would u still be interested

[lawliett]

Would you guys still be interested in a guy u liked if you found out he had a mental health condition (which is under control) or had self harm issues, would it completely put u off or feel that its too much to handle?

Most of us have some problems going on but some may be too complicated or obvious for people to ever give them a chance.

[nklarke]

It would be quite difficult to start a relationship in that situation but if we have already a relationship I'd try to help him, to show him my support.

[backjruton]

My condition clearly isn't under control and I don't want it to be either so I wouldn't be too picky on that as I'd have someone to relate to but the self harm issue... if they stopped and know they won't do it again and the cuts are cleared up I would but if not I would have to consider it because my mental health problems are a big enough handicap already :kitty:

[xxdrakeTxx]

wouldnt complicate things and if it was fixable as in selfharm id try to help but honestly a person is a person no matter what problems they have .

[NeuroTiger]

I'll happily be his friend. :)

[Cognizant]

This is going to sound really mean, and i blame it on the fact that I'm "too nice and trusting" to people, but every guy that I've dated has:
1) had a mental problem
2) cheated on me, betrayed me, had some severe insecurities or some trust issue that prevents me from having a healthy relationship to them.

i shouldn't let bad previous experiences hamper the possibility of being with other people, but from my experiences, dealing with people who expect me to give them all the help i can humanely provide but without receiving that in return is not fun, fair, or relaxing at all.

[ksdnfkfr]

Would you guys still be interested in a guy u liked if you found out he had a mental health condition (which is under control) or had self harm issues

No because then I would be dating myself aha.
Seriously though, would make no dif to me of course needless to say.

[Abyssal Echo]

wouldn't change anything. yes I'd still be interested

[Hermes96]

No my ex suffered from depression and he self harmed but i still fell for him and i still help him when i can

[ninja789]

as long as he was prepared to work through it
If he is too deep in then that becomes a problem
referring to SH here

in terms of mental condition I don't see why it isn't possible but it hasn't happened to me yet

[centropede]

Then i would be even more interested because then i wont let him out of my arms, wouldnt want him to get hurt <333

[JamesSuperBoy]

No problem for me -

[Wyatt 13]

Well dude I have a mild ADHD and I would not like 2b rejected for my condition.

[Nic0 Fiend]

Yea.. I would be there for them in their time of need and stuff and support them

[Landbuscus97]

As long as it's under control I would have no problem getting to know them :)

[Ainsleyshea]

yes if they love or who you are then no mater what they will love you

[Karkat]

This is going to sound really mean, and i blame it on the fact that I'm "too nice and trusting" to people, but every guy that I've dated has:
1) had a mental problem
2) cheated on me, betrayed me, had some severe insecurities or some trust issue that prevents me from having a healthy relationship to them.

i shouldn't let bad previous experiences hamper the possibility of being with other people, but from my experiences, dealing with people who expect me to give them all the help i can humanely provide but without receiving that in return is not fun, fair, or relaxing at all.

No, believe me, as someone who is mentally ill myself, I absolutely agree with you.

If you have to be the one doing all the work, it isn't worth it. It doesn't matter if you have schizophrenia, hell, if you want to be in a relationship, and you expect the other person to be your caretaker, and you walk all over them, you deserve to be kicked out on your fucking ass. Mentally ill or not.

I'm not going to lie, I definitely cause my boyfriend a fair share of grief, but I try my absolute hardest to be safe for him, and think of him first, and help him if he's going through a rough spot.

No because then I would be dating myself aha.
Seriously though, would make no dif to me of course needless to say.

(Lol I know, right?)

Then i would be even more interested because then i wont let him out of my arms, wouldnt want him to get hurt <333

Aw, that's sweet. I mean, becoming a codependant is never a good thing, but there's nothing wrong with being caring and protective.

My boyfriend is like that, and while I love getting extra attention when he's worried about me, it's also kind of a weird motivator to make sure I'm ok, and he knows it.


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Oh, right, my answer.

Anyways, being bipolar, ADHD, having GAD, OCD, PTSD, and panic disorder that are CONFIRMED, (and ASD/PDD, and dissociative amnesia that aren't)

Oh, and I'm also a self-harmer, I have been/am suicidal, an addict, etc.

I think needless to say, I can empathize with someone like that. The only thing I'd be worried about is setting them off, or biting off more than I could chew...Two very real possible outcomes...

[centropede]

Aw, that's sweet. I mean, becoming a codependant is never a good thing, but there's nothing wrong with being caring and protective.

But it's so sad that i have no one to worry and protect :(
Only this one boy, but he is just confusing me...

[Hollywood]

If I love someone, it means I love them for the good things and the bad. It wouldn't change a thing.

[phuckphace]

I could handle depression, but schizophrenia and especially SH would be off-putting. I can of course still be friends with someone dealing with those things, but as far as a relationship, I wouldn't go there.

[plebble]

Yes, I would

[steellord321]

I could only take it so far. Just like if i'm too deep in depression myself, i'm not looking for relationship. Guess who gets blamed if your boyfriend actually does self harm. So there's that to consider

They have to be seeking help or have some chance to get better. None of that hopeless crap

[Hey-Im-Connor]

i dont think it wud matter if i liked him before i found out.

[alliancerules]

My boyfriend cuts himself, I didn't know he did it until we had been together for a while.

I think if I knew he did that before I wouldn't have got involved because I don't know how to help him and im always scared I say something that makes him cut himself.

Its hard to just enjoy being together and having fun because im always worried what hes going to do and I don't know if its just too much to handle.

[backjruton]

I would probably be less likely to date someone who is "normal"

Most people in college get annoyed with me at one point or another I think because of the random stimming. Playing with coins is something I do every morning that certainly ticks some people off... Only one other person in my group, from what I know, has the common behavioral things I do and I can fully communicate with, as luckily she doesn't seem to be very verbal either. But I also don't want to be in a relationship as I've stated before because if you offend someone in a friendship.. not too much of a disaster; but I'm guessing relationships for that reason are worse.

Unhealthy weight I can put up with too if not "TOO" much; but like I think I said previously, cutting or any other habit that's damaging like drinking, drugs or smoking, I would really have to think more about as I don't do any of these things and I wouldn't be able to help them. It sucks for me sometimes knowing I will be the one that needs help in most cases.

[Blood]

For me, it would depend on his attitude towards the condition.

[JDubs]

If it's well under control, then yeah, as long as I'm not their crutch or feel like their full time counselor. But if it's not very well under control, then no, just because I'm not very good at working with people with issues, especially because I had depression myself, and I often find myself slipping back to it