My friend told me that he was not circumcised.

[bubblegumchewer06]

Hey everyone! Today, at school, my best friend told me that he was not circumcised. His family is Lutheran, and he said that it was not part of their religion, I’m Lutheran as-well, and I was circumcised.

Anyway, when he told me this, I felt like I know longer knew him. For some reason, i just always expected that he would be, like me. It’s not that big of a deal, I’m just surprised. Does anyone have any ideas of why i feel the way I do? Have you ever felt this way?

Also, are there more people that are circumcised, or un circumcised?
Please let me know..

Thank you Everyone! This is my best friend, and i don’t want to feel like I don’t know him, when we know each other very well.

Thanks!

[ska8er]

Maybe u feel like u r missing
out on something by being
circumcised. I think u know a
little bit more of him since he
told u he was not cut. IDK if
anyone can say how many r
circumcised or not. I think it
is 50/50.

[JayA]

He is your best friend, and this proves that he is comfortable with this type of discussion with you -- maybe, as others have said/done on VT, he was looking to see what your reaction would be to possibly suggest more fun together!

[Wtd_]

Idk why you felt that way. Perhaps because you feel its harder to relate to him???
In terms of whether more people are circumcised or not it really depends on where you live. I think most people are cut in the USA whereas in places like the uk, europe, australia, etc most are uncut.

[bubblegumchewer06]

Idk why you felt that way. Perhaps because you feel its harder to relate to him???
In terms of whether more people are circumcised or not it really depends on where you live. I think most people are cut in the USA whereas in places like the uk, europe, australia, etc most are uncut.

I think that may be what it is. I probably don’t feel that I can relate to him, anymore. Hopefully if i take my mind off of it, this weird feeling will go away. Thank you

[ska8er]

I think that may be what it is. I probably don’t feel that I can relate to him, anymore. Hopefully if i take my mind off of it, this weird feeling will go away. Thank you

I don't c y u feel like u cant relate. There is
more to a friendship than being cut or not cut.

[Second Chance]

Hey everyone! Today, at school, my best friend told me that he was not circumcised. His family is Lutheran, and he said that it was not part of their religion, I’m Lutheran as-well, and I was circumcised.

Circumcision in Christianity is optional unlike in other religions where it is mandatory with Judaism being a prime example.

Anyway, when he told me this, I felt like I know longer knew him. For some reason, i just always expected that he would be, like me. It’s not that big of a deal, I’m just surprised. Does anyone have any ideas of why i feel the way I do? Have you ever felt this way?

I agree with the person above that whether or not a person is circumcised really should not have any impact on your friendship.

My guess is that the reason you feel this way is probably throughout life you and your friend were similar in everyway but now you realize a difference. Especially as you go through puberty you may find you and your friend may take different paths which is normal. Accept your friend's differences because the reality is that you two will diverge in some areas. Having differences or learning something new about your friend does not mean you do not know him. As for the circumcision thing, my guess this was not an issue until he really noticed that situation when you both started puberty. As you and your friend get older differences will come up which is a fact of life. Differences do not necessarily mean a negative thing.

Also, are there more people that are circumcised, or un circumcised?
Please let me know..

This entirely depends on where you live. Many boys are circumcised in the United States whereas in European, Asian, and Latin American countries the number of circumcised boys goes down a lot.

Thank you Everyone! This is my best friend, and i don’t want to feel like I don’t know him, when we know each other very well.

Thanks!

As mentioned above, probably your friend never paid attention to his penis until he started puberty and understood the difference between being cut/uncut. Once he realized he was uncut he told you once he realized you're cut. This should not be a big deal, and being uncut is not exactly a huge physical difference.

[LiberalTurboprop]

Also, are there more people that are circumcised, or un circumcised?
Please let me know..Thanks!

That depends on what you mean by more people. Worldwide I think about 1/3 of all men are circumcised - it's common in the US, Canada, the Middle East and Africa, less common in Europe, Asia and South America, used to be common in Australia but uncommon for younger people. Most men in the US are circumcised but the rate of circumcision has fallen over time so fewer males are circumcised the younger they are. And it depends on who you're around personally. Jewish men are circumcised as part of the religion. There is debate within Islam as to whether it is religiously required but most Muslims are circumcised. Christianity doesn't have it required but different branches have different views on it and it has some association with it in the US because 100+ years ago some wacky religious dudes thought it was a good anti-masturbation tool.

I wouldn't really worry about it too much. The odds are that many guys you know are circumcised and many aren't. It's not unusual to be circumcised or uncircumcised in the US now.

[jamie_n5]

Well it's just the way things are. In my area it's around 50/50 of being circumcised or not. I am Lutheran too and so is my BF and we are both not circumcised. As far as I know only the Jewish and Muslim faiths require males to be circumcised for religious reasons.

[nicky shadow]

If your circumcised or no is a very private thing and I think your friend is really open and honest with you in sharing that information about hisself. Clearly he trusts you I wouldn’t take it as meaning that you don’t know him. It’s the opposite. Maybe he will let you see it next.

[Turbofan explosion]

Maybe you feel left out because you are circumcised and your friend is not.

But do consider the fact that in some parts of the world, being circumcised is the norm, and uncircumcised is the norm in other countries. You might be able to get rid of your feeling by forgetting about knowing about it.

[Ryguy123]

Maybe tell him ur cut and the worrisome thoughts will go away

[Hermes]

One of the things that happens with puberty is we become much more aware of our dicks but it is important to remember that there is also a lot of life that has nothing to do with dicks and presumably you have shared all kinds of things with your friend in the past that have nothing to do with dicks or circumcision and you can continue to do so in the future.

While some religions have a specifically religious tradition of circumcision I don't believe this is the case for any kind of Christianity including Lutherism so it is not like whether you are circumcised or not either includes or excludes you from a shared religion.

Also, even though circumcision can sometimes be a hotly debated topic, the vast majority of guys find their penis does what they want it to do and don't worry too much about it one way or the other.

I'd continue to talk to your friend and remind yourself of what you have in common that made your friends in the first place. Sometimes we can dwell too much on differences and overlook similarities.

[HeyCameron]

Well, I don't really care what my friends' penises are like and I don't think I ever thought about it (even though some of us have since shared some information about them). I think it's bizarre to be that concerned about it. It's dick skin, it's not like you found out he's a Russian spy.

[JamesCam]

I don’t get what your friends dick has to do with the level of your friendship.
If one of my mates treated me differently because of my circumcision status I’d think he had bigger issues in life than just that. Sorry but I just don’t get where you’re coming from

[jaret]

Maybe your friend was teased about being uncut, and maybe by telling you before you saw it, it wouldn't be a big surprise. Or maybe he wants to find out about you being cut.
Maybe just ask him about it, and don't think or make a big deal about it, he your best friend.

[hairy balls]

tell him ur cut

[Oscar-V3.0]

Hey everyone! Today, at school, my best friend told me that he was not circumcised. His family is Lutheran, and he said that it was not part of their religion, I’m Lutheran as-well, and I was circumcised.

Anyway, when he told me this, I felt like I know longer knew him. For some reason, i just always expected that he would be, like me. It’s not that big of a deal, I’m just surprised. Does anyone have any ideas of why i feel the way I do? Have you ever felt this way?

Also, are there more people that are circumcised, or un circumcised?
Please let me know..

Thank you Everyone! This is my best friend, and i don’t want to feel like I don’t know him, when we know each other very well.

Thanks!

I dont think that being cut or uncut should have any impact on your friendship. Why would it matter??

[rwd83182]

I don't think him being uncut should make any difference on your friendship. You like hanging out with him and doing things with him because of who he is and that you guys get along. Whether his penis has a foreskin or not doesn't change any of that.

Maybe it just caught you off guard because you don't normally share those sorts of things. It's not like he was keeping a secret from you - it's really no ones business but you own what your private parts look like. The fact that he choose to share means he trusts you, I would think.

Just keep being friends. This new info really makes no difference in your friendship.

[german_boy]

Hey everyone! Today, at school, my best friend told me that he was not circumcised. His family is Lutheran, and he said that it was not part of their religion, I’m Lutheran as-well, and I was circumcised.

Anyway, when he told me this, I felt like I know longer knew him. For some reason, i just always expected that he would be, like me. It’s not that big of a deal, I’m just surprised. Does anyone have any ideas of why i feel the way I do? Have you ever felt this way?

Also, are there more people that are circumcised, or un circumcised?
Please let me know..

Thank you Everyone! This is my best friend, and i don’t want to feel like I don’t know him, when we know each other very well.

Thanks!


Seriously? Why would being uncut or cut make any difference for your friendship? I couldn't care less.

I guess it's just very uncommon for you as most guys in the United States are cut (but there are differences between states).

[Ethan19]

Well, I don't really care what my friends' penises are like and I don't think I ever thought about it (even though some of us have since shared some information about them). I think it's bizarre to be that concerned about it. It's dick skin, it's not like you found out he's a Russian spy.

Pretty sure they've failed the mission if they revealed they were a spy 🤔

[Ryguy123]

Pretty sure they've failed the mission if they revealed they were a spy 🤔

Lmao