Has anyone else experienced this? And what does it mean?

[SamDizik]

Hey guys! First post here. Kinda nervous lol. Hows everyone doing?

So i am 13 and havent really had a girlfriend before, so i am not really sure about the whole dating thing.

So what happened is that theres this girl who i have caught staring at me for a couple of months. So i thought maybe she likes me, so I went up to talk to her (we are in the same class), but i got like a silent response from her, like she didnt want to talk to me. This happened three times actually. (btw, dont think it was because she was nervous because we have kinda talked before a bit about an upcoming test etc and she doesnt seem nervous at all).
I catch her looking at me quite often, and there were a couple of times she kept staring even when she knew i had caught her.

And this has even happened with another friend of mine with another girl.

I asked one of my friends whos a girl and she had no idea why anyone would do that either.

I think shes cute and wouldnt mind asking her out but I am really confused now.

So, does anyone have any idea what's happening here? And what should i do about it?

[ska8er]

If she continues to look at u I think she
is probably interested but maybe she is
not ready to accept dating someone. I
would continue to talk to her even if it
is just little talk. She just might come
around after awhile.

[BlackParadePixie]

well without being able to read her mind, I really don't know what she is thinking or feeling. Girls are guilty of staring just as much as guys are, sometimes we like what we see too, not going to deny it.
I think you need to just keep trying to talk to her, get to know her better. That's pretty much all you can do for now. I wouldn't straight up ask her out right away, that might catch her off guard and make her put her emotional walls up.

[antandlope]

Could mean she’s just shy or doesn’t think she deserves you... best you could do is keep trying to have a conversation. We don’t really know what she’s really thinking until she responds to you

[Uniquemind]

Also survey the room, there could be more social variables at play here.


Love, crushes, acting on those crushes and reaching out, they all have a political social cost especially if done i the sight of others.

Other thoughts are like, well my parents are really strict I can’t even be allowed to date anyway why try?

Not to mention there is real fear when say you want a relationship but you dread the day when one party strongly hints they want physical sexual acts from the relationship, and this is usually the guy that does this. So beginning a relationship can feel like a pandora’s Box, which is to say once you begin process A, it forces you to encounter process B, C and D and that’s a LOT of stress.

You seize up, and you just avoid confrontation. In this stage, your “crushes” are just very appealing museum art and that’s the highlight of your day.

If that makes you out to be a “creeper” yeah fine, but I swear everyone has done this at some point in their life as a tween or teen.

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As to your next question of what do you do?

Nothing, move on with your life and let her approach you. You’ve already attempted to talk to her and you can’t negotiate with a “cold shoulder” behavior she puts up.

[kayin]

I think she is interested in you