Privacy & Sharing A Room With Another Girl

[MikaylaP]

Hey everyone. So, later this summer I am allowed to bring a friend to our family cottage for a 2 week trip. I am looking forward to it because its the first year I am allowed to invite and have a friend stay with us.

Now, after getting all hyped-up about how much fun it will be to have a friend to water-ski with, boat, camp fires and just be able to hang and enjoy all the fun activities with, it has recently dawned on me that 2 weeks (not in the privacy of my own bed) and sharing a bedroom is not like just having a one-night sleepover or whatever in where it’s not a big deal.

Knowing how I am with regards to needing ‘privacy,’ I am not ignorant or naïve to the fact that along with myself, my friend probably masturbates too on the reg (presumably, of course) and needs to do so to get relief from urges; pretty much every girl out there.

The most I have ever gone is 4 days; and my arousal levels get super annoying if I can’t do anything after that; get pent-up and get horny constantly or a lot throughout the day off and on. It really super sux trying to sleep when you are really urging and need the release, badly.

Yes, the shower at our cottage is an option; the problem is the water we can use is limited (showers have to be fast) due to the iron levels in the lake; we have a water tank that takes forever to fill-up/filter for washing dishes and of course, taking showers….so that could be tricky.

So I guess my question is, have u ever had to share with a friend before for a long time; or even with a female sibling?

What do you do…?
Do you have like an arrangement or?

Like, do I just be mature about the obvious with my friend and talk about how to handle giving ourselves privacy somehow if we need it? I am sure at some point she is going to consider the above issue as well, or has already since I told her she is invited.

Or if anything, she at some point at the cottage is going to get urges/pent-up from just not having a sexual release (orgasm) for such a long time;is going to get frustrated and be in a bad mood.

[angelina]

i have shared my room with friends ( all the 7 girls are my class mates) on many occasion. similarly we did it in other girls houses. After watching TV..singing..dancing..even mbating we used to go to sleep late night..it is not a routine one..occasionally during summer holidays or on birth days.

[Pultost]

We're taking care of this girl for an unknown time, and she stays in my room. Privacy and such really isn't an issue. For changing and my private needs I use the bathroom. Problem solved. :)

[Fiona2]

I've shared a room with other girls during sports tournaments and I have always just rubbed quietly when I think they're asleep.

[Pultost]

I've shared a room with other girls during sports tournaments and I have always just rubbed quietly when I think they're asleep.

I'm sure you're not the only one, when you're locked up together for a long time, there will be urges and needs. xD

[Emma1133]

I would say either, just take care of things quietly while laying in bed at night or depending on how close a friend, talk with her about it and see what you both can figure out together.

[ashleigh7]

I would say either, just take care of things quietly while laying in bed at night or depending on how close a friend, talk with her about it and see what you both can figure out together.

Well said.....and good advice:)

[ashleigh7]

How about the bathroom floor after a shower? That’s always a fun time to take care of business. I know from talking to you before that it’s been an issue to find alone time when you’re there. If worst comes to worst, talk to your friend about how you should handle it. You could give each other some privacy for a little bit when you need alone time. I am sure she’s going to need a release a well. Heck, If she’s a close friend maybe she can lend a hand ��

What Tayler said is a good point...And it could be fun for both of you, if it goes that direction?? :)

[Natacha]

Yeah be open about this issue but put your word carefully, so she doesn't think she is in your way. I'm sure she has thought about it too.
Maybe it could make the masturbating more exciting for you, when you have to try to hide it and do it in weird spots at weirdest times.

[MikaylaP]

How about the bathroom floor after a shower? That’s always a fun time to take care of business. I know from talking to you before that it’s been an issue to find alone time when you’re there. If worst comes to worst, talk to your friend about how you should handle it. You could give each other some privacy for a little bit when you need alone time. I am sure she’s going to need a release a well. Heck, If she’s a close friend maybe she can lend a hand ��

This is true, I guess if it can be done quickly and stuff it would be an option.

I've shared a room with other girls during sports tournaments and I have always just rubbed quietly when I think they're asleep.

Ya I have gone on trips for vball and stuff too but never attempted ....wanted to though. I can be quiet...its just if its been awhile I am paranoid that when it comes time to make it 'finish'....its really intense. Rubbing quietly is no problem for us girls as it takes little movement...how do u handle the orgasm part so carefully, though if they are right beside you?

I would say either, just take care of things quietly while laying in bed at night or depending on how close a friend, talk with her about it and see what you both can figure out together.

Thanks and ya, good advice. I am wondering if that would be a good arrangement; only do it at night if the other is a sleep?

Yeah be open about this issue but put your word carefully, so she doesn't think she is in your way. I'm sure she has thought about it too.
Maybe it could make the masturbating more exciting for you, when you have to try to hide it and do it in weird spots at weirdest times.

True....not sure if it would make it more exciting per say...but it would def make me consider how I should go about making it happen/how i should get it done as quickly as possible.

[Shaythen]

I have to share a room at my dads every other weekend usually with my stepsister (she’s 15) we both have “urges” but generally we only do it after we think the other person is asleep, they’re not always asleep though, but we don’t make a big deal about it. And before anyone asks, NO, we’ve never done it together or would we

[Amy_n_Annie]

Can always slip out of bed and do it on the floor if you’re worried about movement
Probably be fun to do it together, that makes for a great bedtime

I share a bedroom within sister and we don’t hide it anymore

[Zandra]

Can always slip out of bed and do it on the floor if you’re worried about movement
Probably be fun to do it together, that makes for a great bedtime

I share a bedroom within sister and we don’t hide it anymore

How olds your sister again?

[Gone Away]

I grew up an only child my whole life so I have never experienced this, but the only thing I can look forward to this is when I go off to college and live in the dorms with roommates. I don't think it will be an issue as at first we will all just have to sit down and make some sort of bathroom schedule that works for all of us and how our school schedules work. I am the sort of person though that just usually goes with the flow though.

[Amy_n_Annie]

How olds your sister again?

15
She taught me everything

[Knightley]

if your close friends I think its just easier to talk to her and ask if it ok you masturbate at night or whenever

[Zandra]

15
She taught me everything

Nice do you two eve do it at the same time or just take turns?

[Haley102]

I would just talk to her about it. Like you said we all do it so she may have the same worries as you haha. If not I’d do like other people said and do it quick in the bathroom.

[nudiegurl13]

Either ask her about it or try to find time on your own when she's sleeping or something. If you're close and especially if you've talked about masturbation before it shouldn't be a big deal.

If you're used to seeing each other naked or you share a shower or something where it would make sense to be in the bathroom at the same time, just lock the door so she can't come in and say you need privacy in the bathroom for a minute and take care of things then.

[feli 99]

I Share a room with my sister WE dont really hide anything we do IT wen The Other Person ist away or in The eavening in bed or so.
By my new Job i have to Share a room often.
You can do IT on toilett or when she is in shower. I dont konw your sleeping habbits maybe in The morning when she is sleeping or so.
Dont say that you came a little Bit later to eat or Go away thats dump.

[Amy_n_Annie]

Nice do you two eve do it at the same time or just take turns?

Same time usually, we’re not shy about natural things

[Zandra]

Same time usually, we’re not shy about natural things

Wow so just out in the open not even under the covers?

[Laren502]

Just talk to her about it , maybe you’ll both come to an arrangement or just end up doing it whenever if you’re both ok with it

[Amy_n_Annie]

Wow so just out in the open not even under the covers?

Either or
She taught me, we’ve got no secrets

[Brigje]

Wow so just out in the open not even under the covers?

Zandra You sound surprised, sharing is caring ;)

[Allover Kelly]

If she is a good friend she should understand. Just tell her about what you do at home. You might be surprised that she might have the same feelings.
When I was in the group home we all knew what each other did and no one cared. Just be honest.

[Jazmine03]

Just talk to her about it , maybe you’ll both come to an arrangement or just end up doing it whenever if you’re both ok with it

I’ve been in the same situation. And I just talked to my cousin, lucky so was cool with it and we ended up mbating together.

[MikaylaP]

Just talk to her about it , maybe you’ll both come to an arrangement or just end up doing it whenever if you’re both ok with it

Ya that's a good idea...I am just debating how to do that and whether or not I talk to her about it before the trip and stuff just so we can figure something out and like...i don't know how often she needs to do it to so she isn't going crazy 'down there' and stuff

If she is a good friend she should understand. Just tell her about what you do at home. You might be surprised that she might have the same feelings.
When I was in the group home we all knew what each other did and no one cared. Just be honest.

She is a good friend; we just have never really talked about habits and how often we both need to do 'that' and stuff. Were most girls quiet about it when they would do it in your group home...like would u just do it at night; how do u go about it?

I have to share a room at my dads every other weekend usually with my stepsister (she’s 15) we both have “urges” but generally we only do it after we think the other person is asleep, they’re not always asleep though, but we don’t make a big deal about it. And before anyone asks, NO, we’ve never done it together or would we

Ya, i think thats when most girls get the urges is at night time and stuff and will commit to rubbing one out. Like....im am OK if like i might hear another girl start-up at night; hearing like the rubbing sound with the sheets and stuff...and like if u can be quick about it then ya...like i know that might happen where the other person might not be totally asleep and stuff and u might her the 5 min or less of your friend trying to get herself 'there'.

Like do u just try to minimize everything (i.e just rub over pjs and panties slowly to cause less hassle as possible?)

[Laren502]

[QUOTE=MikaylaP;3829693][COLOR="Magenta"]Ya that's a good idea...I am just debating how to do that and whether or not I talk to her about it before the trip and stuff just so we can figure something out and like...i don't know how often she needs to do it to so she isn't going crazy 'down there' and stuff

Yeah I’d try to do it before the trip. Idk how to bring it up honestly, how close are you ? Have you ever talked about this stuff before ?

[Allover Kelly]

Ya that's a good idea...I am just debating how to do that and whether or not I talk to her about it before the trip and stuff just so we can figure something out and like...i don't know how often she needs to do it to so she isn't going crazy 'down there' and stuff



She is a good friend; we just have never really talked about habits and how often we both need to do 'that' and stuff. Were most girls quiet about it when they would do it in your group home...like would u just do it at night; how do u go about it?



Ya, i think thats when most girls get the urges is at night time and stuff and will commit to rubbing one out. Like....im am OK if like i might hear another girl start-up at night; hearing like the rubbing sound with the sheets and stuff...and like if u can be quick about it then ya...like i know that might happen where the other person might not be totally asleep and stuff and u might her the 5 min or less of your friend trying to get herself 'there'.

Like do u just try to minimize everything (i.e just rub over pjs and panties slowly to cause less hassle as possible?)


It was funny at the group homes with mostly white girls all knew that they knew we all Bated, you could hear it. But with the few that I was the only white girl no one said anything with the black girls and what they did.

[MikaylaP]

[QUOTE=MikaylaP;3829693][COLOR="Magenta"]Ya that's a good idea...I am just debating how to do that and whether or not I talk to her about it before the trip and stuff just so we can figure something out and like...i don't know how often she needs to do it to so she isn't going crazy 'down there' and stuff

Yeah I’d try to do it before the trip. Idk how to bring it up honestly, how close are you ? Have you ever talked about this stuff before ?

Yeah I am going to talk to her about before we go i think.We are decently close I would say; we have not talked about this sort of thing before. However, she is my age....and like odds are she needs to masturbate and gets antsy/pent-up if she can't for a long time, like any other girl out there from time-to-time...so.

[Laren502]

[QUOTE=Laren502;3829694]

Yeah I am going to talk to her about before we go i think.We are decently close I would say; we have not talked about this sort of thing before. However, she is my age....and like odds are she needs to masturbate and gets antsy/pent-up if she can't for a long time, like any other girl out there from time-to-time...so.

Yeah I guarantee she needs to do it just as much , but since you haven’t discussed this stuff before I think the hardest part will be starting that convo

[MikaylaP]

[QUOTE=MikaylaP;3830349]

Yeah I guarantee she needs to do it just as much , but since you haven’t discussed this stuff before I think the hardest part will be starting that convo

Exactly...like I am pretty sure she does it, it's just how often (for her) she needs to get it done and how long she can take going without it and stuff...and then what we can agree on once its getting to that point.

[Laren502]

[QUOTE=Laren502;3830387]

Exactly...like I am pretty sure she does it, it's just how often (for her) she needs to get it done and how long she can take going without it and stuff...and then what we can agree on once its getting to that point.

Yeah haha, it just gonna come down to a conversation between you too. How do you think you will bring it up?

[Cangirl]

Can always slip out of bed and do it on the floor if you’re worried about movement
Probably be fun to do it together, that makes for a great bedtime

I share a bedroom within sister and we don’t hide it anymore

yeah us too. to much a bother to consistently hide it so it just got to be open

[Cangirl]

[QUOTE=Laren502;3829694]

Yeah I am going to talk to her about before we go i think.We are decently close I would say; we have not talked about this sort of thing before. However, she is my age....and like odds are she needs to masturbate and gets antsy/pent-up if she can't for a long time, like any other girl out there from time-to-time...so.

yeah it's not easy bringing it up but can always joke about alone time or girl time and that you don't want to get to upset or edgy so things need to happen and I bet she'll agree and then you can start talking about it.

What is she like about changing with you and other friends? Reason I ask is that if she's ok changing with you or other friends around then it might be easier because she might be a little more open about things? As in not shy that she hides her body so she'd be shy about talking about this with you.

[Anna05]

Just say you're going to take a nap during the day and get it done then

[muffin81]

how'd it go?

[MikaylaP]

There’s also a lot of chances to take “pee breaks” through the day. Just masturbate on the toilet. Not the most pleasant place but it definitely works

That is a good option as well....and like maybe finding a chance if ppl are outside and stuff to sneak inside I guess.

[Shiny Moon]

If you're close with your friend and have enough confidence then just talk with her about it. If not, well, take your time in the bathroom ;)

[MikaylaP]

how'd it go?

It was a bit awkward but I brought it up to her and we discussed the issue. At the end of it all....she later texted me after we hung out that she is actually relieved and glad I had brought it up because before she hadn't really thought about how bad it could be going 2 weeks....like it didn't enter her mind...but then after thinking about it she was like ...in her mind..."omg.....what was I going to do about that..." because she said she is like me in that she has not really gone that long since she started needing to do it....maybe 4 days at the most.

And its like I don't think she understood how lacking the privacy is going to be with limited shower time and how many ppl will be in and around the cottage and stuff....like its not like at home or whatever when you can just go to your room if you need to.

[Emilyfox]

A whole lot better if you just have sex together
The you’re both relieved and nothing to be shy about

[muffin81]

It was a bit awkward but I brought it up to her and we discussed the issue. At the end of it all....she later texted me after we hung out that she is actually relieved and glad I had brought it up because before she hadn't really thought about how bad it could be going 2 weeks....like it didn't enter her mind...but then after thinking about it she was like ...in her mind..."omg.....what was I going to do about that..." because she said she is like me in that she has not really gone that long since she started needing to do it....maybe 4 days at the most.

And its like I don't think she understood how lacking the privacy is going to be with limited shower time and how many ppl will be in and around the cottage and stuff....like its not like at home or whatever when you can just go to your room if you need to.

So you haven't gone yet? What're your current plans ahaha?

[DanielleIU]

A whole lot better if you just have sex together
The you’re both relieved and nothing to be shy about

Totally agree. It’s not like it’s a first time for either of you and no one else is involved so it could be fun. As Emily said there’s nothing to be shy about, we’re all pretty much the same when it comes to this.

[gurquenjen]

I remember the first time I walked in on a roommate masturbating. I was so relieved because until then I'd been sneaking around as much as possible or just rubbing one out under the sheets, but I came back from classes earlier as she was coming down to earth, with, I might add, my hairbrush in a very special place. I laughed so much, but was thrilled because it meant I could stop being quiet about things. She kept the hairbrush and bought me a new one (I didn't have the heart to tell her that I used it for that too since she was so insistent on replacing it).
So, really, if you can, being open and frank about these things is better, it might be awkward, but it avoids more awkwardness down the line. And besides, what are friends for if not discussion of self-loving (and more ;) )

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Hello Everyone, Sharing a room has never been an issue for me, I have had my BFF on sleepovers since we were very young, and also my cousin would be quite a lot. And if there is two friends or my cousin and a friend of mine I would also share my bed as well as the room and the other one would use a air bed beside my double bed. And of course I would have sleepovers at my friends houses.
Also talking about masturbation or even doing it together was never an issue as we have been doing it since quite young. :yes:

[Lila123]

I once had something very similar happen to me. I went with a friend and her family on their vacation when I was 13 and had to share a bed with her. The first night, we both passed out real fast. So the second night, I stayed in bed to masturbate, and waited until she was asleep. That’s all I did, kept my clothes on and did it while she was sleeping.

[ClaireHofmann]

A whole lot better if you just have sex together
The you’re both relieved and nothing to be shy about
That's exactly how I had sex with another girl for the first time. You're totally right.

[CarlaG]

I shared my bedroom and bed with a friend for some months. She spent all summer vacations with me, so...around 3 months. I sleep naked most of the times and almost every night i would masturbate.
We re really close so it wasn't strange, she did the same. In some ocasions we even watched some "movies" together XD
No big deal.

[leah2003]

Is it me or am i lame when my friends sleep over? All be it we have zero privacy in my house but I have never slept naked with my friends, nor have i masturbated or had sex with my friend in the same bed. The only thing I have ever done is cuddled or spooned with my friends but that's it. I have seen some of my friends naked or partially naked when we change clothes or getting ready to go out but never anything in bed. Is it just me??

[Pultost]

Is it me or am i lame when my friends sleep over? All be it we have zero privacy in my house but I have never slept naked with my friends, nor have i masturbated or had sex with my friend in the same bed. The only thing I have ever done is cuddled or spooned with my friends but that's it. I have seen some of my friends naked or partially naked when we change clothes or getting ready to go out but never anything in bed. Is it just me??

You're definitely not the only one, and certainly not lame. I haven't spent sleepovers naked with masturbation etc. included either. You should take it with a grain of salt when you hear those stories. ;)

[leah2003]

You're definitely not the only one, and certainly not lame. I haven't spent sleepovers naked with masturbation etc. included either. You should take it with a grain of salt when you hear those stories. ;)

Well I guess it's just you and me Anita! lol :)

[Pultost]

Well I guess it's just you and me Anita! lol :)

Seems like it. :lol3:

[Karalectric]

You're definitely not the only one, and certainly not lame. I haven't spent sleepovers naked with masturbation etc. included either. You should take it with a grain of salt when you hear those stories. ;)

Well I guess it's just you and me Anita! lol :)

Make it three. :P
My friends and I joke that the boys would be so disappointed when they learn the real truth about how our sleepovers never end up with us comparing boobs and having an orgy. :rolleyes:

[leah2003]

Make it three. :P
My friends and I joke that the boys would be so disappointed when they learn the real truth about how our sleepovers never end up with us comparing boobs and having an orgy. :rolleyes:

Well you have to wonder where they get this idea from? I would assume porn or just their wild imaginations but i mean seriously! Unless I am hanging around with the wrong crowd, maybe I will ask around school to see which girls are having these weekend girl orgies and I will join them lol

[Pultost]

Make it three. :P
My friends and I joke that the boys would be so disappointed when they learn the real truth about how our sleepovers never end up with us comparing boobs and having an orgy. :rolleyes:

Yes, the harsh reality is a rude awakening for them. :lol3:

[MissMolly]

Is it me or am i lame when my friends sleep over? All be it we have zero privacy in my house but I have never slept naked with my friends, nor have i masturbated or had sex with my friend in the same bed. The only thing I have ever done is cuddled or spooned with my friends but that's it. I have seen some of my friends naked or partially naked when we change clothes or getting ready to go out but never anything in bed. Is it just me??

Nope. Not just you. I have never done any of those things either.

Boring girls of the world unite!

[leah2003]

Nope. Not just you. I have never done any of those things either.

Boring girls of the world unite!

Lets have our first general meeting at your place, I love visiting California! :P

[Tayler]

Is it me or am i lame when my friends sleep over? All be it we have zero privacy in my house but I have never slept naked with my friends, nor have i masturbated or had sex with my friend in the same bed. The only thing I have ever done is cuddled or spooned with my friends but that's it. I have seen some of my friends naked or partially naked when we change clothes or getting ready to go out but never anything in bed. Is it just me??


Most of the stories like this on here are BS written by males pretending to be female. So disgusting. The OP isn’t even on this site anymore I don’t believe, and I have reasons to believe she isn’t who she says she is. Like Anita said, take these stories with a grain of salt.

[Tayler]

Well you have to wonder where they get this idea from? I would assume porn or just their wild imaginations but i mean seriously! Unless I am hanging around with the wrong crowd, maybe I will ask around school to see which girls are having these weekend girl orgies and I will join them lol


Be sure to also tell them naked pillow fights aren’t actually thing and watch their head explode

[leah2003]

Most of the stories like this on here are BS written by males pretending to be female. So disgusting. The OP isn’t even on this site anymore I don’t believe, and I have reasons to believe she isn’t who she says she is. Like Anita said, take these stories with a grain of salt.

Yeah some of the posts are like wtf? I don't understand why guys do that! Not saying all guys are like that but I guess it turns them on?? I guess? Men and women are soooo different on so many levels! It is kind of funny to read the posts though! :)

[leah2003]

Be sure to also tell them naked pillow fights aren’t actually thing and watch their head explode

HAHA my head just about exploded laughing at your comment! Naked Pillow fights, too funny!

[Allover Kelly]

Well try living in a group home with 4 to 12 girls I did and it was no fun most of the time

[leah2003]

Well try living in a group home with 4 to 12 girls I did and it was no fun most of the time

Oh gosh, I couldn't even imagine, sorry to hear that! I honestly don't even know what to say about that. I hope it made you a better person! I got nothing... sorry! :confused:

[Allover Kelly]

Oh gosh, I couldn't even imagine, sorry to hear that! I honestly don't even know what to say about that. I hope it made you a better person! I got nothing... sorry! :confused:
My Dad made a room for me out of garage. I did share a room with my half sister for a year. It was a dream being with just one girl.

[crystalgirl]

I grew up as an only child til my dad married my step mom and we moved in w her and my stepsis abt a year ago. We both have our own rooms at the house cos it’s big but since we ended up getting rly close

[Arianne]

It was a bit awkward but I brought it up to her and we discussed the issue. At the end of it all....she later texted me after we hung out that she is actually relieved and glad I had brought it up because before she hadn't really thought about how bad it could be going 2 weeks....like it didn't enter her mind...but then after thinking about it she was like ...in her mind..."omg.....what was I going to do about that..." because she said she is like me in that she has not really gone that long since she started needing to do it....maybe 4 days at the most.

And its like I don't think she understood how lacking the privacy is going to be with limited shower time and how many ppl will be in and around the cottage and stuff....like its not like at home or whatever when you can just go to your room if you need to.

Did you get to go on the trip or did COVID cancel it?
If you did... how did you two manage? Do you shower together or separate?

[Alexnbin]

Well try living in a group home with 4 to 12 girls I did and it was no fun most of the time

My friend did that, she said it was really hard - no privacy for *anything*
Like if you needed some personal care time or if girls got together at night or in the showers, she said everyone knew / saw
To the point it was just normalised and then in foster care she had to adapt out of it and learn privacy for herself and others again

[Bluebyrd]

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