is having a crush cheating?

[RCT109]

OK so as the title says is having a crush cheating?

My friend's gf has a crush on me and I her, me being 24 and she being 20, we talk about it often and stuff but have both decided to not act on it, besides living 3 hours apart.
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Would yall consider it cheating or not ?

[Uniquemind]

No. It is not cheating unless you act upon it.

If you are of faith this even fails the fornication or adultery test. I only bring this up on the off chance religion or faith influences you or her morality boundaries.

That religious scripture test, is the verses where the Devil tempts Jesus in the desert. Yet despite the temptation, Jesus is still regarded as being sinless.

So you can feel the urges, and thoughts, and if you don’t agree with acting on them, then you have not sinned.


So in the 2 perspectives I’ve offered you both are in agreement both of you are morally fine as of what you stated in the OP.

[Caycedilla]

I don’t think it’s cheating at all, unless you act on it (like said above). I’m pretty sure crushes are normal, even when you are in a relationship with someone else. That’s something you definitely keep to yourself :lol:

[ska8er]

No as long as u don't act on it.

[Zachary G]

Having a crush on someone isnt cheating, its more a form of admiration of each other than anything and as long as you keep things platonic between you all should be okay.

[RCT109]

I don’t think it’s cheating at all, unless you act on it (like said above). I’m pretty sure crushes are normal, even when you are in a relationship with someone else. That’s something you definitely keep to yourself :lol:


but we talk about it alot

[Elise05]

I don't think you can control what your heart wants. You have to make sure that you aren't in situations where the crush could develop into something more though.

[RCT109]

I don't think you can control what your heart wants. You have to make sure that you aren't in situations where the crush could develop into something more though.


You’re right but it gets tough when we talk all the time

[Spooky_Eli]

You’re right but it gets tough when we talk all the time

umm, so don't talk all the time?

[RCT109]

umm, so don't talk all the time?


easier said than done bro

[Spooky_Eli]

easier said than done bro

I get that, trust me, i do. but, idk what else to say tbh.

[RCT109]

I get that, trust me, i do. but, idk what else to say tbh.


i know man i appreciate it

[Jordan99]

NO! I've been in a relationship with my BF (now fiancé) for four years and he is the only man for me however, I'm not blind and I do get attracted to other guys on occasion...I'd NEVER act on that attraction but we cannot help who arouses us. I'm sure he gets excited or turned on by other girls too. It isn't the attraction that's wrong...it's what you do about it...or DON'T!

[cozoe]

There is nothing wrong with being attracted to or having a crush on someone else as long as you don't act on it. However, if you are talking to them all the time and sharing stuff that you don't share with your bf/gf. that is potentially a problem. You don't have to share everything with your bf/gf but if they aren't the main person you go to about stuff, that is bad.

[danielmx]

No, is not cheating. You can't always control your thoughts but you can control your actions, so as long as you dont act, you are fine

[RCT109]

NO! I've been in a relationship with my BF (now fiancé) for four years and he is the only man for me however, I'm not blind and I do get attracted to other guys on occasion...I'd NEVER act on that attraction but we cannot help who arouses us. I'm sure he gets excited or turned on by other girls too. It isn't the attraction that's wrong...it's what you do about it...or DON'T!


Thanks for the input and I
Believe congratulations are in order for you two

[Jordan99]

Thanks for the input and I
Believe congratulations are in order for you two

Thank you, Mjolnir :) We hope to get married in about a year and a half. We're both very happy :)

[RCT109]

Thank you, Mjolnir :) We hope to get married in about a year and a half. We're both very happy :)

to bad yall arent in texas id offer to cater it for you

[Pultost]

Nah, having a crush is alright. I have my fair share of crushes, and I'm pretty sure my boyfriend does as well, but none of us are acting up on them.

[Brightwolf]

Not unless you act on it I think. At least that's how I'd handle it.

[yeehaw]

It is completely normal to have crushes on other people while you are in a relationship, and it is a lot more common than you think - so it’s not cheating. But when you act on it, that’s when it crosses the line.

[KatieKat]

Hell no! You can be with someone and like someone else as long as you don’t mess them around or cheat.

You might have a full wardrobe, but that doesn’t stop you window shopping

[Emma04]

No I don’t think it cheating, as long as you don’t act on it

[Shaythen]

It may not be cheating in the normal sense, but by her expressing her affection for you, that means she’s thinking about you and not her bf and so “cheating” him of her love and attention

[sportskid2006]

No, i wouldn’t consider having a crush is cheay

[ItIsKai]

I don't think it is.