You shouldn't feel hopeless or weird because of what you like. You'll find others :)

[Ffdp16]

I was going to suggest this. But you are right that it's not too common. It's a kink that a lot of girls have or are open to, but it's going to take some looking to find one. I know that's probably hard now, but it'll get easier because as you get older you'll see that people are much less repressed when it comes to their kinks and whatnot. You'll even find girls who aren't into pegging but are totally ok with you having casual sex with guys. Really, it's more common than you probably think. I know since joining tumblr I've been exposed to a ton of things I'd never even heard of lol. You shouldn't feel hopeless or weird because of what you like. You'll find others :)

honestly I don't even enjoy sex with guys lately it's just an act like a release.

[Hermes]

honestly I don't even enjoy sex with guys lately it's just an act like a release.

It seems to me you somehow feel you need to have sex and yet when it happens it doesn't seem to satisfy that need. To me that means the need is not for sex in the first place and in fact I am not convinced we have a need for sex separate from romance.

As a guy I think we do have a need to cum and obviously sex can be a fun way to do that and can be interestingly different from masturbation but I also think if there is no romantic connection with the person concerned then it is nothing more than adding fun and variety; it is not filling any need that couldn't be filled by wanking.

I think your unfulfilled need is for romance - to love and be loved. Once you have that I suspect the sex will sort itself out. Of course some people are more sexually open than others but with love you can explore together. You may not get everything you ever fantasise about and some things may have to be reserved for masturbation fantasy but you may be surpised.

While I can see nothing wrong with a "friends with benefits" arrangement for enjoying sex when you might otherwise not do so, thinking of it as a romance with the expecation of monogamy when you don't love him is probably distracting you from looking for the relationship you really need.

[Ffdp16]

I do feel satisfied but I don't really desire him or have any reason to have sex with him specifically.


It seems to me you somehow feel you need to have sex and yet when it happens it doesn't seem to satisfy that need. To me that means the need is not for sex in the first place and in fact I am not convinced we have a need for sex separate from romance.

As a guy I think we do have a need to cum and obviously sex can be a fun way to do that and can be interestingly different from masturbation but I also think if there is no romantic connection with the person concerned then it is nothing more than adding fun and variety; it is not filling any need that couldn't be filled by wanking.

I think your unfulfilled need is for romance - to love and be loved. Once you have that I suspect the sex will sort itself out. Of course some people are more sexually open than others but with love you can explore together. You may not get everything you ever fantasise about and some things may have to be reserved for masturbation fantasy but you may be surpised.

While I can see nothing wrong with a "friends with benefits" arrangement for enjoying sex when you might otherwise not do so, thinking of it as a romance with the expecation of monogamy when you don't love him is probably distracting you from looking for the relationship you really need.